Please guys & gals help me with this

[jpb40]

I'am a 43 yr old married male looking to tickle or be tickled. My wife is not into this at all. I sneak a tickle on here every chance I get but it don't last long and she don't like it. My question is are there any others out here like me in search of tickle fun with other females? and is it wrong. I'am not looking for sexual contact I just want to have some tickling fun nothing else. Guys am I barking up the wrong tree? I'am not going to tell her of my tickling experences if i hace any ladies is this wrong? am I alone. Please guys & gals give me some food for thought here.

Thanks New member.

 

[AcornaMordor]

*giggles softly* I know how you feel. I think most people know how you feel. I have friends (who are girls) that when I first began understanding the idea of this being a fetish, I was a little scared to tickle, thinking it might lead to some sort of lesbian craving or something, but now I know better and it's fun to make them shriek and laugh ^.^ I don't think you're weird for it, I know guys who tickle each other that aren't gay or anything, my fiance and his best friend, for example, both really big, muscular southern guys and really ticklish. *giggles again* 'Scuse me, gotta go start a three-way tickle fight!

 

[nytoetapper1]

Well, my only concern is that if you keep your desires and (if you're lucky) experiences from your wife, it could lead to problems. My wife doesn't like to be tickled (yet, but I maintain hope), but she knows all about my tickling. Secrets can kill a relationship. You should stop by my post in the Tickling Discussion section. It's called "Tickling - Erotic or Platonic". there is some discussion relating to the situation you're in.

Good luck, and take comfort in knowing that you're not alone.

 

[nessonite1]

I agree with ny, it's not something you want to keep a secret. Even if it isn't something she enjoys participating in, it is always best to be up front about it.
A three way tickle fight? Acorna I'll say it again, you are one lucky girl!

 

[jpb40]

thanks

So if I go to a strip club tickle the foot of a striper or tickle the foot of a female just playing that we go to church with its cheating??? if i don;t tell her????????

 

[nessonite1]

No I don't think it's cheating. I don't think we are talking on the same level here. I'm talking more of the big picture. In general I think your relationship will be stronger if you let your feelings be know. It's probably even better if you tell her that you feel you need to persue this activity outside your home. Honesty is the key here. Honesty and trust. You need to feel you can trust the woman you are married to with any aspect of your life. You will probably find her more acomodating if she knew. 🙂

 

[nytoetapper1]

Ness is right. It's not cheating, per se, but you need to consider how you would feel if you discovered a similar secret. Being up front and respecting your partner's feelings and wishes will keep your relationship tight.

If my wife was uncomfortable about me tickling other women, it's something I would never do again. I would yearn for it, but it's a decision as to what is more important to me. But you need to be honest and direct. I explained to my wife that I don't know why I like to tickle, but I do. And she is understanding. She actually prefers if I tickle others. But she also knows that I would never do anything to betray her trust in me.

Yopur wife may have some trouble understanding and/or dealing with the idea of you tickling/being tickled by others. If your relationship is strong, it should be ok. you may want to show her some of what has been said here, to help her understand.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I know...I'm married and I'm looking for what JP40's looking for...a tickling pal. No sex. No crap. Just hanging out, letting fingers do the walking, whiling away the afternoon. One day, I would like my wife to BE that tickling pal, but I think I might as well wait for the Cleveland Browns to call me when they need an extra middle linebacker...

 

[ticklemad]

I'm sat here reading this and thinking I need to get an air ticket or move to the US. I would crave to find guys and/or gals like you all over here. Someone who truly does want a platonic relationship, someone who you can be a pal with, grab a meal, few beers, maybe a video and just chill at each others feeling safe. Relax after a day out with yer feet in each others lap, knowing you'll get a foot massage, someone you can joke with, have that playful poke in the ribs or massage after a stressful day and if it tickles all the better, but you know that it wont go no further. A good chum on chum tickle fight, playful banter and no more. I'm married(he's a great ler, but I kinda like to get my own back too and he aint a lee, not one iota ticklish) I dont want or need sex with others, I have an abusive past ( a lot of it from tickling, but thats another story), what I want are pals I can trust and who can truly share with me that this can and is about mutual fun, trust and friendship. I'd love pals like you guys.

 

[Navelgazer1]

some help (maybe)

Its a problem many of us face. How many of us shut the feelings away? Lock em' tight? Too many. There are days when I just want to tickle. Plain and simple. I too would love it if it were my wife because I am very much in love (and lust) with her. She too is not into it. I remember a quote about eternal questions, this is one of them. All counsels might go ill is another quote, so I can argue for either avenue. Life is short. But would your wife be hurt or betrayed if she found out? Lord knows that I've been in that boat before. Despite that, i still feel the need...