The sponges of the world-A Rant

[JoBelle]

OK, so it takes a while sometimes, but you often find out people's true colors in the strangest of ways, no?

You know the one I'm talking about.

They are the people who can't make their own friends, the ones who can't stand to see you have something they don't, the ones who aren't happy at work, so they bash your job all the time. They are the lonely and envious types. They are the emotional sponges of the world.

They are so insecure about their own phase of life, be it looks, money, house, or most importantly, AFFECTION, that they have to try harder to be involved in things you've invested your time in rather than work on something of their own. It's easier taking it from you than it is actually trying to do something constructive. They like to convince themselves that they are without blame and that the problem is yours. They can't function on a level of honesty and respect. They need the excitement that comes from being sneaky. They are social kleptomaniacs. They are in need of therapy.

You'd think I'm talking about the spongey types' colors wouldn't you? But , no...that would be too easy. I'm talking about the ones who are in the washwater that sponge sucks up. The ones who need so much validation, that new found attentions pull them from the very opportunities that validate them completely. They never see the bait of the sponge. Those same people that you thought you knew to be more than that. THAT'S the person I'm on about. The true colors of the ones that really matter. *sigh* You just hope when they take a long look in the mirror that they see what they’ve become and reach for the nearest bottle of bleach with which to scrub their karmas clean.

Is this triggered by something? Someone? Not really. I've just taken stock in the fact that I'm way to nice to certain people who don't deserve it. I’m cleaning out my closet as Eminem would say…lol. I’m just tired of always being the one that can be counted on to be steady. Steady is becoming boring. I’m about to become the one who will rip you a new one. *sweet smile inert here* We all need change now and then, eh?

This is my call to the world of those sponges which sucketh mightily and those that would be sucked...hehe. This I say to them..."You are indeed pathetic excuses for people. Aren’t you? Do hang up your sponge-ness and find someone else’s life to emulate." And to you, oh ones of color changing, "Do find a mirror."

*sigh*

Too bad the people that was for won't ever see it, but it still feels good to get it out. 😛
Thanks for reading, and you’ll be getting your nickel in the mail .

Jo

 

[TKpervert]

Nothing constructive to add about sponges, but wanted to say
'quite a piece of writing !'
Do you write for a living ?

Please send my nickel to Perv at Atascadero Mental Hospital. The nurses will find us.
Actually.. I need four nickels, one for each of my personalities.

 

[sole seeker]

I’m just tired of always being the one that can be counted on to be steady. Steady is becoming boring. I’m about to become the one who will rip you a new one.

Fuggin' ouch! Sounds like you're about to crack someone's ass the other way! Glad it's not me!

I know what you mean Joby. I truly do.

BTW, I agree with Perv, you did a great job writing this piece.

Keep my nickel. I'd rather you owed me than just beat me out of it.

 

[Krokus]

I say you just kick them all in the package. Thats it, just kick em all in the package. 😀 😉

 

[JoBelle]

LOL, the package eh? I'm not that violent. Am I?? 😛

TK and SS, y'all are just too nice. I don't really consider that a good piece of writing, but your saying as much made me smile and greatly increased my mood. 😀 <~<~See???

*sigh* Isn't it bad when you put forth effort for people and they don't realize it? I reckon I'm just a bit jealous that I don't get to exhibit some sponge-like tendencies sometimes...lol I should practice~! I keep seeing that little yellow guy with the square pants in my head...lol

Jo

 

[His Divine Shadow]

You took all the bad things about those 'sponges' and wrapped it up perfectly. Glad you're feeling better now though, Joby.

Spongebob attacks!😀

 

[Dragon321]

so the sponges....were actually....people?

i'm confused...😛

 

[Ticklemmmeeeeee]

sponge is a subjective word...the only social sponge I know is the one who has a pink snail named Gary that meows like a cat...lol...I'm being silly...I know of the people that u speak....unfortunately I'm related to most of them!!!! 😱

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Jobelle, unfortuntely, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I would probably word it a little differently, but the gist is the same. I know the type of people of which you speak, very well...

I call them dirtbags, or just assholes, rather than sponges, although sponge is good too. These type of people prey on anyone who is nice to them. Many of my friends from yesteryear have become sponges.

To put it in a nutshell, any time you hear from them you can be sure they want something. Then if they get what they want, they turn around and try to shit on you. Then they come around again and want something else, as if they didn't do anything wrong.

To illustrate, there's someone who I used to be really good friends with. But every time I hear from him nowadays, he wants a "favor." On the flipside, if there's ever anything he can do for me, the answer ahead-of-time is NO.

I think you just have to cut all ties with these types of people. They never change, and there's no future in the association.

I also realized recently that I suffer from the ailment of saying "yes" too much, and too quick. But I'm getting better.

It's really ashame that being nice has to be a bad thing.

 

[Moses25]

I'm gonna fly a plane into yer big, fat head, Joby.

Good rant, tho. 😛

Cheers.😀

P.M.S. I may be a sponge...

 

[JoBelle]

Moby,

You're such a loser.

Joby

 

[giantfan121262]

Unfortunetely, this brings the old adage "Nice guys finish last" to truth.

During my times, I had a friend that was a "sponge" ( I refer to him now as a "scumbags" when I feel like being complimentary). I used to have to get in the middle of a few bar brawls in order to save his ass (Mind you, if I had to do it over again, I would leave him to get his butt kicked)

If you took that test from madblast "Are you going to hell?, one of my responses was because of him LOL. I totally agree with BigBrownEyes. You HAVE to cut all ties with them. It would be good for your sole, not to mention your self respect.

Fortunetely, today, I have a group of friends that will be around for life. As a matter of fact, one is responsible for introducing me to my wife, which is a great thing (in case you are wondering) LOL

 

[Moses25]

Moby,

You're such a loser.

Joby

Hmmm, touched a nerve methinks.

(Your head's not really that big...)

Cheers.😀

P.M.S. Maybe you should look at yer sig - was just playing off that. 😉

 

[JoBelle]

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who has had to deal with the bottom feeders.

I've cut most ties, though some, I just have to keep. For some reason, I feel a warm spot in my heart for them because the usually don't realize they are doing what they are doing. My hopes is one day they will grow up. The others...razors and starp sticks!grrr

Moby? "Touched a nerve?" Remind me of someone with that comment. Anyway, I was sweet-talkin' ya when I called you a loser. Leave my big ol' Oprah head out of this! 😛

Jo, who just saw a dead woman walk across her backyard call out "Moses will pay."

 

[BigBrownEyes]

thanks for this thread

I want to thank Jobelle for this thread, and for the intelligent responses, such as Giantsfan. I was beginning to think that any thread, or post, with actual meaning was automatically ignored.

Hanging around with the wrong types of people has been my achilles heel. Based on observations of those around me, I'm not the only one. Many times it's obvious that someone you're associating with is bringing you down, but sometimes it's not so obvious.

As Jobelle said, some of us will hang on to these people with the hopes that they will change, the understanding that they're basically ignorant, or maybe even the idea that you owe them something because they were your friend, on some level, once.

But I think as a matter of survival, you have to at least keep these people at arm's length, if not dump them entirely. Giantsfan is right. You have to try and find decent people and surround yourself. That's what it's all about, folks. He did it and was lucky enough to be introduced to his wife so there's proof it rubs off.

Over the summer, a female friend, who I really have only a fleeting association with, ran into me one weekend and introduced me to her sister, who happens to be a very sweet girl. The sister and I are getting to know each, but aren't jumping into anything. That's because we're both in our mid-thirties, neither one of us has ever been married, and we're known for being set in our ways.

But my point is that just having an association with a decent person, had a somewhat postive effect on my life, which is far better than the usual alternative. I'll know in the future where it leads.

Thanks again for this thread. It's an important topic.

 

[giantfan121262]

I guess the reason why I didn't cut ties sooner is that you feel like you are leaving that person when he (or she) needs you most, which, to me, contradicts the true meaning of friendship. It's almost like kicking someone when they are down. You want to try to help that person with the hope that maybe they will realize they need to change their ways.

I think another reason is that you don't want to come to terms with the truth, because they are your friends. Everybody wants to think they can make prudent choices for themselves, and, when they admit their friends are not in their best interest, they begin to question their ability to make choices. I speak from experience.

Sometimes it's a real fine line but in my case it became an easy decision (partially, because I let it go on longer than I should have).

GF

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I agree that it's a fine line, although sometimes the line is more obvious.

I've hung on to friendships long after there wasn't much left. When we got to the point where the person and I no longer had much in common and they weren't doing much more than trying to make me feel bad, trying to get me in trouble or even hurt, or just plain taking advantage.

I think it goes further than kicking a person when they're down. It's a question of doing something with your life, and having others resent that you're going in a different direction. They aren't necessarily down, but aren't looking to move up, and don't want you to either.

The people I'm talking might possibly be more heinous than the people referred to in the earlier responses to this topic.

In short, it's hard to get where you want to be in life, and I'm not going to let someone pull the rug out from under me under the guise of "friendship." If they don't care what they do to you, why should you care about them?

 

[giantfan121262]

Well said, my man!!