Something is happening to my fetish...

[Moses25]

Is it possible to "grow" out of a fetish w/out treatment of some kind? I've been having an inkling for the past couple of months that something was growing within me mind ("It's nawta Tumaa")and finally it crystalized the other day: If I didn't have my fetishes, I would find bare feet rather disagreeable and perhaps even disgusting, and, futhermore, I would find tickling rather silly.

What the hell is happening to me?!?

(Perhaps, maybe, this is why I've been so disagreeable of late).

Any feedback - greatly appreciated, yadda yadda yadda.

Cheers.

 

[Myriads]

Like any aspect of your psychology, a fetish can grow, shrink, and change based on other factors that are impacting you. So yes, you might be having a change of taste. It does happen. If so then roll with it and see where you land.

Myriads

 

[amk714]

Well said, Myriads!

Are you by any chance a REAL psychologist? 🙂

 

[hiram]

something is happening to my fetish?

I think I have a woman fetish, and it's getting more intense as I grow older. I just had a nightmare kind of thought. Maybe it's like a lightbulb...it flares up brightest just before it burns out!

Hey, tickling is all part of the package. There are ebbs and flows.

For the last while or two I've been introduced to the health care industry as a consumer. In fact, something has actually happened that precludes tickling of any sort for the last couple of whiles or so. I've noticed the tickle pressure in these fingers is actually building...something about absense and the heart I 'spect.

Anyway, I was in a waiting room of sorts some little while ago, and as can happen in waiting rooms, I sort of nodded off in my chair. It was that kind of REM-type sleep where you move in and out of consciousness with no particular pattern.

I have this theory that nurses of the female variety can be somewhat appealing to me, but that may just be that woman fetish acting up. While I was sitting near consciousness, I heard that word of words in conversation, "Tickle." I was suddenly no longer drifting.

I have no clue how much of the conversation I missed, but I caught just the last couple of sentences. There was a nurse with her back to me talking to this couple I would guess to be in their 50's. She looked perhaps early thirties. The nurse put her arms over her head and took one wrist by circling her other hand around it. Then she did one of those hip things that the lasses can do that are designed to turn knees to spaghetti(sp?). She thrust her hips far to one side, then reversed them all the way to the other. Then she said, but sort of on the quiet, "Oh my God. When I get tickled, I can't even talk!"

With that the conversation ended, but, let me tell you, nap time was over in that waiting room. The pressure in these fingers keeps building and building. People who aren't tickle people don't know what they're missing. I don't mind if mine gets more intense. I don't want it to burn out.

Hiram

Robert Goulet caught the woman fetish thing with perfect accuracy in his rendition of:

Pardon me miss,
but I've never done this,
with a real live girl...

Straight off the farm,
with an actual arm,
full of real live girl...

Pardon me please,
your affectionate squeeze,
fogs up my goggles and buckles my knees...

I'm all a-glow with the sight and the sound and the scent...and the feel,
of a real...live...girl...

(Just toss tickling into the mix...WOW!)

 

[Myriads]

amk714 asked: Are you by any chance a REAL psychologist?

No formal degree as a psychologist. Though I have some depth in it, did some PhD (never finished) work in the field, and have done suicide counceling on and off for a decade and change.

Myriads

 

[Moses25]

wowzers

Myriads,

Never knew you were so experienced. Sage.

Cheers.

(I have my honours in Psych...so there, Professor!)

 

[tklr5150]

Oh yeah? Well I've had psychologists and psychiatrists beating down my door for years with requests to write dissortations on me and do experiments on me in Vienna - so there!

Moses, I suppose it's possible to lose your interest over time, as with an interest in anything. On the other hand, it could just be a down cycle in which you're just not that interested in tickling right now. Either way, I don't think you'll have to turn in your TMF Membership Card or the accompanying Shiny Badge.

 

[dvnc]

Another scrap for the table - as you are exposed to this interested over time, your focus within it changes.

Consider puberty, and the first time you saw someone naked then. Remember how you responded to kissing, slow dancing, etc.

Do you still respond that way with everyone? Statistically, it's not likely. Many studies have been done, both within the Kinsey group and without. Part of adjusting well to any focused interest is exposure to that interest, and familiarity with others of said interest.

Yes, it means that places like this are good for you. Weird, no?

I ditched the psych degree in the second year. Couldn't deal wit' the notion of counselling child-abusers. My solution to their problem was decidedly less healthy than the profession allowed. Somethin' about not chokin' patients... Picky fuckers... Alas. 😉

One observation of proof, along the lines of exposure changing response - the West Coast Gatherings has a core crew of folks that attend several events a year. That group waxes and wanes, but those I saw in the last year, that had been to such events wit' group play and such, were SO much more comfortable and relaxed about the topic and the people. The new attendees tended to gravititate to those that they could perceive as comfortable with their interest. It was cool to observe.

While everyone has a variation on their focus within this interest, and on the extremity to which it's present, it's something that we adjust, within ourselves, all our lives, just like our sex drive. It's part o' that for most here, after all. For the lucky few that don't have such intensity as a constant, it's still something that attenuates over time, whether weakening in intensity, or repetition, or both.

My $0.02,

dvnc

 

[TickleCrazy]

Re: same objection as always, ticking isn't a fetish

yeah, I know it gets old. ...[snip]... So, before we use the term fetish, even if you want to use it with a looser definition, at least understand what it means clinically and what uses it loosely may do to the tickling community as a whole.[snip]

No, it doesn't get "old" to everyone. As someone said on another thread, newbees are joining this forum all the time and need this information. All that about fetishes is an eye-opener for me. So then, tickling is simply a sexual preference. Thanks Rook.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

moses

i think you are normal. everyone (i know never say everyone, or never, or always) has ups and downs in their likes, hobbies, fetishes, etc.
i am presently in a low point in my tickle interest also. it happens, and i expect this will pass for you, and myself.
just take it one day at a time, and enjoy all the other aspects of life.
steve

 

[Neutron]

Might I Suggest..

You stop looking at your feet?


Tron

 

[Krokus]

Well

Tickling for me is almost purely sexual....So I guess I can't stop loving it!!

 

[dodger]

I'll get flamed for this but my opinion is this. That no matter what some people try to say that tickling is not at all sexual to them, I dont believe that. Tickling is 2 humans touching and causing stimulation of the nerves, and I really dont think it can be done without some sexual overtones or feelings by the tickler, of some kind, no matter how small. Cha-Ching!

 

[mabus]

If I didn't have my fetishes, I would find bare feet rather disagreeable and perhaps even disgusting, and, futhermore, I would find tickling rather silly.

Well, then, you should start looking at pantyhosed feet, then bare feet won't be ugly! That's actually why I like pantyhose, I think they can make a foot prettier than bare feet.

RX: Tickle two pantyhose feet, and call me in the morning. But try to call me something nice......

_________________________________
www.ticklemeinnylons.com

 

[Sunday_10pm]

due flames

I'll get flamed for this but my opinion is this. That no matter what some people try to say that tickling is not at all sexual to them, I dont believe that. Tickling is 2 humans touching and causing stimulation of the nerves, and I really dont think it can be done without some sexual overtones or feelings by the tickler, of some kind, no matter how small. Cha-Ching!

So you mean when I sensually bash your head in with this lead bar, you actually find it arousing? Oh, silly me, it must be arousing because by touching you i'm causing "stimulation of the nerves". I'll just go and get a heavier bar.

 

[dvnc]

I'll get flamed for this but my opinion is this. That no matter what some people try to say that tickling is not at all sexual to them, I dont believe that. Tickling is 2 humans touching and causing stimulation of the nerves, and I really dont think it can be done without some sexual overtones or feelings by the tickler, of some kind, no matter how small. Cha-Ching!

Flamed? Not here, pilgrim.

I do disagree, and dislike where it seems you assume I'd say different. It smacks of personal accusation of lying on my part. Still, I figure you don't know me, and don't acknowledge what's been said countless times here before, that some of us have this as ALWAYS sexual, and some don't.

Acknowledging that is your choice, of course. Clearly, given Sunday's humor above, I'm not the only one that disagrees. There ARE folks here who DO have purely sexual associations, JUST like you.

NOT all are like you. Saying that they ARE like you, and in denial, is insulting, both to them, and to you. It's unnecessary, and unkind. Kindness is NOT a requirement here, though. Neither is accuracy, and disagreement's inevitable. You think your way about this, and some agree, and I think a different way, and know, personally, some believe me.

That's the world, brother. There's variety in response, belief and interest. Notice how many people DON'T dig tickling. There's more than one way in the world, y'know?

Civilly disagreein',

dvnc

 

[dodger]

Nah. Tickling is sensual and sexual. Period. 😀 😀 😎

 

[Moses25]

hm-hmmm

Alright, enuff already.

Seriously, though, thanx for the input.

Btw, any you guys ever heard of someone named Jugglertx?

Haahaahaahhahahahahahaha!!!!

Okay. Me go to sleep now.

Cheers.

 

[amk714]

Yes, I've heard of Jugglertx.

The name's funny, but not THAT funny! 😕

 

[qjakal]

Mod Editing

From this point on, the thread assumed a direction that was both unpleasant and OT to an unacceptable degree by all involved.

Sunday_10PM, please email Jeff or Myriads regarding your current email status.

Thank you. Q

 

[Sunday_10pm]

I agree with moderation but...

we arent babies.
Can I ask if you have an opinion on the matter q? do you think it is right for someone to be told how they feel by another person?

 

[Sunday_10pm]

Oh and I wont waste Jeff or Myriad's time asking them to undo whatever it is you've done to my email status

 

[Sunday_10pm]

oh and i especially like the part where you say "unacceptable by all involved: Sunday_10pm you have been punished"

 

[qjakal]

Done?

The Forum has done nothing to your email status. It's just not correct or active, and we wanted clarification and are unable to reach you. My opinion on the subjects in threads is irrelevant to my function. I have many threads on many subjects however, if you'd like to interact with my non modding persona. May I suugest the one on Tickling/Religion/Etc? Q

 

[Sunday_10pm]

ok