Rating Member Pics: For, Against, or Don't Care?

[MrPartickler]

I thought about this issue when reading two recent threads the TMF. One is currently here on the General Discussion forum (Re: Bratgirl) and the other--the more exemplary one of the two--is on the Tickling Discussion Forum (Re: Ticklishlexi).

Let me first say that I think many of the pics there are pretty darn good and that the TMF likely hosts a lot of attractive women--both seen and unseen (the aforementioned ladies included of course 😉 ) I also believe that the compliments often come from good folks with good intentions and, in a perfect world, should be viewed as such.

However, I think threads such as these may actually discourage other members from posting their pics as the whole scene often begins to take on the feel of a cheap beauty contest. For example, some (women, in particular) may feel more self-conscious if they do not get as many "wolf-whistles" from the crowd as others. In addition, picture posters more often must face the accusatory cries (and possibly increased temptation) of "picture fakes."

So my question is: How do you feel about Member Picture rating/commenting threads?

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

***snif, snif*** Nobody posted a thread saying that I was cute! 😱

Of course, the fact that I can hardly be seen in my current pic doesn't help...not that most of those here would be posting that anyway. lol I think that folks complimenting others is fine. My only concern when I see threads like this is that there's always someone who has a different opinion and can't help voicing it in a not so gentle manner. Then, people's feelings can get hurt. But, complimenting others is fine. When it happens to be a new member, it can help them feel welcome. Just keep in mind that there ARE a few posers out there who may take advantage of the attention to create new characters. So, watch out for the Cybils. 😉

Ann

 

[AffectionateDan]

I say thee, NAY!

Bad idea, hon. While I'm sure there are those who'd be tickled by the ego boost, there's also tremendous potential for hurt feelings. Nix. Nope. Nada. Bad Thing.

 

[Limeoutsider]

I think its a bad idea because some of the rating boards(or whatever we'd like to call them) would turn either into a flame war or a game PS: Dan, no pun intended right?

 

[Ayla ny]

once upon a time, in the olden days...

when the forum first moved here there was an option to ‘rate this thread’. I think the way it worked was, the more people who gave a thread a good ‘grade‘, the more stars it got. or something along those lines. anyhow... this rating system found it’s way into the member picture section. all I could think of when I saw this, was how the brave souls (and soles 😀 ), who had worked up the courage to post their picture, must feel about being rated.

now don’t get me wrong... I’m sure part of the reason for posting your picture is because you like the idea of the people viewing your picture wanting to tickle you (works for me! 🙂 ). but another, even more important reason, would be to kind of step out into the light and say, “here I am. this is me.” it feels good. no matter how you do it. chatting, posting your picture or attending gatherings. feeling like you are being ‘rated’ after doing so... would not feel good.

I think the threads complimenting some of the pictures are a little different from the rating thing. but for me the most import part of the member picture section is seeing that there are all kinds of people out there into this. that in itself is pretty cool.

 

[MrPartickler]

Just a point of clarification...

To be clear (Dan and Lime), I wasn't referring to starting some new kind of threads specifically for rating members' pictures. I was referring to the ones which are already here and will continue to appear from time-to-time. The ones like this one:

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?threadid=32227

Again, good intentions and complimentary comments aside, what are your opinions on their overall effects?

 

[Myriads]

There will be no rating of threads in the Member pic forum. In the past only badness and hurt feelings came of it.

It will not happen.

Myriads

 

[Oddjob0226]

Not a good idea.

A. I'm ugly, so any suspense for me would I to post a pic is already dissiapted.

B. There's a lot of arguing here already. One person's "Cute!" is another person's "Cute?? Are you kidding me? Let let me just tell you how it is......" And then someone will say something about President Bush or fat people or smokers rights or marmalade or rudely demand that we all talk to "the" hand... it ALWAYS happens...

C. This is a tickling site and, to some degree, the pics are so we can find out if there is general attraction to a possible partner. No, that's not the ONLY reason - doy, but we all have eyes that perform a function and, for some, that's one of many reasons why the pics are here... There are already sites for rating people's looks. This one's about tickling.

 

[Ticklebell]

I agree with Ann, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with complimenting the incredibly brave people who post their pictures, but it does seem someone must always come along and say "What, are you crazy? She's a hippo!" Or "That is so fake!" It is gratifying to see that MOST people on here do not seem to be like that. I would post my picture, but I'm wary of posting my picture on the net at all, just for paranoia's sake, and in case an aquaintence or someone stumbles upon this site, and I am "outed"... If I were more open about myself to the people who know me in person, I'd be all over it. I've just gotta go back to the ole' saying,

"If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

Mwah!
-Bell

Meanwhile, It's difficult to post when you don't own a scanner or a digital camera... Starving students unite!

 

[sole seeker]

Rating is a bad, BAD, BAD idea. I'm thankful to Myriads for saying it won't happen. A case in point from our own forum:

Not long ago in the image thread a member posted a picture of her husband tickling her. One of the replies was that the content of the photo was good, but that "the models could have been hotter".

I'm going on the assumption that the poster didn't realize the "models" in the picture were the members who posted it. I don't want to think anyone here would intentionally insult someone brave enough to share pictures of themselves engaged in our mutual passion.

In any case. I think the lady involved is very attractive. I've been looking at her pictures here and on her personal site for some time, and IMO she's ALWAYS been attractive. I know from other replies that I'm not alone in my opinion.

IMHO, compliments are one thing, comparison is another. The one is positive, the other hurtful.


P.S. Ann, I think you're very cute. So are your feet. So gimme!

 

[Alex Warfield]

I find rating to be a bad idea. When I see threads devoted to the ladies that post pics. I cringe.

It never amounts to any more than, "Hey, I find you attractive. Thanks for posting!"

What about all the other attractive ladies, and gentlemen for that matter? Are they then not worth it? Crap. No human female has devoted a thread aboot my pic....

Let's go even further than that. Let's say a brave young soul does post a picture. It is of exceptional beauty.

Thread goes up. Several gentlemen (Sometimes older gentlemen) post about how they might like to grab some rope and... All of a sudden, brave young soul turns to terrified young soul. Pic comes down, and off they go, never to return. Although I imagine The lot of ye to be good humans, there are stalkers out there. The average female knows this. Such behavior, however innocent, can be a little scary to a newbie.

Just something worth thinking about...

 

[TicklishSinner]

Alex

Alex you are sexy and you know it, I have told you nurmerous times, and damn it your not from Canada! I love ya anyways even though you didnt make a thread about me Sugar Bunz! heheh (just kidding) off that topic i dont think giving feed back on pics is cool because you get some people who get all the attention and some who dont even get a hey youbut that my opinion

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

As has already been stated twice...this thread was asking about the threads that folks have started of late...thanking people for posting their pics, complimenting them, etc. It is NOT about going to the members pic section and rating pics there...which I agree is definitely a bad idea. While we can't stop people from complimenting one another, folks should keep in mind that threads can and often do end up ressulting in insults and hurt feelings. Compliments are nice. But, maybe a PM saying the same thing would be safer?

Ann

 

[TickledToDeath]

Against

For the same reason Dan posted.
There would be hurt feelings if any negative and or low ratings were given.
Besides, it appears as if opinions are given freely anyway.

TTD

 

[milagros317]

Re: Against

Originally posted by TickledToDeath (some deleted)

Besides, it appears as if opinions are given freely anyway.
TTD

Agreed. Very few people around here keep quiet, their opinions are well known. 😀

 

[TklDuo-Drew]

We had a morning disc jockey here back in the mid-80s who did a weekly segment where he would pick out pictures of girls who were in the engaged or just married section of the newspaper, and ask his listeners to "rate" the pictures. This was a cruel thing to do and comments and responses were very harsh and mean-spirited.
I'd hate to see something like this happen on the TMF, as some sh*theels would see this as "amusing" and feelings would be hurt.
I don't go into the chatroom anymore as I saw too much of this F'kng B.S. going on.

Drew

 

[f/f]

I have my pic posted and to be honest i don't care if i'm the ugliest person on the forum. it's not about the look it's about the heart. but if some people wanna be the pretiest girl/guy on the forunm then calling lexi, me or anybody else pretty would affect them. i say don't rate pics because other people might think there ugly just because somebody called someone else pretty 🙂

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I guess you could say that I posted my pic here, not particularly caring what the hell anyone thought of me, or the other half of me in the picture. I did it because I wanted you to see me, and that you could view me in the flesh and not just think of me as lines on a screen.
Rating pics, though, in a thread on the forum, is not my thing. I avoid it... 😉

 

[MrPartickler]

If anyone needs any more evidence of what often reults from member picture complimenting/rating threads, just check the current "homage" being paid to tklish_katiebug in the Tickling Discussion section. 🙄

 

[TKpervert]

Excellent observation, MrPart.

BTW, reading your sig, I'm an octal guy myself, so I see only 8 kinds of people in the world.

 

[UnclStevel]

Bad idea. If you really want to critique somebody's appearance go to amihotornot.com 🙂

Steve

 

[Iggy pop]

I think people agree that rating member pics is bad, but what about the compliment threads? I think this was the real question of the original poster? In these threads nothing negative or hurtful is said. It is pure compliments. Still, not everyone gets a compliment thread, and this could cause feeling to get hurt.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Iggy

...Still, not everyone gets a compliment thread, and this could cause feeling to get hurt.

You pretty much responded to your own response to this thread.
If you single a few out to compliment them, the ones who are not singled out for compliments will/may think the opposite is thought of them.
Next thing you know there will be another sub forum added here called "TMF Member Roasts" 🙄 😀


TTD😎

 

[milagros317]

Re: Iggy

Originally posted by TickledToDeath (some deleted)

Next thing you know there will be another sub forum added here called "TMF Member Roasts" 🙄 😀
TTD😎

No, you have to go to AMT to find roasts of TMF members. 😀

 

[TickledToDeath]

Re: Re: Iggy

No, you have to go to AMT to find roasts of TMF members. 😀

Actually, there it is more like a Barbee-Q!😉 .

TTD