Purpose Driven

[jj82277]

In hopes to spark conversation, i have a question?

What is your purpose for being on this thread. My purpose on this thread is to hopefully find a more concentrated pool of candidates for my future wife, nothing less. I would be interested to hear some of the other stories here.

I personally feel that with this venue we have a responsibility to ourselves and our future partners to maxamize this site and others to find people of like kind.

And in the spirit of SHAMELESS self promotion http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?p=1642616#post1642616

 

[FeatheryOctopi]

Well, I have never met anyone from this site in person, but was given an invitation to a gathering, so yes it's possible to meet people through the site. It took me a while, I've been part of the online tickling community for a long time, but patience is a virtue.

 

[Whacky Macky]

I find it interesting you are looking for future wives here, although I suppose you'd be correct in making sexual compatibility high on the list of priorities for candidates.

I just look for people of the opposite sex to talk to, so I know they're out there...

 

[jj82277]

I find it interesting you are looking for future wives here, although I suppose you'd be correct in making sexual compatibility high on the list of priorities for candidates.

I just look for people of the opposite sex to talk to, so I know they're out there...

for me i personally believe that outside of religious agreement sexual compatability is the highest of all priorities. you can figure out a movie to watch.

Me personaly i really never understand the idea of talking in a group of like minded individuals who share core beliefs and values and then running out to date a vanilla?

I mean from a CLINICAL standpoint i understand the concept of compartmentalizing sexuality, self doubt, low self esteem, percieved societal norms, etc. but i made the concious decision that this is me, this is the me that i want to be, and i know that i will not be happy unles i find someone of like mind to share my passion in all ofher shrieking laughing glory.

 

[Whacky Macky]

Ah, but then you mean to imply you hold little faith in converting a vanilla, should you fall in love with one?

Again, from my personal experience, I've met with two very receptive to the concept, and one who didn't understand but was happy enough to indulge me.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Ah, but then you mean to imply you hold little faith in converting a vanilla, should you fall in love with one?

Again, from my personal experience, I've met with two very receptive to the concept, and one who didn't understand but was happy enough to indulge me.

Those are very good points 🙂)) and it's always been my own personal experience you find that someone when and where you're totally not looking.

 

[CrystalLight]

Don't forget as well, that posting in Gatherings/Personals won't always secure yourself a lady/man. Get out there and engage in the other aspects of the forum as well.

You never know what conversation you could spark up with somebody.

And then, who knows? 🙂

 

[jj82277]

Ah, but then you mean to imply you hold little faith in converting a vanilla, should you fall in love with one?

Again, from my personal experience, I've met with two very receptive to the concept, and one who didn't understand but was happy enough to indulge me.

we are talkign about deep seeded core belief systems and physical responses to the sex drive. no i do not believe in the concept of converting a vanilla. if a person is open to the concept of tickling then they are not what i consider a vanilla. the spectrum for our fetish and all fetishes is infinite. certain people respond to or are first exposed to certain stimuli at different points and in different ways, but i fundamentally believe that the core inherent predisposition has been constant from birth and that externalities are more temporal than anything and don't really give genesis to a singularity (although they can play a huge role in the maturity of expression).

that is why i believe that the primary goal of people on this thread should be to develop the tools necessary to facilitate longterm COMPATABLE relationships with people who share their interests or at least be open about it enough so that they can find someone on the outside who has a similar proclivity or can work towards it based on interests they are discovering.

this is a very abstract concept that i have a lot of conviction on. that is why i posted the thread. it makes no sense to me why we all come here to get jollies off and then have to complain about being in relationships with people who don't UNDERSTAND us. i think that we can make much better use of this venue that was not permitted to so many before us.

 

[Whacky Macky]

we are talkign about deep seeded core belief systems and physical responses to the sex drive.

I must respectfully disagree. All psychosexual evidence seems to point towards a partner becoming sexually charged towards something that excites their lover, so long as it is not incomprehensible or unpleasant for them. To this day, my ex of five years admits to erotic feelings when she is tickled, and she was a complete and total vanilla. While I agree that we have attachments to the fetish - you and I will never not be turned on by tickling - we can make some change for the good in our partners.

this is a very abstract concept that i have a lot of conviction on. that is why i posted the thread. it makes no sense to me why we all come here to get jollies off and then have to complain about being in relationships with people who don't UNDERSTAND us. i think that we can make much better use of this venue that was not permitted to so many before us.

I cannot agree more. But I hold more faith for our vanilla friends.

 

[dvnc]

Pipin' up to support the reality of converts. People who weren't into this will get into this after a lover introduces in along with actual gratification and/or positive sentiment. Converted some. Met converts. Played with 'em. They're quite good. 🙂

 

[Whacky Macky]

Converted some. Met converts. Played with 'em. They're quite good. 🙂

The best, in some cases!

 

[jj82277]

I must respectfully disagree. All psychosexual evidence seems to point towards a partner becoming sexually charged towards something that excites their lover, so long as it is not incomprehensible or unpleasant for them. To this day, my ex of five years admits to erotic feelings when she is tickled, and she was a complete and total vanilla. While I agree that we have attachments to the fetish - you and I will never not be turned on by tickling - we can make some change for the good in our partners.





I cannot agree more. But I hold more faith for our vanilla friends.

i am not that far off from you. all that i am sayign is that a person who derives moderate sexual excitement from being tickled toplease their partner is not what i would consider a complete vanilla. i think that they would be better termed neutral.

what i am saying is that for a lot of people tickign is a HARD limit.

and to a deeper level, there is an inherent cross section of compatability that needs to exist for real compromist sexually to occur. like lets say that i like to tickle torture a woman while she is tied blindfolded and gagged and i like to spank her if she laughs too much... if i meet a girl who just doesn't lieke to be gagged but digs everything else to my same intensity level then we can compromise.

however if i meet a girl who can take foot tickling for 30 seconds just to keep me happy then in the longrun i think that there will be inherent feelings of sexual lack...

and we can agree to disagree, but a vanilla is called a vanilla for a reason. it makes no sense at least to me to date and or marry someone that you have substanitive sexual incompatability with.