Strangers online please help!!!!!!!!!!

[tummynavelboy]

ok Well i recently meet this Girl named Amanda online through a chat room. and since me and her have Talked through msn messenger and emailed each other everynight very often infact. Turns out she is into tickling but she lives far away from me. so i COULD NOT call her because it would get added to my parents phone bill and i myself don't have a seprate phone line. plus i wouldn't wanna make charges to my parents phone. and when me and Amanda seem to talk on msn messenger and email we just seem to feel comfortable with each other. she's also been going through some stuff at home as of Late shes been telling me through email. since i email her back every night after we get off msn messenger with each other. But kinda in a way Wanna Snail Mail with this Amanda girl since we wouldn't be able to it through phone wise. But im just really really leery about people online. Plus i have NOT seen a picture of this amanda girl yet. Nor has she seen a picture of me yet. Im not saying every person online is out to get you and harm you because they are not....... But this day and age you just never know who your talking to onlnine now adays. i kinda wanna wait along time more till i get to know this Amanda Girl more and Finally see a real picture of her or two and finally when she see's a picture or two of me. But ever then thier is still no way to tell if this amanda Girl that o meant online is really who she claims to be? right? plus even if i did know this amanda Girl for along long time and we both did end up get comfortable with each other. and i did end up using Snail Mail (which i have never used for before by the way) i still would have to tell my parents whats been happening and what i have thought about doing. But my parents didn't have Internet back then! so they would be over protective of me and not wanting me to get hurt or something even worse of.

Am i like over re-acting here with this Amanda girl? i know there are Good people in the world but its just online it is hard to tell. What should i do? should i tell Amanda that we both should just stay really really good friends onlnine and thats it? No Snail Mail or nothnig like that because of safety reasons and issues?


Please read this whole thread and please think this over

Thank you everyone

 

[MistressValerie1]

Hi, my dear -- you are 100% right to be careful. If you have the slightest feeling that something might be "not quite right," you should err to the side of being too careful rather than too careless. I speak from experience, unfortunately, lol.

There are ways to help verify someone's identity, but it would be hard for me to explain it all here. If she is using a real ISP e-mail address, it's better (safety-wise for you) than a free address (Yahoo, Hotmail, etc.).

If she is worth knowing, she will be patient as you get to know each other better. Best of luck.

Luv,

 

[tummynavelboy]

Thanks Val for reading my thread and replying back

She uses a Hotmail email account and so do i. So im sure it would prob be harder to verify a persons identity uses a Free email account like you said.


Does anybody else her have any more advice me? or any Good Tips?

thanks so much🙂

 

[maniactickler38]

personally, i never meet or give my address to anyone i havent talked to on the phone. i just like to have that connection before i take it any further. 😉

 

[tummynavelboy]

so What your all saying here (Including you Val) is that for NOW i should not really worry about trying to figuere out Her (Amanda's) real identity and to see who she really claims to be? but insted Me and Her should just contunie to Enjoy and have fun in and grow in our friendship online?

or is that not what you Guys are telling me at all?

Im not saying that this Amanda girl is Guy! im not saying that at all or that i expect something is not ''Right''. im just saying incase through out our friendship incase me and her wanna start sending letters to each other. Then thats when i would wanna know her more through identity purposes...

 

[MistressValerie1]

Yes, my view is that you should just enjoy the online friendship for now 🙂 If things become romantically more serious, you'll have many chances to talk with her on the phone before considering a face-to-face meeting. (Hopefully you will have exchanged real e-mail addresses by then, lol.)

Best of luck,

 

[SexyGoddess]

Watch the Pic too

Thanks Val for reading my thread and replying back

She uses a Hotmail email account and so do i. So im sure it would prob be harder to verify a persons identity uses a Free email account like you said.


Does anybody else her have any more advice me? or any Good Tips?

thanks so much🙂

You have to be careful with the picture too. She could (if indeed it is a she) pull any picture off the web and use any modern photo software to modify it to contain her creator information. I dabble in graphic art as a hobby and I know that photos which do not contain watermarks or other identifying information are often used by people to trick chat buddies into giving up more personal information while they remain anonymous.

Also, just so you are aware...many underage girls will lie to guys online in order to get some thrills. This actually happened to someone I know. She said she was 19 and it turned out, unfortunately for him, she was 15. You just never know. But you can protect yourself by asking outright and making it clear that you don't mess with minors ..then saving the chat log on your messenger so that if the cops visit you proof of your intentions are at your fingertips. I heartily recommed you do this asap!

 

[PunKyGurl]

I wouldn't give out my address or phone number until I see a webcam, because they may have "pictures" but it might be possible that it's not even their own; possibly someone elses. I mean you never know this Amanda chick could be a 12-year old girl, or a 300 pound man, whatever. And it's not like webcams are expensive either, I got mine for 30 bucks, that's cheap and it works great.

There's no such thing than being too careful.

 

[SexyGoddess]

Punky

I wouldn't give out my address or phone number until I see a webcam, because they may have "pictures" but it might be possible that it's not even their own; possibly someone elses. I mean you never know this Amanda chick could be a 12-year old girl, or a 300 pound man, whatever. And it's not like webcams are expensive either, I got mine for 30 bucks, that's cheap and it works great.

There's no such thing than being too careful.

You are sooo right! But webcams carry alot of personal security issues for the users. You have to be careful because it is easy to insert malicious code and take over your computer...or the newest is spying on webcam users without their knowledge. That scares the you know what out of me! I have one but I never use it. The day when my computer turns on itself and says good morning is the day I toss the damn thing out the window!

 

[The Reaper1]

Yeah I am from here in Canada and I know of a few people that want to meet other people online but I try to tell them that it may not be safe to meet with someone online because you don't who they really are. I had a relative that left her husband and her family to meet this guy that she met over the internet and luckily nothing ever happened but there are bad people out there. Just be careful
who you decide to get involved with.

 

[PunKyGurl]

if you do meet someone online, don't meet them by yourself, especially you girls!(pepper spray is a plus)

 

[deac956611]

I have to agree with all that replied to your thread. I think that Mistress Valerie gave you some rock solid advice as to letting/enjoying the thrill of the situation right now and if it is to be then it will and it will surely show itself. I happen to have a friend I have met over the internet and have never seen her but the thrill is awesome. Maybe perhaps one day we will meet but until then it is a wonderful experience. I must say that I do keep it at a level of safety as you know the consequences of crossing the line. One never knows. Good luck my friend.