Reveal my foot fetish to my wife?

[chizza1]

Hi everyone,

First off I hope this is the right forum, if not I'm sorry.

I have only told two women ever in my life that I have a foot fetish. While I don't think that's why those girls dumped me, I'm sure it didn't help.

Fast forward about 10 years. I have now been married to my wife for 3 and a half years, we have been together for 4 and a half. I have not told her about my foot fetish. Tried casually mixing it in with sex and her reaction was "you don't have to do that", which translates to me "I don't like that, stop".

Since I have been this long "in the closet", should I just keep it that way? Seeking your advice! I want my needs met but am afraid to rock the boat...what would you do?

 

[sparkyprime88]

Just straight up tell her.

 

[Bottomfeeter1]

It's part of who you are, so for your sake and hers, don't keep it from her. And the longer you wait, the harder it'll be. Just go slowly, and don't pile everything on her all at once. Spoon feed it to her. And *be patient.* Your wife will have apprehensions, of course. That is normal. Just listen to her and talk to her about them.

I've been with my wife for 20 years, and it has worked for me.

 

[beastpart0]

I think most girls have foot fetish themselves. Most of humans are born to love feet! Foot as a sexy body part is a gift from God to make lovers erotic! So don't be shy and go ahead.

 

[desk]

Why?

 

[Uglyhobo]

If you do, be light hearted and frank about it. It doesn't need to be a "sit down we need to have a talk" moment. Tell her while rubbing her feet and gauge the reaction. If she doesn't like it well shit I don't know what to tell you!

 

[taxwaxus]

Plain and simple- you're married adults and there's no reason not to be sexually open with each other. A foot fetish is really tame anyways- don't make a big fuss over it.

 

[babinsky1]

She probably already knows...

 

[mr white]

Well, I think you can tell your wife these kind of things. Tell her that you love her, you love her body and you like her feet.

Every women like to feel desired, physical and mentally, she will love to have a man that loves not only herself, but her body and her feet in such a way. And Im completely sure you can introduce some feet games in the intercourse.

Let's just say she likes to bite your bun, even if it meant nothing to you, wouldnt you allow her to do it because you know it turns her on? Of course you do! Well, It's the same for her.

Trust her and be honest.

 

[MacD]

her reaction was "you don't have to do that", which translates to me "I don't like that, stop".

Next time ask her "why not", then you should get a better impression of what it really means ;-)

 

[fabiolas4]

Hi everyone,

First off I hope this is the right forum, if not I'm sorry.

I have only told two women ever in my life that I have a foot fetish. While I don't think that's why those girls dumped me, I'm sure it didn't help.

Fast forward about 10 years. I have now been married to my wife for 3 and a half years, we have been together for 4 and a half. I have not told her about my foot fetish. Tried casually mixing it in with sex and her reaction was "you don't have to do that", which translates to me "I don't like that, stop".

Since I have been this long "in the closet", should I just keep it that way? Seeking your advice! I want my needs met but am afraid to rock the boat...what would you do?

i hear ya on that one man. my gf got my foot fetish started when i was around 5 and i knew her since i was 3 and she passed on at 15. fast forward 13-14yrs later its still going strong but when im asked what im into and i tell them, i get dumped or laughed at. there are all good points here from these responses. ya both are married adults and i dont see why she wouldnt be cool about it. i mean she wants and doesnt want certain things behind closed doors, you obey it, she should return the favor. if she's that worth it she'll support it and not talk shit about it to her friends, only talk to her friends about it in a good way if anything. (im from ct too btw)

 

[imirritated]

Dude! Its your wife. If you can't tell her you dig feet then why did you marry her? Just tell her. She obviously loves you and will respect your likes.

 

[imirritated]

And what Mac D said is good also.

 

[Cryptic71]

Seems the vote is unanimous here.

Nothing more needs to be said.