Please read Me and my girlfriend are now through

[Mr.Teehehe]

I just couldn't take it anymore her life and her and her family's life is so messed up and alot more drama and chaos and still is messed up and on a roller coaster a million times that it was too much. Her family's issues is and was alot more on a daily basis then my family ever is. And believe me it's not like i didn't try my darnest and my best and my hardest to make things work for Us because i def did i really did i did so much. I wanted it to. I prayed and prayed to God about her ingeneral as well and her family and Us.

This is the longest Relationship i have had. But with the way she was acting theses last few weeks i should have seen it. To much changing of her mind on Us and on things involving Us it was to much going back and forth with her about Us like a yo yo. And my mind was set and focused and determined all along from day one since one for her and Us for me thier was never no going back and forth or changing my mind on the way that i felt about her and Us. Thier was too much of me giving to her more so then taking (yes i took) but it was more of me giving way more so then taking i was very equal about it thier was a balance.

My parents tell me that i deserve better. I had to take a walk after this to clear my mind. Then her then someone like that with the way she is and with the way her family is and thier issues and family problems (her Grandparents,her own parents etc) and not respecting My own Parents enough to even say thank you to them not once.

And she still told me that she Loves me very much at the end of everything as well and she is sorry if she hurt me.

It seems like every Relationship i have it is always me pouring my heart out and wearing my heart on my sleeve (which i do) and giving everything that i can give to that person even if it's just the little small things. And then it ends up always smashing right back into my face later on down the road. 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁

Thier was never no ''David you are a really great guy or your awesome or you are so caring and sweet and kind or you are the best etc'' none of that was said after it ended tonight. Expect for that she Loves me very much. And yet she still wants to be great friends. But it is always tough to be friends with theses things.

 

[the_jimmy_james]

She's nobody's friend. Good riddance, now change your phone number so she can't call.

 

[Fleet]

Be happy you even have a friend. I have none. I envy you. Maybe you can get back together with her one day if things get better. You didn't need her before you met her, you don't need her now.

Do you meet your girlfriends in bars and clubs? If so, I heard those places aren't good when it comes to finding the right person to have a relationship with. That is just what I heard, so I could be wrong.

 

[anon0907]

You will be kind of unstable for a while. How long depends on more variables than can be counted. Best advice;

Keep her and her drama out of your life.

Not as harsh as the advice sounds. You were talking about all the gut wrenching drama and stuff. Especially for the next few weeks or months you will be your own source of drama. You won't even notice that you are. Others may. I remember my divorce. A good lady friend told me I was "in flux". I thought I was fine. I shoulda listened to her. In other words, your un-noticed instability can be a source of big problems, so:

Keep her out of your life.

You gotta work on you.

Leastways that's what my experience says to me. I've never looked back, never let myself pine, never talked to her since, and I have no regrets about doing so.

You'll be alright if you give yourself plenty of time and breathing room.

CJ

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

Be happy you even have a friend. I have none. I envy you. Maybe you can get back together with her one day if things get better. You didn't need her before you met her, you don't need her now.

Do you meet your girlfriends in bars and clubs? If so, I heard those places aren't good when it comes to finding the right person to have a relationship with. That is just what I heard, so I could be wrong.

If things do work out then you know who knows only God can predict for her and me down the road one day. But for right now. All i know is that we're through. It was more so on her end with the way she is and with the way her family's issues are.

And no i don't drink or party or use and take drugs so nope i didn't met her or any girlfriend at a Bar or Club dance hall. Thoses are some of the most crazy and packed places to talk with people.

But thank you Fleet for the kind words of wisdom.

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

You will be kind of unstable for a while. How long depends on more variables than can be counted. Best advice;

Keep her and her drama out of your life.

Not as harsh as the advice sounds. You were talking about all the gut wrenching drama and stuff. Especially for the next few weeks or months you will be your own source of drama. You won't even notice that you are. Others may. I remember my divorce. A good lady friend told me I was "in flux". I thought I was fine. I shoulda listened to her. In other words, your un-noticed instability can be a source of big problems, so:

Keep her out of your life.

You gotta work on you.

Leastways that's what my experience says to me. I've never looked back, never let myself pine, never talked to her since, and I have no regrets about doing so.

You'll be alright if you give yourself plenty of time and breathing room.

CJ

I also have a great and good supportive friends and a tight knit family support group as well to talk things over with and help me through this and anything else that i might need or want to discuss and open up about and tell or ask. I got great supportive and loving parents.

So thank you for all of the kind words gadlilici and your warming words of advice also. And i'm sorry as well to hear about your Divorce that must have been very tough but it sounds like your doing great now and survived it and grew and strengthed from it.

Take care

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

I know it stings, my friend. But the pain will pass. You've made the right choice. I hope things look better for you soon.

 

[melanie2]

Be happy you even have a friend. I have none. I envy you. Maybe you can get back together with her one day if things get better. You didn't need her before you met her, you don't need her now.

Do you meet your girlfriends in bars and clubs? If so, I heard those places aren't good when it comes to finding the right person to have a relationship with. That is just what I heard, so I could be wrong.

ah...if you have one friend only..you are a rich person..surely you have some online friends? send me a pm....most of my friends are online..

and i would go with the James man on this one..

 

[tff69]

I'm going thru a big one too my friend. My wife called me an "Idiot" today, and I have never called her a name in my entire relationship with her. She asked me if I wanted a divorce cause she wants to be #1 in my life 24/7, over my job, over my family, over EVERYTHING. Not to take steam away from your situation, and I wish you the best. I just want you to know, there are us out there who go thru it too. Here for ya, guy!

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

I'm going thru a big one too my friend. My wife called me an "Idiot" today, and I have never called her a name in my entire relationship with her. She asked me if I wanted a divorce cause she wants to be #1 in my life 24/7, over my job, over my family, over EVERYTHING. Not to take steam away from your situation, and I wish you the best. I just want you to know, there are us out there who go thru it too. Here for ya, guy!

Thank you tffan69. Thanks for the advice and words and kind thoughts and also about your situation i will be praying for you also as well and be in my thoughts over your situation. Only time will tell and only God can know how all of this will play out and how it will work out down the road and down the line.

 

[melanie2]

i'm going to reply even though you don't seem to read my posts..it takes two to make a relationship work..if she isn't willing to do that, you need to find someone who will be willing..it's not all take take take..it's an equal thing with take, give, take, give, take, give...i believe i'm rather an expert at this having just celebrated thirty years of marriage to the same guy...

 

[Cbarton]

I'm proud of you for making a very hard decision, TeeHee. The Lord has the right lady for you out there, He'll lead you to her. Good relationships are give AND take, and it sounded like she was all take and no give. Also, be sure the strings are cut and STAY cut. Don't let her try to stir old emotions to pull you back in (oldest trick in the book).

Still praying for you...you'll make it through...

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

I'm proud of you for making a very hard decision, TeeHee. The Lord has the right lady for you out there, He'll lead you to her. Good relationships are give AND take, and it sounded like she was all take and no give. Also, be sure the strings are cut and STAY cut. Don't let her try to stir old emotions to pull you back in (oldest trick in the book).

Still praying for you...you'll make it through...

I would love to tell her straight up how i feel one last time and tell her all of the stuff she has put me through now but she'll just twist it all around and spin it back onto me again and twist everything that i do say to her into her own words. But i know that wouldn't solve anything or do much of any or little good.

So thank you kyhawkeye i am still going through things and trying to regroup and regather myself with all of this everything every bit of it. So thank you greatly so much for all of the prayers.

 

[Cbarton]

Just recognizing that it would do nothing is a great sign on how you have matured from this...

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

Just recognizing that it would do nothing is a great sign on how you have matured from this...

This still just royaly sucks though. I was soo happy for over 2 years and I thought that She was also we were? And then bam all of a sudden with in a few weeks or so. All of this happens a snow ball effect.

But i still wish her the best in whatever i really do. She tossed away and pushed a great guy away in me. All because she couldn't take it anymore with her life and with all of the issues and problems that her family causes as well. It's Her Loss.

If her last boyfriend before me either dumped her or she dumped him. I don't know which way it was. But either way she will never change her ways of playing the mind games and being manipulative. If it was with me. And her last boyfriend (although i don't know that for sure). Then it's going to continue no matter if she is called out on it or not.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

I just couldn't take it anymore her life and her and her family's life is so messed up and alot more drama and chaos and still is messed up and on a roller coaster a million times that it was too much. Her family's issues is and was alot more on a daily basis then my family ever is. And believe me it's not like i didn't try my darnest and my best and my hardest to make things work for Us because i def did i really did i did so much. I wanted it to. I prayed and prayed to God about her ingeneral as well and her family and Us.

This is the longest Relationship i have had. But with the way she was acting theses last few weeks i should have seen it. To much changing of her mind on Us and on things involving Us it was to much going back and forth with her about Us like a yo yo. And my mind was set and focused and determined all along from day one since one for her and Us for me thier was never no going back and forth or changing my mind on the way that i felt about her and Us. Thier was too much of me giving to her more so then taking (yes i took) but it was more of me giving way more so then taking i was very equal about it thier was a balance.

My parents tell me that i deserve better. I had to take a walk after this to clear my mind. Then her then someone like that with the way she is and with the way her family is and thier issues and family problems (her Grandparents,her own parents etc) and not respecting My own Parents enough to even say thank you to them not once.

And she still told me that she Loves me very much at the end of everything as well and she is sorry if she hurt me.

It seems like every Relationship i have it is always me pouring my heart out and wearing my heart on my sleeve (which i do) and giving everything that i can give to that person even if it's just the little small things. And then it ends up always smashing right back into my face later on down the road. 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁

Thier was never no ''David you are a really great guy or your awesome or you are so caring and sweet and kind or you are the best etc'' none of that was said after it ended tonight. Expect for that she Loves me very much. And yet she still wants to be great friends. But it is always tough to be friends with theses things.

I am so sorry this has happened to you and you ARE a good guy for trying so hard to help her and her family but sometimes a family is so messed up that there really is no fixing the situation without somebody getting hurt or mad in the end because you really can't please everybody.I am sure you did your best and gave 100% but sometimes no matter how hard you try if the other person's heart isn't in it there is nothing you can do and you have to say good-bye for your own sanity and health.SOmetimes there is no helping some people because they are so far gone that even if you were able to shed a little light it wouldn't be enough to show them where the end of the tunnel is and you'll just end up gettting weighed down and maybe sucked into all the mess yourself.I know it hurts but in the end it was probably for the best.

 

[AdamN]

Sorry to hear you're going through a breakup. They're never fun, though it sounds like you did the right thing. People with a bunch of drama always turn it loose on their significant other. It sounds like she's got a lot of work to do if she ever wants to have a stable relationship. As some who has gone through this same exact thing, use this time to clear your thoughts and definitely do not let her into your head.

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

Sorry to hear you're going through a breakup. They're never fun, though it sounds like you did the right thing. People with a bunch of drama always turn it loose on their significant other. It sounds like she's got a lot of work to do if she ever wants to have a stable relationship. As some who has gone through this same exact thing, use this time to clear your thoughts and definitely do not let her into your head.

Thank you AdamN for all of the support and kind words. Yeah it is always tough and they are never fun. But it's getting alittle bit better even though she was playing her mind games with me etc. I still wish her all of the best and i am still praying for her. Life is up's and down's and any kind of Relationship is diffcult no matter what kind it is but it's comforting to know that people have been in my shoes. So i thank you.

 

[Mr.Teehehe]

I am so sorry this has happened to you and you ARE a good guy for trying so hard to help her and her family but sometimes a family is so messed up that there really is no fixing the situation without somebody getting hurt or mad in the end because you really can't please everybody.I am sure you did your best and gave 100% but sometimes no matter how hard you try if the other person's heart isn't in it there is nothing you can do and you have to say good-bye for your own sanity and health.SOmetimes there is no helping some people because they are so far gone that even if you were able to shed a little light it wouldn't be enough to show them where the end of the tunnel is and you'll just end up gettting weighed down and maybe sucked into all the mess yourself.I know it hurts but in the end it was probably for the best.

It's okay thank you QueenBeeBeeMari as well for your kind words and support. But luckly i'm not alone in this (with THIS THREAD) we all have been through or most of us have anyways been through bad and seedy Relationship's so that's always comforting to know for support. So again i thank you kindly.