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[Eztickle]

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Hello to all I just have a question. How many strait people out their.(guys & girls) have had a tickling fetish most of there life. and have been able to find a tickling sole mate to be with cause it seems to be kinda hard? Cause I 'm looking for one now, and I think my X girl freind broke up with me cause I was so different. She started to do things for me like when she figured out what it did to me when she tickled me she started to do it more often, but two weeks after I told her about my fetish she broke up with me, and we had been going out for 11 months prior. Has anyone else had similar problems? So, anyways I just wanted to hear some other stories and see if anybody shares my pain.. Thanks..

Ez...

 

[dvnc]

While you may not get a lot of replies, there are many in your situation, to a lesser or greater degree.

Did I find someone? Yep. I made it it easier on myself by finding someone in our community. Had she been someone on the outside of this, and was open to it, I'd still be with her.

Have I experienced unpleasant results from women who didn't dig tickling? You bet. It's like that old Groucho Marx routine, though. If it hurts when you do that, don't do that.

Whether you chose to try meeting folks one on one, from personals or IMs, or through gatherings, or from the ever dominant converting of lovers to this kink, it's possible. Do note that it's ALSO possible to love someone happily that AIN'T into this. Ask Q, Strel or any of the other gents on this board whose wives ain't part of this. They seem awfully content for folks that don't have this in their marriage. There are many possibilities. Choose the one that you want, and seek it.

Another $0.02,

dvnc

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Thats pretty rough Eztickle.
Hang in there 🙂 🙂


.....TicklingIsLife is here for ya......😛 😉

 

[UnclStevel]

You're not strange

Stay strong Ez. It's a lot easier to live with yourself when you are who you truly are. There are women out there who will love you no matter what your preferences are.



Steve

 

[Longbaugh]

This is kind of the same topic .....so here goes. I recently tried an experiment to gauge how the tickling fetish is looked opon by others who are into kink. I joined a kinky website were you can try to corraspond with others in your area that are into kink. I had no intention of realy meeting anyone through this site,(I wouldn't do somthing like that and there was no one even remotely near me) I just wanted to gauge responses to tickling. I sent polite messages to several woman thruogh the service after viewing their profiles, these woman's interests were kinky--Spankings, domination, submission exibitionism ect.. I asked them to view my profiles interview and to give me feedback about my interests. Practicaly none responded. Now maybe they didn't want to bother because I was so far away and the didn't want to waste their time ect.... but I get the feeling they just think it's plan weird. One did respond back politely and said that it realy wasn't to her interest, but she didn't elaborate. In my opinoin tickling is just somthing your into or your not.. Just like anything else.

Some people like spankings some like tickling. It just strikes me funny because some of these girls profiles made it seem like the were super willing to try anything new a different. Then tickling is brought up and they probably don't know how to react because it's so unexpected.

On to Eztickle's dilimia-- You have to be delicate with woman and this subject. It's all in how you appraoch it. If someone realy loves you this should not bother them , but you also can't be too into it around them (a few tickles her and there not a major tickle sesion every night). At least thats been my experience. Most girls I've been with were cool about me giving them little tickle and thought it was fun. "O thats just somthing he does". None of them knew or know to this day how much i'm really into it though. The girl I'm seeing know is preety kinky and I was planning on letting her know, but after my little experiment I'm having second thoughts. The whole tickling thing may really through her off. Who knows? I'll just have to wait a little more and see.

 

[mysterytic]

A tickle partner can be found

Yes it is very difficult. I noticed when I tickled for my own enjoyment, I got nowhere with my dates. The only time I got anywhere was when I tried to make it a mutually enjoyable experience. So experimentation and gradual advancements were the order of my dates. Got lucky twice. I really don't know any other way of finding a tickle partner. My feelings today are if it is agony, a turn off, or real torture for a women, I will just have to look elsewhere. Keep in mind the more you expand your pool of tickle gals the better the chance of finding one.

 

[Havoc]

Sorry to hear that, EZ. Don't lose hope, however - there are women out there who are open minded and will not be judgemental of your 'hobby'.

To your survey questions - yes to both. I have had a tickle fetish as long as I can remember, even as a small child, way before I knew what being aroused was. I can remember fantisizing about tickling the feet of our neighbor who baby sat for us. I can date this by knowing the house we were living in at the time, and I know I was no older than three when I was having these fantasies. I am very fascinated about the origins of my fetish - did everyone elses start from your earliest memories, or was there some defining moment that started it?

And yes, I have a tickling soul mate. I got my wife into tickling when we were dating, and now she loves it and even wants us to find a "play partner" to explore more with.

I mentioned my love of tickling to several of the women that I have dated, with mixed results. The only one that really thought it was weird and said things that bashed my self esteem was my first GF in high school. EZ, you didn't mention your or your GF's age, but I have found that in general, women past their mid twenties tend to be somewhat more open minded. (this is no hard and fast rule by any means, tho) Don't give up! I have had more positive responses than negative ones over the years. One pattern I have found though, is that women who comfortable with their own sexuality are much more approachable with something like this, while those that are somewhat uptight (about sex, and even with attitudes about life in general) are much more likely to get freaked out about it.

EZ, if that girl broke up with you because of your fetish, then better you find out now than later. If that was all it took to run her off, then she was not at all committed to you or to sharing a relationship with you.

 

[P.H. Tickler]

Never actually utter the word FETISH

I never use the "F" word when exploring possibilities, that has such a negative stigma attached. I have had 2 really great 'lees, one I broke up with for reasons outside of tickling and the other has been my wife for 10 years now.😉 The common thread for my success seems to have been moderation and tradeoffs. Some months are more frequent than others, but i'd say i have gotten to give a good tickling twice a month for at least 15 years .
The ex gf made it easy, she was first to "come out" with something she wanted... her palms licked (never quite figured that one out, or why SO many women enjoy it), that just opened the door for my subsequent request to get her in a pair of hose and tickle her feet. My wife likes to be on the recieving end of, well let's call it "oral pleasuring", so it's like a decent tradeoff. Neither of the two ever minded being tickled, and because of the setup required for stocking foot tickling (with 2 women who rarely wear stockings), they never felt jumpy or skittish around me as if they'd be expecting a surprise tickle attack. I never mentioned it outside of actually doing it, mostly because until the 'net, I thought I was just a freak.
Neither the wife or ex gf seem as into the tickling as I am, but neither seem to have a prob with it (A benefit of NOT tickling at every opportunity). Of course, my appetite for tickling is much more than I let on, thank goodness for tickling pics 😎 .
Check out my club http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/ticklefeetinhose for a 240 pic "collection"
Now binding is another subject... I'm not really into the bondage thing, so my wife has never had more than her ankles restrained (and that's just to keep from getting kicked LOL), yet the ex gf was also "into" that. Tickling the ex was more intense, and with my wife, it's more of an intimate thing. I think if either knew the extent of my (insert "F" word), they may have been scared off. Somehow I think m wife is on to me tho, My birthday "treat" usually involves her in a sheer pair of stockings ASKING to be tickled! Just be sure to play it by ear and DON'T give out more info than required to get what you're after.😀

 

[njjen3953]

It is definately possible.

A year ago, I posted a personal ad to every tickling group around. In
it, I wrote EXACTLY what I was looking for. I got several responses. One of those responses was from my current Significant Other/Lover/Tickler/Master.
That was 11 months ago and we are still together and happier than ever.
Keep posting and stay visible in the community and you'll get noticed. Also, GO TO GATHERINGS!!!!!!!

Jen

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Guess we are talking about soul mates (including tickling)😛 🙂