I love tickling, yet it comes with a price. I am tired of hiding everything......yet I am scared to tell people for fear that they will abandon me. It kinda makes you feel trapped......due to this I have tried to end my love for tickling. I have found out quick that that is impossible. I think it is because for me, tickling is purley sexual. I am very depressed about this and would like to know what some of the great people here at the TMF think. 😕
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Problems With Tickling
- Thread starter Krokus
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Hey bro!!
All you really need to do is relax a little bit. Some of my friends know about my fetish, and it's really not a problem. If someone is really your friend they won't look at you any differantly. Although I don't think it's appropriate to shout it from the roof tops and share it with every person I meet, some people whom I truly trust know of it. If I feel comfortable enough with the person asking I'll tell them the truth. I know it gets really tricky when it comes to a member of the fairer sex. Yet when you get deeply involved with someone who truly digs you for the sheer fact that your just yourself, telling them really is the best thing for you. Whether they hate being tickled or not, they will find a way to work with you. Hope this helps you out man.
All you really need to do is relax a little bit. Some of my friends know about my fetish, and it's really not a problem. If someone is really your friend they won't look at you any differantly. Although I don't think it's appropriate to shout it from the roof tops and share it with every person I meet, some people whom I truly trust know of it. If I feel comfortable enough with the person asking I'll tell them the truth. I know it gets really tricky when it comes to a member of the fairer sex. Yet when you get deeply involved with someone who truly digs you for the sheer fact that your just yourself, telling them really is the best thing for you. Whether they hate being tickled or not, they will find a way to work with you. Hope this helps you out man.
both my brother and is girlfriend know about my fetish, and because they have a similar one themselves they generally keep their nose out and accept it.
my best friend also knows, i told him because it was easyer that was and i trust him to know.
i would never consider abandoning the fetish, in the end - you can always keep it totally to yourself? but i wouldnt recomend it that way.
my best friend also knows, i told him because it was easyer that was and i trust him to know.
i would never consider abandoning the fetish, in the end - you can always keep it totally to yourself? but i wouldnt recomend it that way.
mysterytic
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I have had the same problem, that is why I make sure all females of interest know about it. Some were slightly accomodating, some were totally turned off, and two were good tickle relationships. I try not to suppress the feelings, but am comfortable with the secretative aspects. I share my feelings only with women of interest, that has been my relief valve. You may find the same as I, that I do not need approval from my friends, family. Good Luck!!!
magic fingers
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I've also struggled w/my love of tickling, and my love of female feet. I even saw a therapist a few times, because I was convinced there was something seriously wrong with me! He told me that, as fetishes go, tickling, and foot fetishes are fairly common. He said my problem was not the tickling, or foot fetishes, but the SHAME I had, about the fetishes. Considering that there the world's full of pedofiles, necrophiliacs, and people even attracted to animals, tickling is relatively healthy, and harmless. If you still think there's something wrong w/you, I suggest you watch "Jerry Springer" sometime. Now those people really need help!
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Yes I think it's wrong to be shameful about your sexual interests. Not "wrong" in any grand spiritual, holy sense, but rather it's simply not productive.
Your tickling interests makes you a very special individual. It will set you apart from other males, and will eventually help in endearing you in the eyes of the one that will love you most. I know it did in my case.
In fact, in many cases, your love of tickling can be used as an asset. In my experience with the fairer sex, many are very interested in being kinky and trying new things sexually, but many of the kinky things out there are kind of scary or just plain gross to someone just putting their toes into the water, so to speak. Luckily tickling is just tame enough to be fun and kinky at the same time 🙂
Your tickling interests makes you a very special individual. It will set you apart from other males, and will eventually help in endearing you in the eyes of the one that will love you most. I know it did in my case.
In fact, in many cases, your love of tickling can be used as an asset. In my experience with the fairer sex, many are very interested in being kinky and trying new things sexually, but many of the kinky things out there are kind of scary or just plain gross to someone just putting their toes into the water, so to speak. Luckily tickling is just tame enough to be fun and kinky at the same time 🙂
*chuckles to himself*
Magic is right. Watch Jerry Springer... it will
help you realize just how 'normal' a foot fetish
REALLY is!!
Krokus, my friend, do not fret. As I have said in
nearly every post on here so far, this is nothing
wrong with having a foot or tickling fetish. A
wise man once said 'there is nothing to fear but
fear itself.' That man perhaps never met Freddy
Kruegar, or those weird children from the Corn
Field, but his point is sound enough. Just relax.
Some people probably won't accept your fetish as
normal, some probably will. The truth is that most
of us have fetishes, and desires, things about us
that we tend to keep hidden, that we're ashamed of
and don't want to mention to others.
Again, going back to my own beloved, I used the
straight-forward approach. I told her about my
fetishes from day one, and though she thought it
a bit odd, and she personally HATED to be tickled,
I perservered, and gently, and patiently, showed
her hos much fun it could be. In time, it became
a fetish of hers as well. And of the two of us,
HER fetishes were the stranger, and darker. I
won't go into those, but suffice it to say, it
helped things a lot that we were both in love with
one another, and willing to be open-minded about
what the other liked.
The moral? Don't reject your nature. Embrace it.
You may not get EVERYONE to accept it, but if
the ones you know and care about truly do care,
they'll be open-minded enough at least to let you
show or explain why it appeals to you so much.
J-dark
Magic is right. Watch Jerry Springer... it will
help you realize just how 'normal' a foot fetish
REALLY is!!
Krokus, my friend, do not fret. As I have said in
nearly every post on here so far, this is nothing
wrong with having a foot or tickling fetish. A
wise man once said 'there is nothing to fear but
fear itself.' That man perhaps never met Freddy
Kruegar, or those weird children from the Corn
Field, but his point is sound enough. Just relax.
Some people probably won't accept your fetish as
normal, some probably will. The truth is that most
of us have fetishes, and desires, things about us
that we tend to keep hidden, that we're ashamed of
and don't want to mention to others.
Again, going back to my own beloved, I used the
straight-forward approach. I told her about my
fetishes from day one, and though she thought it
a bit odd, and she personally HATED to be tickled,
I perservered, and gently, and patiently, showed
her hos much fun it could be. In time, it became
a fetish of hers as well. And of the two of us,
HER fetishes were the stranger, and darker. I
won't go into those, but suffice it to say, it
helped things a lot that we were both in love with
one another, and willing to be open-minded about
what the other liked.
The moral? Don't reject your nature. Embrace it.
You may not get EVERYONE to accept it, but if
the ones you know and care about truly do care,
they'll be open-minded enough at least to let you
show or explain why it appeals to you so much.
J-dark
As I've recently learned in harsh experience, this is a tricky topic to tackle. I agree whole-heartedly with everyone else, that you should in no way feel shame because of your interest in tickling as a sexual activity. Nor should you feel compelled to hide it from people. However, it's important to remember that while unburdening yourself to your loved ones is probably very healthy, disclosing too much can make them uncomfortable. Just as you wouldn't disclose every detail of your sexual activities to certain people, neither should you go on about tickling to the point where people might feel uncomfortable about their knowledge of your kink. After all, tickling is a public activity, and even your loved ones might not feel comfortable in your presence if you're tickling someone or witness someone being tickled, since they know how you interpret the act. That is my greatest concern in how/when/to whom I divulge my interest.
The important thing to remember is that those closest to you will accept you in spite of any idiosyncracy, as you should accept yourself. But when you feel you need to discuss tickle-related matters at length, well, that's why certain great individuals were put on the planet to create the TMF!🙂
The important thing to remember is that those closest to you will accept you in spite of any idiosyncracy, as you should accept yourself. But when you feel you need to discuss tickle-related matters at length, well, that's why certain great individuals were put on the planet to create the TMF!🙂
Don't worry... be happy
Krokus,
Wow, the similarities. I am also 22. I also live in Dallas. I also wanted to get away from all this at one point. Maybe we should have lunch 😀
Anyway, I must agree with what's been said here so far. I understand it's easier said than done, but I don't think you oughta be ashamed of coming out of the TK closet!
Does your rock band know about this? I don't personally know you, but I would think they'd be some of the people you'd like to tell the earliest. Just be careful and keep an open attitude; hopefully this will influence those around you to do that as well. Good Luck! 🙂
Latin_Boy
Krokus,
Wow, the similarities. I am also 22. I also live in Dallas. I also wanted to get away from all this at one point. Maybe we should have lunch 😀
Anyway, I must agree with what's been said here so far. I understand it's easier said than done, but I don't think you oughta be ashamed of coming out of the TK closet!
Does your rock band know about this? I don't personally know you, but I would think they'd be some of the people you'd like to tell the earliest. Just be careful and keep an open attitude; hopefully this will influence those around you to do that as well. Good Luck! 🙂
Latin_Boy
Man,I can relate...I have one sibling, a couple local friends, and those that I deal with online & at gatherings that know about this in me.
I stewed about it for a LONG time, and now it doesn't bother me that much. I have enough people who know, and that I can talk to about it, and I also have this wonderful secret life that makes me smile a lot at work when I think about it and makes folks wonder "Now, what the heck is SHE so happy about????"
Seriously, though, the people that know have been VERY supportive, and interested, and while there are still some people I would never fess up to, I realize that the number I CAN tell are beginning to far outweigh the ones I feel that I can't.
Does that make sense?
Kimmie
I stewed about it for a LONG time, and now it doesn't bother me that much. I have enough people who know, and that I can talk to about it, and I also have this wonderful secret life that makes me smile a lot at work when I think about it and makes folks wonder "Now, what the heck is SHE so happy about????"
Seriously, though, the people that know have been VERY supportive, and interested, and while there are still some people I would never fess up to, I realize that the number I CAN tell are beginning to far outweigh the ones I feel that I can't.
Does that make sense?
Kimmie
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Hi Krokus.
I read your post, then read what everyone said to you, then went back up and read your post again.
You feel trapped, it's an overwhelming secret inside that's threatening to come out, and you're afraid of the consequences when it does.
Judging by the number of posts you have under your belt at TMF, I feel sure that you've expressed and discussed many facets of The Great Tickling Fetish with the resevoir of appreciators here, literally thousands of people.
So.
It's not that you have no outlet where you can let your tickling self be you, it must be that you ONLY have this online community to hold your confidence. Have you been to any of the TK gatherings? (I'll tell you right now, they're fun.) Do that, for sure, so that you meet people IN PERSON and feel the human connection. It's important to you, I can tell. It'll restore balance between your everyday world and your online persona, which have diverged too far and are now driving you nuts.
Short of making human friends (not just cyberfriends) with other tickle fans, the best thing you could do is confide in a close friend of yours. Once someone you can trust, and with whom you have REAL interactions, knows about this side of your life, you'll feel much better.
Please don't let it drive you insane, Krokus. Take it out of the computer, where it's been cooking for too long, and place it, balanced and sane, into your daily life. Et voila! Happy thriving Krokus!
BoomBoom
I read your post, then read what everyone said to you, then went back up and read your post again.
You feel trapped, it's an overwhelming secret inside that's threatening to come out, and you're afraid of the consequences when it does.
Judging by the number of posts you have under your belt at TMF, I feel sure that you've expressed and discussed many facets of The Great Tickling Fetish with the resevoir of appreciators here, literally thousands of people.
So.
It's not that you have no outlet where you can let your tickling self be you, it must be that you ONLY have this online community to hold your confidence. Have you been to any of the TK gatherings? (I'll tell you right now, they're fun.) Do that, for sure, so that you meet people IN PERSON and feel the human connection. It's important to you, I can tell. It'll restore balance between your everyday world and your online persona, which have diverged too far and are now driving you nuts.
Short of making human friends (not just cyberfriends) with other tickle fans, the best thing you could do is confide in a close friend of yours. Once someone you can trust, and with whom you have REAL interactions, knows about this side of your life, you'll feel much better.
Please don't let it drive you insane, Krokus. Take it out of the computer, where it's been cooking for too long, and place it, balanced and sane, into your daily life. Et voila! Happy thriving Krokus!
BoomBoom
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Unusual...
Agreeing with everyone is not a common thing for me to do, but in this case, it seems everybody has spoken accuratly...you just need to relax and let it out, let people know about your love of tickling. Now I don't mean you need to paste a sign to your forehead, or even straight up tell people. After all, actions speak louder than words. It seems as though I have it a bit easier than a lot of folks, because for me, tickling is 100% non-sexual - it's just a hell of a lot of fun. Nevertheless, sexual or not, open or not, ya gotta find an outlet for your desires. This place is a great one - there are a lot more out there, too (so I hear 😉)
And hey, feel free to take all or none of this advice - after all, it's not like I'm using it. 😛 😀
Agreeing with everyone is not a common thing for me to do, but in this case, it seems everybody has spoken accuratly...you just need to relax and let it out, let people know about your love of tickling. Now I don't mean you need to paste a sign to your forehead, or even straight up tell people. After all, actions speak louder than words. It seems as though I have it a bit easier than a lot of folks, because for me, tickling is 100% non-sexual - it's just a hell of a lot of fun. Nevertheless, sexual or not, open or not, ya gotta find an outlet for your desires. This place is a great one - there are a lot more out there, too (so I hear 😉)
And hey, feel free to take all or none of this advice - after all, it's not like I'm using it. 😛 😀
