Question for the Moderators (*/M tickling)

[Cheshire Cat]

Think there would be any chance of eventually adding a male tickling section to this Forum? I dont mean a whole area with sub-sections (images, discussion, etc.) just a single message board for anything in this category. I've noticed a whole lot of people here hinting that they like */M tickling as well as the rest (including me) and probably a lot more who have it as a major preference. Yet if anyone even talks about it they seem to be immediately blasted out of the sky and quite violently I might add. Seem to remember similar things going down at AMT. For some reason people in this community are even more uncomfortable and intolerant with the male stuff then most "vanilla" people are, mostly because a lot more people dont even see this as a sexual fetish persay and it IS nearly entirely sexual in the */M realm. It is a major part of this community and in fact they are much more active offline then the */F people are (and have a much easier time finding tickling buddies too!) I myself frequent the NY male foot/tickling parties on occasion and let me tell you they know how to have a good time! LOL. We already know that there are a ton of people who love F/M tickling but theres no where to see it here!

A lot of people immediately think negatively and argue about "letting that kind of element" into the forum, but no offense to anyone else but we already have a good supply of freaks and pervs here ourselves. (Many a female poster being to open will tell you straight out the kind of feedback they got) I'm sure a lot of the misconceptions are based on the darker stories like genital tickling/abuse, EXTREME bondage with tickle torture and S&M and "Milking & Denial" but who says we have to have that? Set some ground rules for posting like the other sections. Most of the people I've met into this (like most gay guys I've met) were pretty damn polite and gracious with each other and others curious about it. Give it some consideration or maybe even have people vote on it to see if theres enough of a demand for such a thing. Thank you for your time....

(please dont let this become a flame war post...if it does I'll just delete the original message and forget I said anything...)

 

[BellaRisa]

Right on

I'm a huge supporter of */M material, and it would be lovely to have an area on the TMF for fans like me. This has been a safe haven for ticklephiles who don't wish to hide who they are and what they like, and there are many, many of us who would appreciate a tiny corner of our own Thanks!

Bella

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Hey Bella!

Hey get this, my growing fandom of the */M scene is contributed mostly to the fact that....well.....I've discovered the joys of also being a ticklee! So if we ever do cross paths again...well you get the picture... 😀 (still cringe remembering the sounds eminating from Max's bedroom when you had that guy tied at that one NEST gathering...think it was 99...)

I just signed my own death warrant didnt I? LOL!

And if you moderators do decide to go ahead with this, you can be assured that I will be a regular contributor to the section, might even do some artwork or stories specifically for it...(hell let me know if you guys need help moderating it! I've been around long enough in several incarnations since about 93-94')

 

[TicklingDuo]

I seem to recall this having been asked before, though I may be wrong. Maybe one way around the matter is to label threads as */M when starting them...as is done in the images section. Then, those who don't want to take part in it don't have to.

just my 2 cents

Ann

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Yeah I gues....

I seem to recall this having been asked before, though I may be wrong. Maybe one way around the matter is to label threads as */M when starting them...as is done in the images section. Then, those who don't want to take part in it don't have to.

just my 2 cents

Ann

But is accidently landing on it really that big of a deal? So many people think that by accidently opening a */M oriented post that they've somehow been decieved and usually have "no other choice" then to repond with a nasty follow-up. Just move along if you dont like what you see....then again the whole "Slowing down for the car wreck" mentality does tend to come into play here too. Usually the people who respond the most negatively are those who really are drawn to it and that scares the shit out of them and their hetero egos....

Although the */M label is very useful, it also draws in those who love nothing more then to keep the status quo nice and narrow-minded...and too keep "the damn queers" out of here. Those who really "don't want to take part" never do, its those that enjoy instegating and causing trouble then claim "they didnt want to take part" are the real problem.....possibly a new section seperated may help matters. (wow...lookit that...segregation all over again..)

 

[Myriads]

The policy on */m material is simple, and an issue that we put some thought into.

First up we will not create a specific */m forum. Segragation of material by gender is not something we desire to do. It implies that the material NEEDS segragation for some reason. It doesn't.

We feel that a clear label in a posts heading (f/f, f/m, m/f. m/m) is the optimal solution. It allows users to know what lies ahead, and if they still click upon it, they have no excuse to bitch about 'offense'. So just put the right header on your posts and all will be well.

Myriads

 

[qjakal]

Violence?

"I've noticed a whole lot of people here hinting that they like */M tickling as well as the rest (including me) and probably a lot more who have it as a major preference. Yet if anyone even talks about it they seem to be immediately blasted out of the sky and quite violently I might add. Seem to remember similar things going down at AMT."

*/M posts have the same protection that all posts on the TMF enjoy. if you have a problem at any time, feel free to report the post per the rules of the Forum. Please don't invoke the AMT lightly, Chesire...it's everything we Mods work to prevent.

Q

 

[BellaRisa]

Good point

Thank you for clarifying, Myriads. I was under the impression that */M was considered too controversial for the rest of the forum, or that there had been major strife when it was introduced in the past. If it's as welcome as everything else then I agree, it doesn't need it's own specific space anymore than */F. I would like to see more of it, though, guess I'll go create some Chesire, how 'bout some artwork?

Bella

 

[doseone]

I agree

I think there is a great majority out there that is interested in /m tickling material. The only thing I can suggest as I'm mainly a lurker is just be sure to label all of your post's that contain a male being tickled with the classic m/m or f/m symbols as not only will it help people like me who enjoy it find it easier but also be easier for people who don't want to see it just avoid the post altogether. Honestly I don't think there's as much problem here as there are in AMT as far as /m material, it's just a matter of people posting it. If your interested you can always do a poll to see how many people are interested in /m orientated material and from there start posting based on the general response. Anyway just my .02 on the issue.

 

[kurchatovium]

I think if you label the thread f/m everything would be fine. I have not encountered any nastiness towards f/m material here. On the AMT there was a lot of nastiness and ugliness. We are are not anywhere close to that level on the TMF. I love f/m, f/f and m/f stuff all equally and have never had any problems expressing myself about f/m stuff. I hope there are more threads that open up on f/m topics.

 

[Strelnikov]

This forum started off as strictly a */f site, and that's still what most of us want to see. The policy posted earlier by Myriads is the result of an earlier thread on this topic. Label your posts */m, I'll label mine */f, we can each find what we want and avoid what we don't, and everyone's happy.

Strelnikov

 

[siamese dream]

I think if this is the 'tickling media forum', we should see all sorts of tickling interests and to be open to it... personally, I like all aspects of tickling, f/m, m/f, f/f, m/m... m/f is great but it gets old to me sometimes, I'd almost rather see a good m/m or f/m scene than the same old m/f stuff and over again. Variety is the freakin' spice of life.

yeah, probably the best answer is to label the posts accordingly. Has anyone else noticed how very little m/m material is ever posted here? I wonder if it's because the m/m people feel weird posting here among the many people who would not be open to their particular interest, and would rather stick to strictly m/m sites like ropejock.com or footfriends.com. I think it would be nice to see a diverse representation of different tickling interests. I most definitely wouldn't find any of it offensive. Tickling is good in all ways. 🙂

 

[Deleted member 2452]

i love f/m

that was the first thread i responded to here at tmf (i think).
i was blasted right away! mistress mia came to my defense, and said she wanted more of it also.
i'm not a fan of m/m, and would skip over those, but to each his own. the thing that always made me scratch my head in wonder over at amt, and here, was when guys would maintain that f/m was "gay", but that f/f was "straight". talk about warped?! how is a woman and a man engaging is physical contact, and becoming aroused a homosexual act? but these people would state that is was inharently (sp?). maybe you understand that, but i don't...
so, more f/m please!
steve

 

[milagros317]

The policy on */m material is simple, and an issue that we put some thought into.

First up we will not create a specific */m forum. Segragation of material by gender is not something we desire to do. It implies that the material NEEDS segragation for some reason. It doesn't.

We feel that a clear label in a posts heading (f/f, f/m, m/f. m/m) is the optimal solution. It allows users to know what lies ahead, and if they still click upon it, they have no excuse to bitch about 'offense'. So just put the right header on your posts and all will be well.

Myriads

Thank you, Myriads. I have posted eleven stories, all except the first labeled F/m in the title. I have never received a single nasty response. The "clear label" policy works very well.

As a reader, I can see at a glance if somebody else has posted an f/m story, which is useful when you see a new author.

I have also sometimes warned readers of other interests that will be found in the story, e.g. "This story contains spanking and foot worship as well as F/m tickling." Anybody who goes on to read it knows what to expect. Long live truth in labeling. 🙂

 

[tklr5150]

I think the rare m/m post I've seen on the forum has usually been ignored altogether and quickly pushed off the page, with the exception of some of the mainstream web finds in the image section which are often thrown into the mix with some other pics. I have perused and talked with people from /m sites, and a lot of them have either never heard of us or didn't find much here to interest them. It's doubtful /m tickling will ever gain as much popularity here as /f, but as long as we stick with the clearly-labeled policy and no one steps on any toes, I think we'll keep going smoothly. Incidentally, the clear labels are also helpful to those of us who enjoy all styles, because it makes it easier to find whichever kind you're in the mood for at a given moment.

 

[giggledude]

Gee, there goes my pronounless story about the adventures of Pat and Chris from Saturday Night Live.

Seriously, though, I have noticed a tendency of non-labeling story posters to use ambiguous names in the title. Naughty, naughty. It has occasionally tempted me to do a real story without pronouns until the last sentence or paragraph, but that seems just a bit cruel for my liking.

One of the saddest (to me, anyway) examples of the societal double standard comes up here in that FF blends so easily with MF, but MM and FM are worlds apart. In my pre-online days I did up a neat little collection of stories using characters from television programmes, but I don't think I could post most of them here because, of the few that came out the best, almost all of them were mixed, and it would be too cumbersome or damaging to the plot line to give the whole pattern away in advance. The funny thing is that the most generally admired, my Wild Wild West story, was almost a 50-50 mix of MM and FM, but then Dr Loveless and his sidekick Antoinette just seemed to shape the whole story that way. I think people just forgave it because they had a thing for envisioning Jim West as the helplessly laughing victim. I envisioned my Waltons story as a mix, but when I started to write it, Esther absolutely blocked any female participation and it ended up all MM, though most of the people who read more than one of the set thought this the best written. My most FM story - about 80-85% - used the Rumpole characters (no, tempting as it was, Dodo MacIntosh did not get Hilda into tying up Rumpole, though Marigold Featherstone might have done, as that would fit her and Guthrie), but like most mysteries it had a lot of plot. My most recent was a Keeping Up Appearances story which was truly a totally mixed bag of Fs and Ms in all combinations, and so seems to have no audience whatsoever, but it seemed like such a challenge to work in all the recurring characters that I couldn't resist writing it.

The point of that shamelessly self-indulgent paragraph is that I've seen a number of pointless insults to some perfectly unoffending stories, and so don't think I'll post any stories at all. Not that I'd only want lauds and sugar-coating; indeed I've always enjoyed a sort of cross-examination that lets me get out exactly what I didn't like about a character or a scene and diagnose what might have served better, but I'd be sure to draw gratuitous pot shots, and that would leave too bad a taste. While I'm in the neighbourhood, though, I see very few comments that stories aren't really well written, and have once or twice been tempted to offer a sort of mix of encouragement for writers who have something worth expressing with a gentle hint of what might help them to improve, but it seemed rude to do this either publicly or privately, and I never have. Has anyone had a similar experience, or gotten around such a difficulty?

 

[kurchatovium]

Actually Areenactor my first post was f/m too. I didn't get any flack from it, but Mistress Mia was the first person to welcome me to the forum. So I think this would be a perfect time for me to say thanks to Mistress Mia for being such a sweetie and a great moderator. Its because of her and the other moderators as well that us guys can talk about f/m stuff without some idiot coming up and calling us gay and hurling insults at us.

 

[TickleCrazy]

I really have to say how surprised I am to find that there's any kind of prejudice in a place where the only common denominator is deviance from the societal norm. I wasn't going to post this since I've hardly been around here long enough to suggest how things should be run. But it just blows my mind! 😕

 

[Deleted member 2452]

good time to bring this up

where is mistress mia? i haven't seen a post from her in months.
steve

 

[kurchatovium]

I think she posted in the stories section awhile ago but I have not heard much from her otherwise. I hope everything is OK and she is just taking a bit of a break.

 

[Havsoker]

Re: Yeah I gues....

But is accidently landing on it really that big of a deal? So many people think that by accidently opening a */M oriented post that they've somehow been decieved and usually have "no other choice" then to repond with a nasty follow-up. Just move along if you dont like what you see....then again the whole "Slowing down for the car wreck" mentality does tend to come into play here too. Usually the people who respond the most negatively are those who really are drawn to it and that scares the shit out of them and their hetero egos....

Although the */M label is very useful, it also draws in those who love nothing more then to keep the status quo nice and narrow-minded...and too keep "the damn queers" out of here. Those who really "don't want to take part" never do, its those that enjoy instegating and causing trouble then claim "they didnt want to take part" are the real problem.....possibly a new section seperated may help matters. (wow...lookit that...segregation all over again..)

This is like someone berating a car dealer because out of the many choices available, they also carry a type of vehicle that he does not like rather than simply looking at the ones he does like.

How much should we try to do about this type of attitude? Like them, we have choices. We can lead by example, refusing to follow their example, and we can ignore them. Stubborn person that I am, I am inclined to refuse to keep moving when they show up and challenge my right to be here or anywhere.

That said, in the short time I have been on this forum, I haven't really seen the strange reactions to */M here that I have seen on AMT. Such things have driven a lot of good people off that forum. This one seems much more civil and welcoming. Has there been a problem?

My 2 cents for whatever it is worth. 🙂

 

[He-Man]

I think if you label the thread f/m everything would be fine. I have not encountered any nastiness towards f/m material here. On the AMT there was a lot of nastiness and ugliness.

If you think that place was bad...try Ticalasacca's F/M Tickling Forum. A few of us on there, both male and female...kept getting harrassed by some jerk pretending to be a lady named "Molly"...then other names....then She/He/It ( hey look...a few of the letters in that order spell what "Molly" really was...SHIT. lmao ) started taking on our screen-names ( you just type in whatever name you wanna use...your name isn't protected by a password on that site. ) and tried to make it seem like we were flaming each other. But one person got alot more harrassment on that site than most of us...a lady with the screen-name Rose Blush...who wrote EXCELLENT f/m tickling stories. She even had a small site, too, but it shut down, I think.

I wonder if she even knows about the TMF where her stories, opinions , etc...wouldn't get flamed.

Anyway...I'm sure more than a few of us who have been on the f/m tickling board of Ticalasacca's are probably on here. Too bad, cause before, while the moderator was doing his/her best to keep the jerks away, it was nice.

Oh well...this place has more stuff to enjoy, and alot less jerks ( like around...zero. lol )anyway.

 

[kurchatovium]

Ah yes He-Man I forgot about that place. I never placed any messages there just for that reason. The only reason I tuned in was to get those Rose Blush stories. Otherwise it was just a name calling fest by the time I discovered the site.

 

[Havsoker]

If you think that place was bad...try Ticalasacca's F/M Tickling Forum. A few of us on there, both male and female...kept getting harrassed by some jerk pretending to be a lady named "Molly"...then other names....then She/He/It ( hey look...a few of the letters in that order spell what "Molly" really was...SHIT. lmao ) started taking on our screen-names ( you just type in whatever name you wanna use...your name isn't protected by a password on that site. ) and tried to make it seem like we were flaming each other. But one person got alot more harrassment on that site than most of us...a lady with the screen-name Rose Blush...who wrote EXCELLENT f/m tickling stories. She even had a small site, too, but it shut down, I think.

I wonder if she even knows about the TMF where her stories, opinions , etc...wouldn't get flamed.

Anyway...I'm sure more than a few of us who have been on the f/m tickling board of Ticalasacca's are probably on here. Too bad, cause before, while the moderator was doing his/her best to keep the jerks away, it was nice.

Oh well...this place has more stuff to enjoy, and alot less jerks ( like around...zero. lol )anyway.

You're right. I forgot about that site. It did get pretty ugly. So many flame wars that keyboards should have been fireproof! LOL!!

 

[ericr]

*/m tickling

I am another */m tickling enthusiast and appreciate its being included here. I would also appreciate its having a little more emphasis. I am not sure what the best way to do that would be and would not want to step on any one elses toes (might tickle them though). I am personally an f/m lee but am inerested in male ticklishness in general. As others have mentioned, it is helpful and respectful to all of us ticklephiles when the forums policy of designating f/m, m/f, f/f and m/m are used. Unfortunately, some do not do this. I have had the good fortune to have made some */m comments on the forum with no negative responses. I have, however, been timid about posting */m information because of some of the negative reactions which have been mentioned. 🙂