Sad irony; advice requested

[starfires]

Hi folks. I've been lurking here for a year or so, off and on. Thought I'd share some of life's annoying ways with you. Maybe my experience will help some of you avoid the same. Maybe someone here will be able to help me.
I realized I loved tickling about 6 years ago (when I was about 16 years old). Until recently, my last experience with being tickled for more than half a second at a time was around age 14. In the interim, I longed for the feeling of quick and gentle fingertips on my ribs, for laughing so hard I couldn't breathe... Just thinking of if it made my stomach tingle.
So a few weeks ago I met a really cool girl. She is smart, and caring, and attractive, and loves physical attention. The good news is, she is very ticklish, especially under her arms (my favorite spot to tickle), and doesn't mind being tickled a bit (even thinks it's fun), and it doesn't even bother her that I get a raging erection whenever I tickle her. So we're lounging on the carpet, and I keep tickling her sides, then she reaches a hand into my armpit, and -- nothing. She tries my ribs, tummy -- still nothing. The bad news is, after all these lonely years of waiting, I am not ticklish anymore!
So this is my question to all you, o wise people of TMF: What can I do to get my ticklishness back? It seems to still be there in small amounts, popping up once in a while, especially with surprise tickles.
And here is a warning to those of you who are in tickling "dry spells": ticklishness is a delicate thing, it requires care and feeding. Find someone to tickle you once in a while; pay someone to tickle you if you have to, but do it lest you end up like me -- a tickling impotent.

 

[mysterytic]

What good is it to be ticklish and never be tickled?

That is the question I asked a reluctant date one time. Anyway I am not sure anybody can tell you how to make yourself ticklish again. Experiment with different types of touches like poking, stroking, try lotions, try doing it under different relaxed conditions. Maybe a blindfold will help as you say a surprise tickle will occasionally be effective. You may even try being bound and helpless. That will often magnify any tickling sensation. One thing, though, never try to fake it. If your g/f is young and inexperienced it may work early on, but as many in this forum will tell you anyone with tickle experience can spot faking a mile away. Good luck and I hope you get to laugh yourself silly next time she touches you.

 

[TicklingDuo]

Starfires... The first thiing that popped into my head was the "performance anxiety". So often, people get themselves worked into a frenzy about how something "should" be. When it isn't exactly that, their system goes into a shut-down moad and doesn't respond at all. It's entirely possible that, after wanting it so much for so long, your system isn't ready for the real thing. Be patient with yourself and give it time. As mysterytic said, different touches may work. Just relax as much as you can and let it be natural. Don't try to build up to or force it. Good luck!

Ann

 

[TicklingDuo]

maybe this will help...

You've just been put under a spell that makes you the most ticklish person in the world. I'm more than happy to step aside and let you take over that role. ;-)

Ann

 

[Krokus]

Whoa

I did not think that losing your ticklishness was possible!!! Guess I was wrong......😕

 

[terorizer]

Either/Or

Just a thought Starfire, but maybe you're the type that needs to concentrate on being tickled or doing the tickling,one or the other. You said your friend tickled you while you were in the process of tickling her pretty good and I know personally, (thought I love a good ticklefight), if I'm REALLY in tickler mode, my ticklishness will drop. It's like being so focused on doing one thing, the brain closes off to something else. Just something I've noticed about myself, may be the same for you.

 

[tummyticklish01]

I just hope my ticklishness never goes away!!!

i suggest u get tickled by someone else, because sometimes it may just be the tickler. sometimes, for some people it depends on who's tickling them, so take a shot at it😉

 

[QBWeaver]

I remember a thread long ago somewhere where a person said they went to a Hypnotist because they wanted to be ticklish and they weren't. From what I remember I believe it worked. You might want to try that but it could backfire and make you SO ticklish that you can't stand it anymore at all...

Who knows. Might be worth a try.