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[kenji]

I wanted to know some info from those of you who have not told your boyfriend/girlfriend about your thing for tickling. Why haven't you? Do you plan to? I haven't told my girlfriend yet, but I tickle her so much, that I think that she is starting to catch on. Here lately she has been mentioning my obsession with always tickling her. It is kinda hard for me to talk about it with her. It would espesially(is that how you spell that?) be hard for me to begin a conversation about it.

And...

What about those of you who have told him/her? how did they react?

Thanks

 

[TicklishShel]

I just told him like a month ago and he tickles me all the time now. He's not into it like i am but he knows what it does to me and what i do to him afterwards 🙂





michelle

 

[MrPartickler]

I'd kinda hoped more folks would've responded to this question by now.

kenji, I'm assuming you're a guy. And like all us guys know, we can't just spring things like this on most women. (Ladies of the TMF are excepted for obvious reasons. 😛 )....so my recommendation is to test the waters a bit by moving in incremental steps.

I'm in a similar situation, but not with a true g/f...just someone I go out with from time-to-time. No commitment there, but I enjoy our time together and being able to sneak in occasional tickles on a cute, fun friend is better than nothing (i.e., numerous generic tickle-free "dates")--which is exactly what I'm likely to have for a time if I spring anything on her too suddenly and scare her off.

However, the occasional, playful tickles serve as good "assessment tools" I've found. Over time, I can get to know how much is <i>too</i> much for her. So far, she seems to complain surprisingly little, but there are signs that her limit is fast approaching. I guess that saddens me a little. ...could be "back to the drawing board" for me, so to speak.

If she ever confronts me (as your g/f did) or perhaps even before she ever does that, I'll just tell her--while I'm tickling her--how beautiful her laugh sounds to me and how much I love her smile. Depending on the mood, I might also let her know that it turns me on to see and hear her laugh like that. (NOTE: These are all true statements I've never told her before.) If she's ok with that, that'll probably buy me a few more weeks of playful (light-to-moderate) tickling at least. LOL Another day, while playfully tickling her again, I might "let it slip" that I really like tickling <i>her</i> (specifically); I might even give a few more compliments similar to the aforementioned ones. If all continues to go well, eventually, I'll just be able to say outright that tickling turns me on and she'll probably not see it as such a weird thing or sudden revelation at all.

In fact, she'll probably say something to the effect of: <i>"Duh...no kidding!"</i>

...then I'll summarily tickle torture her without mercy! 😀

 

[kenji]

Thanks!

I really appreciate the replies. MrPartickler, you have a stategy that I think might just work. Now that I think about it, there have been several things in the past that she didn't find weird about me because I introduced them little by little. I guess that tickling just was too buried in my soul and I feared letting it out. I really think that it will work. Oh, by the way, good luck in your situation as well.

Ending transmission.....

 

[Brutus]

Well I just flat out told Margo about it. Now that's not something I'd ever done before and I can't necessary recommend it. However with her, we were simply flirtatous friends who just clicked right way. I just felt like I could tell her anything and she was the same with me. So one day when we both discovered we each liked bondage (me playing the top, while she like being tied) and I just told her I was into tickling as well. She didn't balk at it in the least. She said she didn't think it was weird at all. She did however go on to tell me that while she was ticklish from head to toe, she absolutely hated being tickled. I think she touched on her experiences of abusive tickling. Anyway, I gained her trust and she loves it now. I have the green light to tickle her just about anytime I like such as in pubic places.
Well I guess I'm digressing a bit, but my point is that I told her and she didn't think it odd in the least. You're mileage, however, may vary so use your best judgement. 😉I'm glad I told her because now she is my ultimate fantasy girl and is willing to do whatever to satisfy my tickling urges. We'll be posting a picture of two of us. It'll be beauty and the beast and I'm sure you'll be able to tell who's who. lol We may even do a video for fun. We may bring it to a gathering for viewing, but I don't we'd sell it.

Rob

 

[Brutus]

Sheesh! I really need to proofread what I write before I post it. 🙄

 

[Grolsch]

I had not told anybody because I was a bit concerned they might think I was strange. It's a bit odd in a way, because once I coughed it up to my wife, it was no big deal! Really, I thought she was going to say "God, you're disgusting", but all she said was "OK". And, once I let her know I found tickling erotic, we've had all sorts of tickling fun. She's extremely ticklish, so I get to tickle her, but we also talk about it, like finding out her mother is also very ticklish, times she's been tickled and so on. My opinion is the best thing a person can do is share their interest with their gf/bf/spouse/whatever.

 

[f/f]

i just told my gf when we met. i figured if she didn't like it she would tell me. she's not into it but she lets me tickle her almost everyday (bondage and all that stuff). so i guess it's ok to tell your gf/friends/anybody that your into it.

 

[Mitchell]

For me, I would just treat it as I would with any other fetish one might have. I dont have a girlfriend now, but when I did sometime ago, I had a huge foot fetish back then, and was just getting into tickling a bit. As it turns out, my ex wasnt ticklish so that would have been a problem. How I did it with the foot fetish is just told her how important it was to me that I be allowed to pay attention to her feet, and she understood. Now that I'm into tickling as well as feet, I have this fear that someday I will meet someone who will refuse to have her feet worshipped or be tickled. I think compromise is the best thing. The person into tickling needs to respect the one not into it, if they dont want to be tickled all the time, but the one not into it needs to understand the one who is into it and their needs. This is my philosophy. If I met someone who absolutely refused to have her feet paid attention to by me or to ever be tickled, I couldnt possibly be happy with that girl. If however, I met someone who did understand but said I dont like to be tickled all the time or have the feet worshipped but we can do it enough to make you happy, even if it is once in a while, I think I could live with that. I think it is all about being understanding to others needs and wants.

Mitch

 

[Tickle-Underarm]

Good question,
I haven't but I think she knows too! I tickle her more than normal and she thinks it's kind of too much. She is not that ticklish but still OK. I love tickling armpits and sometimes she's like "why do you always touch my armpits?" I think people here on this forum possibly think differently from the people out there. Anyway, this is intetresting issue and i think we should tell our girl/boy friends some time.
-TU

 

[Cyclic]

I've never had a problem sharing with girlfriends about it, once we've breached the intimacy wall. Pillow talk, late night phone calls...they're always ripe opportunities to share in the whole "so what turns you on?" discussion where this kind of topic comes into play.

After all, as far as my personal experience is concerned, women can have just as many kinky turn-ons as men--either they're into something, or they're into something they haven't discovered about themselves yet--it's just a matter of discovering the buttons to push.

Hell, I've never encountered a problem with any girlfriends divulging my fetishes for bondage, tickling, or feet after a while...especially when most of them have just as "twisted" or "embarrassing" turn-ons and fantasies!

Just a matter of being comfortable enough with one another to share. And who knows--perhaps you'll find something in common.

 

[jordan]

I told my best friend and he called me weride, so I never told anyone again.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

honesty is the best policy!

i always told every girl i ever dated, or showed them, and later admitted it. every single one was cool with it! what's more they appriciated my candor. never hide your feelings, or a part of yourself, cause when you do, you're not being honest in the relationship.
jordon, that guy wasn't, and is not your best friend.
steve

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I'm kind of in the same boat kenji. My boyfriend is a great guy and I'm 100% comfortable with him. I know that if i explained to him what tickling is for me he'd be fine with it, but it's just getting the words out that's the hard part. I can't really give you any "i did this and it worked" advice but I can say that next time she brings it up, mention something about how much you like her laugh or that you just love to touch her. Slowly but surely we'll get through this together LOL

Another idea might be to bring up fetishes in general in a light-hearted kind of discussion. Then say something like "My fetish is tickling beautiful girls. Allow me to demonstrate." You get three things out of this: a) you get to tickle her again LOL b) you'll compliment her ((saying you like tickling beautiful girls + tickling your girlfriend = calling your girlfriend beautiful 🙂 ) and c) you can rate her response and go from there 🙂

Kind of rambled a little bit hehe but hopefully I was of some help 🙂
Good Luck!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

oh yeah.....

P.S. especially* 😉

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I've never told my best friend about myself...I'm already well aware of his phobia towards people with fetishistic behaviors. That only tells me that he's got something going on himself!
My wife knew about me from before Jump Street. Before we ever even met, I asked her how ticklish she was over the phone. What she actually is is a repressed Ler, and she will never admit her own taste for tickling to herself, but she certainly is one, that's for sure.
If you get into a relationship, it will come out, sooner or later. It's unhealthy and unnatural to try to supress all of this, and you never know, you just might have the talent to convert her to your vision. Now, she may get to like being tickled. Don't misconstrue what I'm saying to mean that she'll like being tied up with a bleeping gag in her mouth or anything like that, because the odds are she won't. But the gentle stuff, hey...better than winding up with someone like my best friend 😛