Some people can't answer a simple @#$%ing question

[CaptainQuantum]

I'm in the chatroom tonight and I ask someone if her soles are ticklish. All she keeps saying is "I'm not into feet". I didn't ASK what she's into, I don't CARE what she's into. Was just asking for my own fantasy purposes. I know there's nothing that says she HAS to answer. It just irritates me when women answer this way for no apparent reason: "I'm not into feet" and I ask women at random on AOL all the time and sometimes I get this response. I know they don't HAVE to answer, but damn is it so much trouble to just take 2 seconds to answer a simple question? Especially in a tickling chatroom? I mean that's what we're there for! Just a rant.

 

[Redmage]

It's hard to guess, but if I had to then I'd say she might have been looking for an interactive fantasy of some kind. If she wasn't going to get anything out of it, then I reckon she might not have wanted to get into it.

 

[tickledorange]

Or maybe because answering a simple question like that with MOST people, turns into MORE simple questions. After a while, one person could care less about what the other is talking about because the first person drags ON and ON about their ONE simple question.

 

[TickleMePleeze]

A Woman's Perspective

I'm not the woman from chat so I can't say for sure what happened. But here is my take for what it is worth:

If you don't have ticklish soles then it's easy to just say nope not ticklish there. But if you do have ticklish soles and don't want to be bombarded with too much interest then rather than lie you would say "I'm not into feet."

I think the problem is that if you do have ticklish soles and you answer yes then it's not going to take 2 seconds because there will probably be a lot of followup questions. And she has probably been asked the question about ticklish soles a lot of times already today and answered the followup questions too. You might just be guy X when she has had enough of that question.

Women get creeped out very easily. I'm not saying it's because a guy really did anything wrong. But I think women are just wired to get creeped out. And most of the time we don't even know why it happens. Showing too much interest can be a fast track to a woman getting that creeped out feeling. Doing "interview style" chat is a way of showing too much interest.

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[Goodieluver]

Valium, make friends with it fast

I get annoyed by people who PM me askin if i like girls' feet(this from guys) and then however i answer they go into more bullcrap about "whats your fave part, what celeb do u like, etc etc" What, are u getting off to me saying what i like about girls? I only really PM people who quirk me intellectually, except avenger, whom will be destroyed someday by me

 

[Tamia78]

Or maybe because answering a simple question like that with MOST people, turns into MORE simple questions. After a while, one person could care less about what the other is talking about because the first person drags ON and ON about their ONE simple question.

I totally agree with TO. Maybe she has had one too many "simple questions" and she just didn't feel like answering at that moment. Sorry Cap, but sometimes that happens.

 

[Em Es]

Women don't lie. It's just that men don't listen!

CQ, when a woman dodges your question take it as the answer you didn't want. The message of your question - "I'd like to tickle your feet" - was what that woman heard, so rather than answer what you asked, she replied to what you were really saying.

 

[lk70]

It seems to me if it's all your fantasy anyway and you don't care what she's into, why even include her? Go have your fantasy on your own.

 

[Wolf]

Or maybe because answering a simple question like that with MOST people, turns into MORE simple questions. After a while, one person could care less about what the other is talking about because the first person drags ON and ON about their ONE simple question.

"I didn't ASK what she's into, I don't CARE what she's into. Was just asking for my own fantasy purposes." - Cap

:: Full Disclosure : I'm an upperbody tickler myself, so the one-mindedness of many foot ticklers tends to annoy me. Thus the editorial slant:

Does anyone anything resembling a cause-and-effect scenario, here? If you're not willing to go to any trouble for her, like treating her as something other than a (free) phone sex operator, why should she bother answering you the way you want?

Just from what I've seen in the main room, the conversations tend to go like this, with a Questioner, and a Respondent (Not saying this is you, Cap...I'm just saying....)

Q - "Hello!"
R - "Hello."
Q - "Are your feet ticklish?"
R - "No, they're not..but I'm really ticklish on my - (insert area here that doesn't turn the questioner on)."
Q - "Oh, then your feet just haven't been tickled the right way!"
R - "No, they're not ticklish at all."
Q - "Not at all?"
R - "No, really, I'm not into feet...but I'm really ticklish - (Again referencing areas that don't interest the questioner)."
Q - "But what about your feet? Have they ever been ticklish? What size are they?? What are you wearing on them now?"
R - "I'm really not into feet."
Q - "What's wrong with you?? This is a tickling chatroom, isn't it?? Why do you come here if not to chat about tickling (meaning, feet)?????

The people who come here (male, female, male pretending to be female, female pretending to be male, male pretending to be coed with 3 tickle-mad female roommates, male pretending to be WWF Diva, etc)...even behind their personas, they're all still human beings, not push-button "I'll tell you whatever you want to hear, to make you aroused" servants. You have to pay for those. :Checking to make sure my Credit Card statement is out of eyeshot:

Remember, half of everything I say is to be taken with a grain of salt. The other half is complete bullshit.

 

[Helena]

I am not the girl who you were trying to chat with, but since you asked why women cannot answer a simple question, here are my thoughs.
I find that everyone has their own reasons for entering this chat room.
This woman was not there to talk about her ticklish soles.
You wanted to talk about ticklish soles.
Since you wanted different things, you are just reacting to your frustration about not getting exactly what you wanted.
You seem intelligent. Not starting a conversation with you about ticklish soles is no big deal. A different woman on a different day might be more than willing to have a talk about her soles.
In the chatroom, I've met all kinds of people. Good luck to you.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I dont' use the chat room much. Actually, I haven't been online much period the last few months....mainly on and off for a few minutes at a time. But, I thought I'd toss in my two cents, for what it's worth.

I've often encountered guys, both in chat rooms and on IM, who do nothing but ask a string of questions. Usually, that leads to a request for cyber play. I've gotten to the point where I generally stop them and tell them that I want to know something about who they are before talking tickles. If they aren't willing to do that, they end up getting blocked. As with any form of communication, it works best if there's give and take from both sides.

Yes, it may be a TK chat room. But, I personally go there to visit with others, not just to talk tickles. The same goes for IMs. My handle is a TK related one. If I happen to leave IMs open, that doesn't mean that someone (esp. someone I don't know) can pop up and monopolize my time for their own purposes without giving me an inch in getting to know them. I have no problem talking tickles with people. But, that's not ALL I want to talk about.

IMHO, expecting everyone to cater to what YOU want is simply unreasonable. (I say "YOU" in a generic sense.)

 

[chicago]

I answered that way because I'm not into feet!

More importantly, I'm not into answering a million questions from all the foot fetishists swarming around.

Even just asking that question in the chatroom and let's say I answered honestly, even if you had stopped at that, I would have been bombarded with PMs from people talking about feet.

And you know what?


I'm really not into feet.

So get over it.

 

[theshire]

Ticklishgiggle - I applaud you. You stuck it to the damn foot fetishists and I think that's what they need. Good for you!

 

[fttickler]

Ok.. A chat room mods point of view...

First for those who do not know me, I am an all over tickler with a preference for feet. Ok that being said,

"theshire Ticklishgiggle - I applaud you. You stuck it to the damn foot fetishists and I think that's what they need. Good for you!
Today 08:50 AM "

Grow up shire, we do not attack you for your likes. please allow the same to others in the chat room and on this site. Please show the respect you hope to get.

I know Giggle. She is an intelligent woman who happens not to like feet. That does not stop me from liking her. We have chatted about many things before.

Now CQ, like most when I am in in the chat room, I try to keep order and using hte rules section as a guide line. Some follow, some don't and others who have been ther ea long time make exceptions for those close friends they have known for awhile. First. Main chat room rule, Ask first in main room before just IM'ing a user. This goes for all. That includes ( as someone said earlier ) a guy seeing my nick as fttickler and saying.. ( without a request first ) " So how did you like the feet on this person " Guess what you are going to get 2 of 3 things happen first. 1) I am gonna answer yo0 first in main room saying No " insert user nick here " I do not accept unsolicited chat. you must ask in chat room first if you would like a PC. 2) since the owners prefer the MODS not to place people on ignore you may get a response from me you do not like. and if you continue, then the 3rd opion is booting you from chat. I find most women, even the ones who have been around for a while would prefer to settle in the the room before getting bombbarded with IM, PM's and question. A nice hello in main room is always appropriate. Also they DO NOT have to respond to you. Also some are logged on and nowhere near their screen ( I am guilty of that one. ) and if you presist then they have 2 opinons ( Is everyone listenting out there ). Fristh the chat room has an Ignore buttom. If you are not accepted and deemed to be harassing the person they can place you on ignore and they will see nothing youtype in the main channel anymore nor will your IM's be even acknowledged by their system. THe second option is to report it to a MOD and this could lead to a warning, a removal from chat or being banned from chat completely. I say to all who read this. The biggest of chatroom rules is Please do not initiate a PM's with a user without asking in main chat first. Thanks for listening... now back to our regularly scheduled program

Adam aka fttickler

 

[theshire]

Grow up shire, we do not attack you for your likes. please allow the same to others in the chat room.

I'm not attacking anyone for their "likes"; only the way they go about so brazenly "sharing" them with the community. If you don't know what that means then track down my old thread "Foot Fetishists Here" and give it a read. This story is just one example of what gets my goat and I fully support the action taken by ticklishgiggle and think it should become the majority response to such questons.

Carry on, though.

 

[BellaRisa]

This is SO not just about the foot guys. Yes, they can be extra pesky, but frankly I suspect that if underarms came in numbered sizes the upperbodyboys would be a whole 'nother level of pest 😎

Fellas, sometimes even ladies with incredibly deep tk interests get tired of answering your rather relentless questions about our kinks and our bodies. Any female who's been a forum member for more than a week is weary of discussing her feet, her toes, the word 'soles'...I promise you that your question isn't original, and the repetition can be maddening. And occasionally we don't feel like being the star of your mastur-fest even if we know and like you, and especially if we don't. Don't take it personally, just move on

Bella

 

[fttickler]

Go Bella...

Yes. I agree.. when in the chat room I try to keep respect at least at a maximum. And you are right.. it is so not about foot fetishists.... and Shire... look at your first post.. you DID point out specifically foot people.. I gather there may be one or two people on this site or somewhere that dont like your questions or brand of tickling either....whatever they may be.



Rock On....

 

[Mz Chaos]

Yes, it may be a TK chat room. But, I personally go there to visit with others, not just to talk tickles. The same goes for IMs... ...If I happen to leave IMs open, that doesn't mean that someone (esp. someone I don't know) can pop up and monopolize my time for their own purposes without giving me an inch in getting to know them. I have no problem talking tickles with people. But, that's not ALL I want to talk about.

IMHO, expecting everyone to cater to what YOU want is simply unreasonable. (I say "YOU" in a generic sense.)

AMEN!!!

I popped in there once. My purpose for going there was to chat and bullshit with folks and to be able to talk in real time without having to use PM's (PM's can take up quite a bit of time as you each have to wait for the other to open the PM and respond to it.)

I find most women, even the ones who have been around for a while would prefer to settle in the the room before getting bombbarded with IM, PM's and question. A nice hello in main room is always appropriate.

I wasn't in there 2 minutes and was starting to enjoy chatting with the room when I had 3 folks IM'ing me.

First. Main chat room rule, Ask first in main room before just IM'ing a user.

This rule was conveniently ignored, but not wanting to appear unsociable my first time there, I answered the IM's.

At first it was the usual a/s/l question... that was pretty legit... I had no problem with that. Then the talks turned to tickling. Okay... I was in a tickling chat room... that was also expected. But then the questions started getting more and more personal to the point of being uncomfortable.

Women get creeped out very easily. I'm not saying it's because a guy really did anything wrong. But I think women are just wired to get creeped out. And most of the time we don't even know why it happens. Showing too much interest can be a fast track to a woman getting that creeped out feeling. Doing "interview style" chat is a way of showing too much interest.

Yeppers... and I am one of those who gets "creeped out" for the reasons given above.

In the meantime... the IM's were taking away from my real reason for being there which wasn't to cyber tickle or to fulfill someones tickling fantasies, but to meet and talk to folks in the community whom I don't normally get to talk to.

I think the problem is that if you do have ticklish soles and you answer yes then it's not going to take 2 seconds because there will probably be a lot of followup questions. And she has probably been asked the question about ticklish soles a lot of times already today and answered the followup questions too. You might just be guy X when she has had enough of that question.

The way I look at it... there's a zillion threads with stories (real and fantasy)and videos and photos put there for folks to read or look at to fulfill whatever tickling fantasy needs there are.
I have posted replies ad nauseum to threads about my tickle spots and preferences to the point where if folks were really interested, it seems as if they should already know the answer to the information they are asking of me. I get what I sometimes feel is more than my fair share of PM's about my tickle spots and preferences (which I try to do my best to answer - until they get too persistent and I get "creeped out" - and, might I add, not ALL have "creeped" me out. I have met some pretty great folks and wonderful friends through my PM box - folks who wanted to get to know more about me than just where and how much I am ticklish).

Yes... it is a tickling chatroom.
Yes... I expect folks to talk about tickling
But...
I also think the chatroom would be a great place to meet more of the community; to get to know them in ways that PM's and replies to threads don't allow; to make friends with those who frequent the chatroom more than the threads and to joke and laugh and have a good time.

Granted... I skipped out of there before I could explore and find the different features of the chatroom or I would have found that neat little thing that disables the IM's.
I also (not wanting to be a tattle-tale) didn't notify the MOD in residence when I felt the questions had overstepped their bounds and headed toward the indecent.
Had I done these things, my stay there would have been a lot more pleasant and would have been more productive toward what I had went there for. Which was to mingle and meet new folks.

 

[siamese dream]

okay, to the original poster...what if you had gone into the tickling chat, and a guy asked you a question about your feet....and you said "I'm not into guys"...that isn't what he asked either, is it? Should you be expected to give an answer? of course not. What the woman was really saying by not answering your question was 'either talk to me about something else, or leave me alone'.

I chat on and off and yes, all the other ladies are right, we get IM's about this stuff all the time. sometimes I do like to talk about foot tickling, and usually I don't mind answering questions like this, but it does get annoying to answer the same questions over and over, and some of you guys can be really persistent when it comes to certain topics, even if the woman is giving you all the signs that she's not nearly as interested in the particular topic as you are. The cyber one is probably the most annoying to me... I generally don't like to cyber and it seems kind of silly and isn't a real turn-on for me, but that's what a lot of the chat guys are looking for. I've even had a few ask if I wanted to cyber, and I told them in a very straightforward way that I don't really like cybering and prefer to just talk...and the next message is something like 'I tie u up and begin wiggling my fingertips on ur helpless soles!'
It's like, sheesh, we should just get a chatbot that reacts like a woman being cyber-tickled no matter what you type into it, because it seems like that would keep this type of guy occupied for hours without the little problem of the woman not being into it 😉

 

[ShadowTklr]

I'm in the chatroom tonight and I ask someone if her soles are ticklish. All she keeps saying is "I'm not into feet". I didn't ASK what she's into, I don't CARE what she's into. Was just asking for my own fantasy purposes. I know there's nothing that says she HAS to answer. It just irritates me when women answer this way for no apparent reason: "I'm not into feet" and I ask women at random on AOL all the time and sometimes I get this response. I know they don't HAVE to answer, but damn is it so much trouble to just take 2 seconds to answer a simple question? Especially in a tickling chatroom? I mean that's what we're there for! Just a rant.

No offense to you personally, but I think you've just demonstrated an ideology that most women find to be a callous approach to a conversation with them.

When you say that you were "just asking for your own fantasy purposes," that's really saying that you don't care about them as people, and you certainly don't care whether or not they WANT to be a contributor to your fantasy. You just want them to answer your %#$&@$#%!!ing question.

Again, no offense to you, but I think you're subscribing to something that will probably never serve you well.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I think some people forget that the chat room is as much a social gathering as it is a tickling chatroom. Contrary to the argument in support of the chatroom being nothing more than a "tickling" chat room, it is also a place where people go to socialize with others for a variety of things. Tickling just happens to be an interest shared by all participants.

For many, the TMF has become so much more than simply a place to exchange tickling material. It has become a congregation of friends - a community that has grown in scope to include personalities, not just persons.

Now for the reality check: Negative chatroom behavior is as predictable as yesterday's weather. You can talk about the enforcement of etiquette from now until the cows come home, but it WILL NOT CHANGE. There will always be people who are rude, who do not know how to converse, and have no clue how to speak to women. So the question becomes, instead of trying to figure out how to change the bad behavior, perhaps everyone should be looking for a way to offset it.

Personally, I think the blame lies with BOTH participants in most bad exchanges. The first problem is that some guys think that women are simply interactive jerk-off toys with an obligation to answer every unsolicited repetitive question they are asked to field. The second problem is that some women are so used to being asked the same question that they tend to be curt or even rude to what may be a very nice guy asking a very innocent question because after all, he IS in a tickling chatroom.

My advice -
Guys: Learn to develop an interest in women as people, rather than just shoe sizes, navel depths, and unusual areas of sensitivity. You might find that they have more to say than just "OMG I am so ticklish there!"

Women: Get it through your heads that in a tickling chatroom, there are going to be unsolicited questions about tickling. If you're not in the mood to talk about it, then just say so. If the questions persist, then simply ignore them. If they become harassing, then inform a mod.

 

[jk666uk]

10 more weeks it will be the same thread over AGAIN and again and again

 

[lk70]

10 more weeks it will be the same thread over AGAIN and again and again

And as was just pointed out, still NOTHING WILL CHANGE.

 

[theshire]

ShadowTiklr's post is a very good one.

It might be unfair to attribute this kind of thing to all foot fetishists but in my experience MOST of this forum's users who behave in the way Shadow describes are foot fetishists. FACT.

 

[jk666uk]

im with you theshire