Seems like whenever something good happens...(asking for help)

[JRavada]

Something bad tags along with it. So think some people can help?

I have this close friend named Tiffany. We've been best friends the last sixth months, leaned on each other quite a bit. I've sort of fallen from her, however she still has shit going on with her ex, so I know it's just a friendship. We know the ins and outs of each other like no bodies buissness.

The one thing I knew is she's not ticklish, execpt on her knees. And she hates it to the point she gets very mad when you do do it, so I just refrain from it.

One day we were sitting around and tickling came up, and I convinced her to try and make herself ticklish. She tried reluctantly, however it didn't work. Out of no where she says, "Well, sometimes the bottoms of my feet are ticklish."

My heart nearly leaped out of my throut. This beautiful girl with PERFECT size 6 feet (nice high arches, well maintained. Not a callous on them, very soft, perfect little toe) has ticklish feet. I had never tried because she always said she wasen't ticklish anywhere.

So I get her to let me try, and the reactions were pretty natural. I even had her rolling and laughing for a few seconds.

Now, here's where it goes down hill; she was able to "turn it off" and said she really hates being tickled. She told because because of her size ( 5'1 105 lbs, and thats present) when she was little she would be pinned down and tickled to tears by family and such. And she grew to hate it and control it by basically turning it off. So she's pretty against it.

She know's my loving for it, and obviously tried making me happy by letting me tickle her. Is there anyway or anything that could help her get over that hate? Like, if there's a psychologist in the house, that could be helpful. Like anything I could say or methods or something that'd be a nice step by step to get her over the hump. I'm exactly experianced with this.

And she expressed her willingness by ending the tickle session with "If you can make me not hate it, you're welcome to try."

 

[brad1701]

What you have here is a massive psychological block. At a formative stage in her development, she learned to associate tickling with abuse, bullying and domination (not the good kind). It's like those cases you hear about where a woman was sexually abused when she was a child--and twenty years later can't have sex with her SO, no matter how much she wants to. Such a perception is not going to be easy to dislodge, though doing so is not unprecedented.

You're going to have to try create some NEW associations. I'm willing to bet that the bastards who screwed her up were bad, clumsy ticklers--all relentless digdigdigdig, so that it hurt as much as it tickled. In response, it's going to be vital that you be gentle and light. Soft pokes and stroking, and absolutely NO feeling that she's trapped. Make sure she can pull away any time she wants to.

You could also try making a game out of it. Something playing with anticipation, though be warned it could just as easily be a worse trigger.

At a fundamental level, it's about trust. If she's able to put her intellectual recognition of you as a friend and someone who means her no harm over her visceral reaction to tickling as abuse, then you've done it. One last warning, however, that you may not succeed. The human mind is a complicated thing. It's going to take a lot of patience anyway, but in the end, you can't fight the inside.

Good luck, sir. 🙂

 

[JRavada]

Thank you very much for that =] I greatly apperciate that.

We both have a lot of trust, and I wanted to try and get her to associate tickling, at least with me, as a fun pleasent thing as oppossed to it being abusive and painful.

So yeah, that helpe a lot. I can't thank you enough.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother wonders if you do some tickling plus some fondling maybe it might help. Also try to get her horny, tickle her, get her horny and maybe use a toy of her girlie parts. The sensation of a toy or a massager might be good and that combined with the tickling could give her earth shattering orgasms. If this happens then she might allow you to tickle her if you also pleasure her beyond anything she can imagine

 

[JRavada]

Haha, that would be acceptible if we weren't just friends. She has a boyfriend, so it's a bit harder to do that.

 

[brad1701]

It's better that way, anyway. You can afford to spend a long time on it, and if you don't succeed, you're not faced with an unpleasant decision.

 

[JRavada]

It's better that way, anyway. You can afford to spend a long time on it, and if you don't succeed, you're not faced with an unpleasant decision.

What do you mean, better what way?

 

[brad1701]

That's she's just a friend, as opposed to your SO.

 

[morgandee]

barf

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother is living proof that you really never know what evil or good the future can dump on you. keep at it with the lady fan of yours and maybe something will happen. The hollywood brother do not think it hurts to spend or invest a little time. Worst case, no tickles. Best hollywood brother outcome is tickling plus her heart. The hollywood brother might think it worth the risk but it up to you if it worth going after or not.