Random thought about TT's ladies

[raccoon1]

Hello there!
Well, it's been a while since I last posted something in here, and I haven't been that active lately, college is killing me.. So, I haven't had enough time to regularly visit the chat room in a while, but I've been reading the latest topics and visited some random ladies' profiles (hope this doesn't sound as bad as it seems to me as I'm writing it, lol).
I've noticed something: most of the ones I've visited don't have many friends. They either joined us very recently, like less than a month ago, or a long time ago, like 5+ years (that's a lot to me).
If it is "on purpose", it's ok, I'm not judging anyone 🙂 And I know we also have some really cool, active girls in here. Just stating that before they beat me, haha.
However, it could be just lazyness or shyness, or even "perv-o-phobia". If that's the case, I'd like you to know that most of the people I've met in here are awesome.
Also, I'd love to meet some of you. I haven't been able to meet a lot of ladies in here yet, and don't get me wrong, the guys I've met in here are really, really nice, but sometimes I'd like to hear some female opinions and thoughts about certain stuff. And no, I'm not looking for someone to talk about tickling 24/7 or cyber___ing (nothing against it, just not my thing). As our beloved Beckers once told me about tickling,

It's what brings us together, not what defines us haha.

So, it's something I'd like to be ABLE to talk about, like I'm able to talk about any other kind of stuff. Sometimes I randomly send someone a PM, but it feels kinda creepy, 'cause I don't even know if that person is looking for friends.
Anyway, just something I've been thinking lately. Thanks for reading, and feel free to say "hi" anytime ^^

 

[LadyInternet]

Ok-

Two important things I look for here are anonymity and community. The community here all has a shared kink. They show me that I'm not fucked up, or at least that there's a lot of fucked up people like me. Scratch that, all the regular talk going on in here shows us that we're regular human beings. Men and women with interests, disagreements, blah blah blah. And for those times when I want to indulge in how tickling makes me feel, this community does that for me too. Sometimes conversationally, sometimes erotically.

And there's anonymity. I can be myself here and NOT be myself here. I don't want anyone here to hunt me down on the interwebs and knock on my door. That's terrifying. So I'm definitely not giving out my full name, and I love the sort of alter ego aspect. I can be this woman who's first known as a tickle freak, and second anything else. Its liberating.

All of this is more than just drooling over a pair of women's size nines. Sometimes I get the feeling that men here aren't sympathetic to that. That I'm here because I'm ready to party. I'm in a dark alley in a short skirt, I'm just asking for it. No one's even willing to buy a girl a drink before trying to get down to business. And that atmosphere, real or perceived, is why I didn't get an account for a while. Its why a lot of the time I feel more comfortable talking to other women than to men here. Not that I'm not down to party with the girls, either.

I guess I'm not asking for anything of the dudes here. We are who we are. But that's at least a little of where I'm coming from. Why I'm here, why I act like I act, and why I'm skeptical of a friend request from foottickler69. Its just that it can be hard to be openly sexual here, have an openly sexual conversation on here, and even non-sexual things here, without getting the feeling like I'm being eyed up. Just my two cents. I promise I'm not as bitch-angsty as this made me out to be.

 

[foottickler1980]

Great points on both parts!!! Raccoon is right about maybe the ladies on this site are sceptical about the men.. And Ladyinternet made a great point about maybe we need to be more sympathetic towards each other... I'm new to this site and my feelings are about the same Yes I LOVE tickling... but at the same time I don't want to be perceived as a drooler... I am a firm believer in respecting other people and as people we want to be respected .. I myself can not go to a random woman and say hey can I tickle you?? I need to know them as well as I want them to know me tickling without trust and respect isn't fun.. It should be enjoyed by both or not happen at all.

 

[raccoon1]

First of all, I'd like to say I really appreciate your reply, LadyInternet. Even though I may not agree 100% with what you're saying, I always enjoy a nice, healthy discussion. That being said..

Two important things I look for here are anonymity and community. The community here all has a shared kink. They show me that I'm not fucked up, or at least that there's a lot of fucked up people like me. Scratch that, all the regular talk going on in here shows us that we're regular human beings. Men and women with interests, disagreements, blah blah blah. And for those times when I want to indulge in how tickling makes me feel, this community does that for me too. Sometimes conversationally, sometimes erotically.

I have nothing to comment on your first paragraph (and no, I'm not counting "Ok-" as one, haha). I feel the same way, and that's why this site comforts me. I still have those sad moments in which I feel lonely when it comes to shared interests compared to those around me (irl), but I hope someday I'll be brave enough to change this. Actually, in my opinion, this could only concern my hypothetical partner, so I don't plan on sharing it with everyone out there.

And there's anonymity. I can be myself here and NOT be myself here. I don't want anyone here to hunt me down on the interwebs and knock on my door. That's terrifying. So I'm definitely not giving out my full name, and I love the sort of alter ego aspect. I can be this woman who's first known as a tickle freak, and second anything else. Its liberating.

Yup, kinda agree with that too. Perhaps the main reason I've been away for a while is that I haven't had much privacy lately. So, yeah, that really matters to me as well.

All of this is more than just drooling over a pair of women's size nines. Sometimes I get the feeling that men here aren't sympathetic to that. That I'm here because I'm ready to party. I'm in a dark alley in a short skirt, I'm just asking for it. No one's even willing to buy a girl a drink before trying to get down to business. And that atmosphere, real or perceived, is why I didn't get an account for a while. Its why a lot of the time I feel more comfortable talking to other women than to men here. Not that I'm not down to party with the girls, either.

I guess I'm not asking for anything of the dudes here. We are who we are. But that's at least a little of where I'm coming from. Why I'm here, why I act like I act, and why I'm skeptical of a friend request from foottickler69. Its just that it can be hard to be openly sexual here, have an openly sexual conversation on here, and even non-sexual things here, without getting the feeling like I'm being eyed up.

Ok, now I have to disagree with you. I'm tired of things like that, to be honest, and I don't mean to be rude, but girls have to stop doing this. I really dislike this kind of stereotypes. I know a lot of men are rude and show no true feelings whatsoever, but you can't assume we're all like that. Not all of you are ladies, as well. However, whenever I meet someone, I always suppose I'm talking to a lady, and I'll treat her like one. I know it's not something you see as often as you'd like to, but stereotypes only make it worse. Anyway, I don't wanna get too deep into that, but I hope I've made my point clear.

Well, I'm really happy you said all of that, even though I don't agree with everything. That was kind of the point of the thread, so everyone interested can understand what you girls think and, perhaps, help us become a better community ^^



PS:

Just my two cents. I promise I'm not as bitch-angsty as this made me out to be.

Saying what you think or feel doesn't make you one. And, if you don't recall, we've talked before, a while ago. You seemed like a lovely person 🙂

 

[LadyInternet]

Ok, now I have to disagree with you. I'm tired of things like that, to be honest, and I don't mean to be rude, but girls have to stop doing this. I really dislike this kind of stereotypes. I know a lot of men are rude and show no true feelings whatsoever, but you can't assume we're all like that. Not all of you are ladies, as well. However, whenever I meet someone, I always suppose I'm talking to a lady, and I'll treat her like one. I know it's not something you see as often as you'd like to, but stereotypes only make it worse. Anyway, I don't wanna get too deep into that, but I hope I've made my point clear.

Ok,
I didn't mean to imply that ALL or even most men are drooling brutes. I have definitely had positive male interactions here. But if I'm in the chat and let's say its 50/50 that's still a horrible experience. Even if there's one out of ten that can still put me on guard and sour my mood. Maybe the negative experiences stand out and outshine positive ones. But all of that sours me and puts me on guard. Now I'm automatically assuming the worst each time. I don't like doing that, and I'm sure neither do you. But that's what I was trying to say. That's why I think a some women stay away.

You seemed like a lovely person 🙂

Sweet of you to say so, Raccoon.

 

[raccoon1]

Ok,
I didn't mean to imply that ALL or even most men are drooling brutes. I have definitely had positive male interactions here. But if I'm in the chat and let's say its 50/50 that's still a horrible experience. Even if there's one out of ten that can still put me on guard and sour my mood. Maybe the negative experiences stand out and outshine positive ones. But all of that sours me and puts me on guard. Now I'm automatically assuming the worst each time. I don't like doing that, and I'm sure neither do you. But that's what I was trying to say. That's why I think a some women stay away.

Hm, I see what you mean. A single raisin in a tasty cake makes me like it so much less 🙁
And, you know, it's their fault and our loss. We don't get to meet some awesome people we could've been friends with. Meh, life's complicated ;_;

 

[RangerLoki]

To be honest, most of our regular women are very approachable. We've got a few grumps but that's not gender specific from what I've seen.

You'll also have a share of men pretending to be women, but that number tapers off as the post count goes up in my experience; that may explain why some accounts have no posts or friends as they simply troll the chat room like a booty pirate.

 

[Taj]

I guess it boils down to what you are looking for on this site. Some people like myself don't have a lot of friends on here. Hell, I've been here what seems like forever and have 1 person added. lol It's not that I don't like to talk to people or that I'm antisocial...I guess it's more just the show up n introduce myself type of thing. I've tried that a couple times and although I get responses...there's never any adds either. I count myself guilty in the later part of my statement. I guess I feel that if I try to hard I'll end up being as bad as an internet stalker.

 

[Beckers1]

I think this can all be summed up by the old expression, different strokes for different folks. Some people just prefer being seclusive while others enjoy integrating themselves into the community. You can't expect all women to jump at the chance of putting themselves out there for a talk, it's just how it is. I'd say stop looking for women that make themselves unobtainable and enjoy the ones who welcome your input y'know?

 

[RangerLoki]

Women rule the world, anyway.

 

[LadyInternet]

Women rule the world, anyway.

So where do I sign up for my world ruler paycheck bump? I should be compensated for all my ruling.

 

[ElFewja]

I'd buy you a beer. Maybe. I guess?

Also I thought the words next to the yinyang said burrito rather than balanced. I was kind if disappointed when I realized it wasn't a burrito.

And that is my contribution to a thread on internet sex politics. Beer and burritos.

-Fail.

 

[RangerLoki]

So where do I sign up for my world ruler paycheck bump? I should be compensated for all my ruling.

Negotiate your wages during your next performance report.

 

[ElFewja]

Also: Rangerloki, I LOVE YOUR SIGNATURE PIC.

Raccoon: You suck. I spent a decent amount of time trying to get a private RO server running earlier this summer and couldn't. FORGOT ABOUT IT UNTIL I SAW YOUR THING. Man, I fought those mobs in iRO forever. Literally forever.

 

[LadyInternet]

Negotiate your wages during your next performance report.

Touché. A much more serious answer than I expected here.

 

[atreyu1]

Men are dogs. We think with our dicks before our brains. I can count an my fingers a few timse where thinking about things rationally would have saved me trouble.

Now that being said i can also add that I have figured this out and realized it was a truth that also pertained to me as we'll. I am trying to train myself and have a little more mental discipline but this kind of stuff is hard wired into my thought process. For some men it's not as up front as others, and for those of us that it is in our face all the time, some of us have a conscience about it and try to "fix" the "issue" where the other guys just really don't care.

Now for all of the guys out there that want to argue that "we're not all like that", I would like to stop you and have you think of a time in your life when you thought with your dick before you thought with your brain. We've all done it before. Whether we were able to snap out of it or we followed through with our hormone induced delusions of grandeur is irrelevant. We are hard wired this way and its going to be this way until the human race is extinct and new species in our place.

This is my PSA for the female demographic in this particular forum. Thank you and big balls.

 

[RangerLoki]

On the other hand, some women are just bitches. :lol

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Men are dogs. We think with our dicks before our brains. I can count an my fingers a few timse where thinking about things rationally would have saved me trouble.

Now that being said i can also add that I have figured this out and realized it was a truth that also pertained to me as we'll. I am trying to train myself and have a little more mental discipline but this kind of stuff is hard wired into my thought process. For some men it's not as up front as others, and for those of us that it is in our face all the time, some of us have a conscience about it and try to "fix" the "issue" where the other guys just really don't care.

Now for all of the guys out there that want to argue that "we're not all like that", I would like to stop you and have you think of a time in your life when you thought with your dick before you thought with your brain. We've all done it before. Whether we were able to snap out of it or we followed through with our hormone induced delusions of grandeur is irrelevant. We are hard wired this way and its going to be this way until the human race is extinct and new species in our place.

This is my PSA for the female demographic in this particular forum. Thank you and big balls.

Do you read a lot of Tumblr feminist blogs?

 

[ElFewja]

Mental discipline? All you need to learn is how to meditate and you'll be fine. Mostly I learned it for combat-oriented reasons but, really, clearing the mind so you can focus, allowing your body to move unhindered by thought (kind of like a marionette) is essentially what you're looking for. It's a bit weird at first, thinking but also being disconnected from your thoughts, but you get used to it.

Anyway, if that's all you wanted then learn to meditate.