Role Reversal: The girl goes after the guy

[BlackJacker]

We all know how it is more common for a guy to chase a girl. But how about if it's the other way around? Some girl on tumblr followed me and messaged me. It was rare for a girl to message me first, usually it's the other way around. Although i found it odd, i didn't think much of it. We chatted more and go to know each other, turns out we both live in New York so i asked her if she wanted to chill. She agreed and said some stuff which made me say to her: "lol you're sucha pervert." She replied with "yeah I'm actually perverted and horny" (sorry). This made me think that something happened during her childhood because i remember chatting with someone similar who experienced a traumatazing event. Sure enough, she told me how she was raped in middle school which probably caused her to be like this.

So to the guys out there you might be thinking "shes horny, get itttt." Uhh nahh I'm good. Sex after marriage. So im wondering if anyone experience a situation like this? Like if i block her, will she continue being stalkerish? She says she likes me and i rejected her, but she seems kind of persistent...kinda worried here

 

[chicago]

If I experienced a situation like that id probably go for it but if shes weirding you out, cut off contact. Seems the obvious thing to do based on how you fee, though I dont find her behavior -the way you described here- "stalkerish"

 

[BlackJacker]

Yeah, i think i should've used the word obsessive . Did block her

 

[chicago]

Yeah, i think i should've used the word obsessive . Did block her

I don't know if it's obsessive either. I mean, you must have gotten close enough to find out that she had been raped. From her point of view, she may not have a clue as to why you don't want to talk to her anymore. She may feel that it's because she's been raped you don't want to talk to her, which I imagine may seem hurtful. You don't have any kind of obligation to explain shit to her, but based on what I've read, I don't see anything obsessive / stalkerish.

 

[maniactickler]

Dammit, I want hot women to chase after me!

 

[BlackJacker]

Bahahaha, im sure you have plenty of chasers

 

[Mitchell]

Yes, I posted on here about a girl I met at a bar a few months ago. I was introduced to her by some people I know at a local place. We had an impromptu date, and everything seemed fine, until she started texting me , in the middle of the night, and I found out she wasn;'t all she was cracked up to be. I finally deleted her, and blocked her, on my phone, and luckily,I haven't seen her in the neighborhood since.

I would be fine if a nice girl came after me first, but not with something like happened with the girl I just talked about, or the girl you mentioned. Sorry that happened to you. I know how it feels.

 

[Dialon]

I've never had it happen online, but when I was in high school plenty of girls approached me for relationships and such; have no idea why considering I am not attractive at all. I of course turned them down rather bluntly for a couple reasons. One because I was nervous about it. The other was because I saw all of my other friends in relationships at the time and from what I saw, it didn't seem that great.