Todd;
no big deal my friend, I think all we were trying to do (before someone jumped on us for it) was let you know that there are ways to do things that, for all intents and purposes, make sense, but ultimately don't work.
Take this "honesty" thing for example. Few years back I had a blind date with a Korean girl. I'm of average weight for my height, but I'm not particularly muscle-bound. First thing this girl says to me when we meet is, "you really should start working out."
talk about a mood-killer. especially when she wasn't exactly ready for the cover of Cosmo herself. that's the kind of honesty no one really cares for. being up-front about yourself in a personal ad is expected; cut through the crap n' all. there's a fine line though, and everyone is advised to not fumble over it. A woman or two posted here and supported this theory, so I think it's a pretty good one to go on.
another example. I used to post ads on the internet myself. For whatever reasons, I am primarily attracted to Asian women. If you put this in an ad, however, most Asian girls will NOT respond. They, whether reasoning right or wrong, will think you're stereotyping them as submissive little China Dolls and nothing you can say will sway them. So what I learned to do was, not post that in my own ads, but only respond to ads from Asian women. That way they'd never know. 😀 and as I ultimately ended up marrying the finest Chinese woman to ever walk the Earth, I'd say it was the right way to go.
good luck in your searches. God knows it won't be easy. 'specially here. 😀
