RP's bad?

[TicklishBlackGuy]

So I was wondering this, just wanted to get an opinion from people about role playing or cybering. I mean I know its not for everyone, but lately alot of people make it seem like its bad. I mean is it really that bad I like cybering and rping with friends or do you guys feel its bad? Thoughts and opinions. So the question is, why do people think rping and cybering is horrible, just trying to get a general idea on the why.

 

[Mash]

Don't force it.
If they don't want to do it, don't do it.

It's really no different from any other social interaction.

 

[11225]

To me, it's depends on who I talk to. I don't let them think that rping or cybering is bad. It's part of what I love to do.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

Don't force it.
If they don't want to do it, don't do it.

It's really no different from any other social interaction.

i'm saying having people rp with me, i'm just asking people's views on rping and cybering

 

[Stjanki2819]

Bad as in how?

 

[TKLVR181]

I know some people see it as 'not enough'-I've heard some people refer to it as sad as well, but that's their opinion and I care not what they think of me 😛

Others have a moral problem with rping with, say, married people, and I can totally respect that as well. To each their own and all that.

Those are the only reasons I've heard against it-personally, as others have said, if it's two consenting adults (though I won't with married people whose spouses are unaware/uncool with it), there's nothing wrong with it IMO 🙂

~K

 

[Senshi1]

Like above, it'd depend on good/bad in which way?

Morally, I see no problem with it as long as it isn't done behind somebody else's back. Some of you may be surprised to learn that Karen likes to RP - despite us being married, it doesn't bother me; partly because I don't consider it to be the same as physical activities, and partly because it isn't done in secret behind my back.

In terms of sheer enjoyment, to each their own. Some people enjoy the freedom of expression that RP offers, and like it for its easy accessibility, not having a problem with settling for using their imaginations. Others will shy away from the imagination fee in pursuit of something more physical and less abstract.

Personally, I enjoy it if I'm in the right mood. But I have to be focusing entirely on it - I can't RP and also play a game or watch a film in the background, as I can with normal chatting.

 

[Mash]

i'm saying having people rp with me, i'm just asking people's views on rping and cybering

And that's my view on it.

It's only bad if you try and force it. So long as both parties agree to it, why would it be bad?

Of course there are other factors like cheating, et cetera... but I feel like that's kinda moving away from the actual topic that you're asking about. Cybering/RP'ing by itself, so long as it's fully consensual, in my opinion is just fine.

 

[DetectiveExcel]

Don't force it.
If they don't want to do it, don't do it.

It's really no different from any other social interaction.

i'm saying having people rp with me, i'm just asking people's views on rping and cybering

Pretty sure that was his view on rping and cybering, which I agree with. There's nothing wrong with it and we've all done it enough. People either like it or don't.

I don't find it bad at all, g'figure.

EDIT: There you go again, Mash, synching up with my brain :I

 

[Nomming]

There's some bad people that always try to shoot for it or act out in RP as they're actually talking, which can get really annoying. Or the people that fiend for it and want nothing but, which I actually find to be some of the worst.-_- Its the cool people that want to be your friend before RP that are the cool guys. And usually some of the best, too bad they're hard to find whilst sifting through the bad eggs.

I personally like RP, nothing wrong with it as long as it isn't consuming someones social interactions.

 

[Mash]

Pretty sure that was his view on rping and cybering, which I agree with. There's nothing wrong with it and we've all done it enough. People either like it or don't.

I don't find it bad at all, g'figure.

EDIT: There you go again, Mash, synching up with my brain :I

I'm like, 30 percent sure that we're the same person.

 

[Beckers1]

Ok so I agree with pretty much everything said in this thread so far but want to touch on a few things that haven't been discussed.

I will definitely agree that people who are focused purely on cyber instead of treating me like a human being is an immediate red flag that spurs me from getting to know someone better.

But my main issue is with sporadic cyber sessions. I realize people enjoy the heat of the moment kinda playing but it's not my cup of tea for a couple reasons.

The major reason though, is boundaries. From a few times I have cybered with people I didn't know well it seemed that a good deal of them over stepped personal boundaries that I feel should be discussed prior to the activity.

Cyber doesn't necessarily mean I want to have sex, nor does it mean I want to be naked and tied up for someone to have at. I have wants when I cyber, and feel that discussing both our ideal session will help the chemistry and make for a better role play.

That's just me though, I might be picky but because of this my role plays have been a lot more immersive and enjoyable for both parties involved. So basically if you respect the person you are attempting to cyber with, I don't think cybers a bad thing at all

 

[the_jimmy_james]

Cyber doesn't necessarily mean I want to have sex, nor does it mean I want to be naked and tied up for someone to have at. I have wants when I cyber, and feel that discussing both our ideal session will help the chemistry and make for a better role play.

This.

I'm pretty picky, honestly, and have clear ideas on setting, situation, and character (I don't RP as myself, I have to fictionalize it for it to work) but it seems many just don't try.

Let's say I'm writing a character named Julian, and the other person keeps calling me Jim, Jimmy, or Jamie, which are variations of my own name that I'm commonly called. Instant ruin. If there was any mood, it's then gone. They didn't care enough to pay attention when I explain the character, using that OC's name the entire time. Worse if your character is say, furry or an alien or fantasy being, and your RP partner refuses to acknowledge that.

This one is honestly a big big thing to me... Proper spelling, grammar, and typing. I can be a little testy when people don't take time with their typing while chatting, but I have ZERO tolerance in RP. This is meant to describe intimacy and should have some detail, and be easy to follow. So when I write...

"Oooooh, I promise if you don't leave my paws alone, I'll scratch you good!" The panther-guy warned, his teeth clenched as he tried to hold back the giggles. He stared at his kinky captor's left hand, which was gently teasing his big black paws, then looked to the quill that the man held in his other hand. The bound young panther's heart fluttered in fear and excitement. "Y-yeah... I'll scratch you..." He repeated, sounding far less sure of himself.

Then I get...

ok I tkl ur fut lol ur so funny

That would be so much less than optimal. That is... It fucking sucks.

Another thing that a lot of people do is they ask you if you want to do something, ask you what you're into, maybe even ask about one of your interests as if they want to try it, then they tell you abruptly that they don't RP other people's kinks, only their own. Fuck that! That's like coming up to a stranger and asking someone to volunteer for something, then telling them that they MUST do it your way and on your time only, without regard for their time and schedule.

I even had someone once tell me that I HAD to do what he wanted because I asked to RP... Which was a lie, they asked.

There's a lot of people who seem unable or unwilling to meet you halfway. Shit, they won't even get out of their chair to open the door for you.

Beckers, who's the anime girl?

 

[TKLVR181]

Basic manners.

I agree with what Jimmy and Beckers are saying-people that dive right in often make me uncomfortable. I usually only rp with close friends, personally and the fact that I cannot feel my feet is a big part of that. My friends know and don't care. Nothing worse than when I start trying to rp with someone and they LOG OUT as soon as they find ou they can't tickle my feet. Or I get 'can't you pretend?' Both these things have happened multiple times.

I'm not against chatting and/or rping with people I don't know well by any stretch, so don't avoid me or anything, but this is why it often doesn't work.
Basic manners, people!

 

[Nomming]

Beckers, who's the anime girl?

Yuno Gasai of the manga Mirai Nikki aka, Future Diary.

 

[the_jimmy_james]

Yuno Gasai of the manga Mirai Nikki aka, Future Diary.

Thank you! 😀

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

see i've always done two types of rps, Tickling rps and Action rps (which usually consist of going to different places, then getting into a fight with characters to help develop mine.) when it comes to tickling, I try to be nice, I ask about all nono spots, what type of rp do they like, etc. I mean i've gotten some very very pushy lee's who demand i do this, or tickle them here, and it not me. Yet i've seen latley so many people just dispise it. I agree how beckers put it, I don't want it to be a sexual thing, i want it to be fun.

 

[Mash]

RP'ing is as person-specific as a fetish is.

Not every person likes to RP. Hell, I even know people who used to like it but simply grew out of it. Just because they share the fetish does not mean that they share an urge to RP.

However, that doesn't mean that it's a bad thing, either. It's simply not their cup of tea.

 

[Beckers1]

Thank you! 😀

Yeah I was about to answer when I seen Nomming did, that is Yuno. Also Mash is very much correct roleplays just arent for certain people who want something more tangible, so its good to not expect it. You show respect to the person for not being presumptious and if they do want to when the subject comes up it's a good surprise!

 

[dalekfire]

RP can be bad. Those who are unlucky enough to roleplay with Dalekfire are never seen again. Those who survive the encounter are never the same person. Those who try to speak of the event find themselves without a voice, feeling a sharp pain in their noggin. And they all start to see shadows in their bedrooms at night - dark shadows saturated in evil, that leer over them as they try to sleep.

'Sides that, RP is all right. 😛 Most of what was said by others thus far is pretty much the unspoken truth though; there are certain conditions and expectations for different people, levels of tolerance and all of that. But one thing that I can share that is really starting to irk me, personally, is the unchecked persistence of requesting roleplay.

I, like many who frequent the chatroom and forums, are here for friendships - for getting to know people, asking how their day went, arguing about the quality of videogames and joking about how bad a recent movie was, sometimes engaging in utter chatroom shenaniganery that gets everyone in stitches, and yes, sometimes having a fun ticklish roleplaying session. I understand that there are those who love roleplaying more than others, and some who pretty much define their experiences here at the Theater as a fun place to roleplay - and that's perfectly fine and awesome.

Buuut I've had instances when people just want to roleplay, and always want to roleplay, and feel dejected and offended when said roleplay is turned down, and then refuses to talk about anything else because roleplay isn't on the menu that day...until the next day, when it's time to try again. Again, I don't mind if that sort of thing clicks between certain people, because I can see how it's awesome when it does. But not everyone can handle/are into that, and the constant tug-and-push to roleplay gets very annoying after a while.

Anyway, that's my contribution to when I think RP can be "bad." And holy crap, that was a rant, wasn't it? :blink

 

[Titillaria]

I don't see anything wrong with it. I've done it myself on occasion, but the one thing I don't like is when people get pushy about it. If I want to, I will. If not, don't keep asking, or (worse) just start RPing with me out of the blue.

 

[zen_in_fiction]

So I was wondering this, just wanted to get an opinion from people about role playing or cybering. I mean I know its not for everyone, but lately alot of people make it seem like its bad. I mean is it really that bad I like cybering and rping with friends or do you guys feel its bad? Thoughts and opinions. So the question is, why do people think rping and cybering is horrible, just trying to get a general idea on the why.

I think cybering and rping are awesome! Fantastic ways to share your fantasies or play them out with other like minded people if the real deal isn't necessarily accessible to you currently.

Writing is a very imaginative thing and in my view the most powerful stuff is invoked by the human mind! 🙂