Secret Identity

[TKDANNY]

i just want too know if any of you ae like me
scared that any1 will find out your fetish for tickling who actually knows you
is it just me or is it alot of people
if it is alot of people its because you are all so open to strangers like me that i think im the only one

 

[WorkInProgress]

Well, speaking for myself...

I would not talk about this with my casual acquaintances or professional associates. As for personal friends, I actually get the impression that my best friends would rather not know every little detail about me unless there's a specific reason for them to. But there are some people I tell, when the conversation makes it right. It's not even a matter of their being particularly close to me, but rather one of there being a context of personal discussion of the nature that would make it seem appropriate.

 

[Limeoutsider]

Yep. That's one of the resons my pic isn't posted. Or my AIM handle.

 

[Darkknight]

Hence I wear the Darkknight screenname as my mask.

 

[U.N.Owen]

My family knows because I chose to tell them; it didn't bother them. My friends/acquaintances do not know, and will not. When and if I find a significant other, I will explain it to her (if she can't handle it, she's not much of a significant other).

 

[critterlord]

I refuse to allow any more people to know my true identity. I enjoy living two lives. The secret is half the fun for me.😎

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Hehehe

A lot of my friends know about my fetish and think its pretty cool. In fact, one or two have even been experimenting with this. I think a lot of them, after getting to know me this far, are just relieved its not something wierder. LOL. I'm that classic "wierd guy" that everyone knows at least one of.

 

[Terra_Ascension]

The Truth shall set you free!!!

Who in my life knows? Well letsi...

Everyone knows!!! My friends know. My family knows. Heck, the entire OMNIVERSE knows! So how do I live with everyone knowing? FREELY!!! At first I felt uncomfortable but after a while I felt more free about it then I ever have!! Like a giant weight had been lifted off my shoulders! Really ppl...a tickling fetish aint that wierd at all...it's actually damn cool! When you check out some of the other fetishes out there...my God...tickling is so light, playful, harmless and Heavenly! The Almighty Himself loves tickling! Take it from me! 😉

TA

 

[icemanuk]

Hmmm

I think that many people choose to keep it quiet as it is still seen as Taboo. Certainly here in the UK, and I am sure all the others from the UK will agree, people have a hard time accepting anything that is new to them. It isn't because they are snobby or stuck up but because they are human.

I personally have kept it a secret from everyone but 1 friend, who happens to be a ticklephile too. Then he only found out by accident. Most people are not ready to have their lives upset by something like this however small it may be to us. Also, many people enjoy the second existance (RE:Critterlord's post) as they do not have to face upsetting any1 or "embaressing" themselves.

Ice😎

 

[TKDANNY]

Ive told one friend today
its a girl
her street had a gas leek and couldnt stay in there houses
she staying with me for at least a week
i told her and she said she wanted me to tickle her, i did, sorry i didnts have a camera or vid camera at hand
im not going to tell you her name cause i respect her privessy

 

[Neutron]

Why Hide It?

Grow up, be an adult and proud of yourself.


Tron

 

[cleopatra2003]

Re: Why Hide It?

Grow up, be an adult and proud of yourself.


Tron

🙄

 

[Darkknight]

"Grow up, be an adult and proud of yourself."- Tron

Make me Tron.

 

[TicklingDuo]

I don't much care who knows that I love tickling. My family and many of my friends know. But, like any other "sexual" interest, it's still a personal thing and not really something I get into details about.

Ann

 

[TKDANNY]

my friend
the one who i told
is going to join when she goes back home
and ofcause ill try and video tape or photograph out next ticklng exspiriance

 

[aphrael]

Re: Hmmm

I think that many people choose to keep it quiet as it is still seen as Taboo. Certainly here in the UK, and I am sure all the others from the UK will agree,

absolutely.
only my girlfriend knows, and she's really cool about it. i cant imagine ever telling anyone else though 🙁 apart from you lovely people of course 😉

 

[BellaRisa]

Re: Why Hide It? Because it's for *you* not them

Grow up, be an adult and proud of yourself.

Tron

Um, This sentiment could have been expressed with a bit more finesse, but for once I agree with Neutron as far as being proud of who you are.
I no longer pal around with anyone with whom I can't be my true self, because worrying about my 'other' life coming out is entirely too much work for a big mouth like me; having vanilla girlfriends always meant getting WEIRD looks when I brought up tickling, and while I never cared what they thought it was annoying as hell. Besides, friendship is like love: if it's true it should always be a joy and not a burden.

Having said that, the precious few vanilla folks in my life (there ain't many these days) are on a need-to-know basis. My favorite bro-in-law knows I'm into BDSM-type stuff, period. I told him because he was seriously wondering why I disappear for an evening whenever we visit him in NY, and he overheard that I was meeting friends from the 'net. Poor man thought I was a closet trekkie, which he found scarier than the truth somehow. 🙄 Now when he comes to visit I can take him to a party without scaring him, and he's actually looking forward to it 😎 .

But let me add that I do NOT think that keeping your interests to yourself makes you childish or insecure; your sexuality is *your* business alone, who you share it with is entirely up to you. The fact that your cubicle-buddy has no idea what you do on weekends and behind your bedroom door just means you have a great private life, that's all.

Bella

 

[coolman]

so then tron, i take it you've told absoloutly everyone you've ever known.

as for me, i've never told anyone as of yet. i will when i have the need to; there's no need to shout about it.

 

[venray]

I don't wanna grow up..I am proud of myself.....and I tell those closest to me only......



Ven

 

[luv2bt&tickled]

This is sort of like, keep it in behind close doors. I am not ashamed of my desires for tickling but I don't go around with a sign saying hey I love to be tickled! My close friends and my husband know of my desires. I feel no need to annouce this to the whole world. That's just me though, to each his or her's own. What ever floats ya boat, or trips your trigger! 😀 🙂 😉

 

[grippedchimp]

It's true about the UK being somewhat uptight with this tickling lark. If I did tell anyone, it's likely they'll brand me as weird. Not many people in the UK are open about their fetishes.

Most people who know me, whether in real life or online, know I'm a cartoonist. People who know me in real life have seen the cartoon version of myself, which is essentially as my Poisonous Monkey alias, minus the mask of course. There is a stupid premonition that if I used my unmasked persona here, they might find out what I get up to online, so I put myself in the mask. It's a weird situation, but I wish I could be more open about it.

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Ah....

Most people who know me, whether in real life or online, know I'm a cartoonist. People who know me in real life have seen the cartoon version of myself, which is essentially as my Poisonous Monkey alias, minus the mask of course. There is a stupid premonition that if I used my unmasked persona here, they might find out what I get up to online, so I put myself in the mask. It's a weird situation, but I wish I could be more open about it.

Why do you think my online persona has the big crappy theme park mask? LOL.

And I dunno..I always felt like I was in some kind of exclusive club, how few knew it existed other than its members...makes ya feel special...

 

[WorkInProgress]

I just want to say, I disagree with "grow up." Reason: In this community, we all experience the interest we have in different ways. I don't think there's any one formula to being a good ticklephile, or a grown-up one.

Oh, and you want to know a twist? A few weeks ago I was having dinner with a female friend (one whom I would not mind a chance to tickle), and when I started to tell her "I have a fetish," she made it really clear (without saying anything rude or hostile) that she'd rather not know what it is. I think that's probably true of a lot of my friends, actually.

 

[JPie1]

I remain very private in my home life about this. I like having this private side to me...

 

[avethibaltus]

Deviant sexual behavior. Not my term and certainly not what I would call it, but that's what THEY would call it where I come from, that's what the implication would be here if someone went public as Neutron implies would be appropriate.

Everyone needs secrets, if for nothing more than to show those that they trust exactly how far they are trusted. People also need an opportunity to explain their motivation for doing X or Y. Walk down the street with a tattoo on your forehead which says "Let's Tickle" and you will be subject to all of the stereotypical responses that people who have no idea come up with.

Look around your community and identify the foreigners or people who are "not like you". How did you do it? Most likely you identified them by how they look or talk. What feelings do you have about these people? Good, bad, indifferent. Pick one of them out and talk to them, find out more about them and you will most likely find that they do not in fact quite fit into that slot you put them in when you first saw them.

Openly declaring your fetish to someone who doesn't care about the "why" or "what for" will most likely subject you to unnecessary abuse, or at the least, a whispering campaign.