There's no easy way to say this, but I'll say it anyway.

[Lauren Tyler]

Some of you who use deviantArt may have seen my latest journal, but I'm guessing majority of you haven't, so I'm revealing a truth that I've been uncertain about for up until last year.
It's not easy to say this, especially since my username will always be the same and it might seem funny, but I'm hoping everyone will understand. This is not easy, it's very complicated indeed, but I'm just going to say it and get it over with.



I am officially revealing myself as being a male-to-female transgendered person.

I have been on hormone reassignment therapy (HRT) for about 9 months now. I am generally using female pronouns now, and I would appreciate it if you could do the same as well.

As for my username, I am not sure whether I'll keep this one or create a new one, since I don't believe I can change my username.

For now, I ask that you please respect my gender pronouns and this whole thing. It's not easy to reveal this, but I'm hoping you will all understand.

 

[tickletherapist]

Sure, I understand and respect it.
Btw, you could change your gender in account details, this will help everyone who looks at it.

 

[TMF Jeff]

Congrats on coming out, that can't be easy...

 

[Lauren Tyler]

tickletherapist:
Yeah, I know I could, but the name 'Larcen Tyler' is still masculine.

TMF Jeff:
Thank you. It's not easy, but I have had practice elsewhere. Truth be told, though, I dunno what I'm gonna do about my username here.

 

[BlasterMaster]

From a straight guy who has a lesbian sister and a friend who underwent transgender surgery in Thailand, I salute and support your decision. 😀

It takes a brave person to decide to go through the process of transitioning and an even braver person to come out and admit it.

Good for you hun. 🙂

 

[TeeHeeLawrence]

I applaud your forthrightness and the reasonableness of your request. In friendly interaction here and elsewhere, everyone deserves the expectation of being referred to as one wishes. <p>
As for usernames, I keep reminding myself not to assume the gender of the bearer. After all, there are males named Jean and women named Leslie. The name Larcen, I think, may offer that either/or value, so you may not need to feel compelled to abruptly create a new username. If you do, tho', it's cool. Any number of folks have switched handles on the Forum for any number of reasons, with nary a bump in their activity or recognition. If you don't, ttherapist's suggestion is a good one.<p>
These are still the early days of acknowledging being transgender, and, thus, it's still a (Wait for it!) ticklish topic. But I'm confident this community will rally around a veteran Red Feather.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

As for my username, I am not sure whether I'll keep this one or create a new one, since I don't believe I can change my username.

Admins can (or could years ago) change it upon request.

 

[drkjedi458]

thats a very brave thing to do....you have my support for whatever its worth.

 

[kurchatovium]

I have had a few transgendered friends and I know its not easy to come out. It takes a great deal of courage to do so. I wish you all the best in your transition and hope all goes as smoothly and well as possible. If you ever just need someone to talk too I am just a PM away. Peace and wuv my friend.

 

[kered]

tickletherapist:
Yeah, I know I could, but the name 'Larcen Tyler' is still masculine.

Don't sweat your user name. We have Stevie Nicks, Glenn Close, Johnnie M. Young, Drew Barrymore..Daryl Hannah.....so if you like the name then by all means keep it.

 

[Mitchell]

A decision such as this is someone's personal choice.

If you're comfortable with it, that's the only thing that matters.

It isn't anyone else's business to judge.

It does take courage to admit this on a public message board.

I congratulate you on doing so, and wish you well in whatever your life's changes are with this new decision about your life.

I guess what I'm really trying to say is Good Luck.

 

[Bohemianne]

I really wish you well on this tough decision of coming out, Miss Larcen! See you around....

 

[Lauren Tyler]

Miss Larcen, I like that! 😀

 

[Sensualswitch10]

It takes a lot of courage to "come out" and kudos to you for doing so.
Could you possibly post a link to your deviant art page so those of us who aren't familiar with your work could check it out? I find that site difficult to navigate.

 

[Lauren Tyler]

http://larcentyler.deviantart.com

 

[Whoviantrekkie]

Congratulations on coming out! It must be scary but I'm glad you chose to be who you want to be.

 

[Sandisk444]

Congratulations! Props for finding the courage to make that choice for yourself. I wish you the best!

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I just want to say congrats to you for coming and announcing that you are comfortable with who you are, it takes guts. Also, I do agree with the person who said it's not other people's business to judge. However, being said, unfortunately that doesn't necessarily stop people from doing so and that what makes those people ignorant and nasty . I mean people more times than not judge people all the time especially when you first meet someone, on a date, on an interview and so forth.


I think it's better than not to accept people most of the time for who they are, that's my feeling anyhow. I mean I have had Asperger's Syndrome (high functioning Autism) all my life and wasn't diagnosed until I was 34. So, for most of my life I knew I was different in that I had trouble with making friends, keeping friends, being social but I didn't know there was a legitimate reason for all that, so I was mostly misunderstood by people. Since I've been diagnosed, it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and ever since then, I understand at least why people sometimes react to me the way they do.

Anyhow, I wish good luck to you & hope you try to surround yourself with people who accept you being you .

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

tickletherapist:
Yeah, I know I could, but the name 'Larcen Tyler' is still masculine.

you know what...Ive seen plenty of names on here that don't resemble a particular gender. No big deal. Some people need to learn to view a profile anyway.

 

[kopfhorer]

I know someone in another town not far from here who is getting the medical/bureaucratic wheels turning to have a M-to-F sex-change operation. She's been going by her chosen female name for a while now (it's a little awkward for me, referring to a still-physically-male person by a woman's name, but I respect her wishes).

Anyway, Larcen, I wish you the best with your transition. You're in good company (synthesist Wendy Carlos, for example).

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Want to make a correction

I just want to say congrats to you for coming and announcing that you are comfortable with who you are, it takes guts. Also, I do agree with the person who said it's not other people's business to judge. However, being said, unfortunately that doesn't necessarily stop people from doing so and that what makes those people ignorant and nasty . I mean people more times than not judge people all the time especially when you first meet someone, on a date, on an interview and so forth.


I think it's better than not to accept people most of the time for who they are, that's my feeling anyhow. I mean I have had Asperger's Syndrome (high functioning Autism) all my life and wasn't diagnosed until I was 34. So, for most of my life I knew I was different in that I had trouble with making friends, keeping friends, being social but I didn't know there was a legitimate reason for all that, so I was mostly misunderstood by people. Since I've been diagnosed, it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and ever since then, I understand at least why people sometimes react to me the way they do.

Anyhow, I wish good luck to you & hope you try to surround yourself with people who accept you being you .

I want to say that I have since talked to my therapist since I posted this about being judged and she said that when you judge somebody, it's in a critical or negative way. When I talked to her about being judged in an interview or on a date, it's a different kind of judgement. In those type of cases, those are JUDGEMENT CALLS.
However, in reference to my life, I have trouble trusting neurotypicals (non-Autistic) people because of my past experiences. In fact, my therapist says even though I am high functioning, most people can tell that I have a disability due to there being some flatness in my voice. I never realized that about my voice but she said that non-Autistic people can tell. I find that interesting .