Tickle/Sex Virgin

[robotickler3000]

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[MaxDragon]

Been there, almost done that. I was horribly, painfully shy. This is the solution I hit on. Try dating (renting) professional escorts, if you can afford it (google escorts in your city). While most are prostitutes who will have sex with you if you want it, you can just go on a date with them and talk and practice being with a woman. Explain your problem to them and most of them will try to help. They'll take you to places where you can go and meet people later on your own, and it doesn't hurt to be seen with a hot chick. You can also practice the sex part, too, unless you want to save it for your eventual beloved. Some girls appreciate a virgin. Good luck, and don't kill yourself.

P.S. If you can't afford to date escorts, then you can't afford a girl friend. The costs can be about the same.

P.P.S. DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH THE ESCORT! That is nothing but heartache and trouble.

 

[Journia]

P.P.S. DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH THE ESCORT! That is nothing but heartache and trouble.

He speaks the truth! I've been in many "Pretty Woman" scenarios gone awry. Untying them of course!

 

[kopfhorer1]

P.S. If you can't afford to date escorts, then you can't afford a girl friend. The costs can be about the same.

That ain't necessarily so. The Bunny Ranch, a legal brothel in Nevada, charges over US$1000.00 for a basic encounter (I found out by way of an HBO movie called "Cathouse"). Hookers in the underground economy can charge several hundred dollars an hour for fairly vanilla stuff (A web site I checked out quoted "300 roses" for an hours' attention; FWIW, I've never used a sex worker).

I've managed to find partners despite impecuniousness. (My last girlfriend loved thrift shops as much as I). IOW, someone who's worth knowing and who'll treat you right won't be too put off by lack of money on your part. It's how you are as a person. I know that sounds like a load of bushwa, but trust me, it's absolutely true.

As for shyness and such, not knowing your situation that well, the best advice I can think of is for you to consider a therapist, preferably one who uses medication judiciously if at all and if possible, someone who knows about holistic and/or natural remedies. The indifferent types who talk to you for 5 minutes and then scrawl out a prescription are not what you want, even though they're fairly prevalent. Most public "mental health" clinics are a waste of time, but a select few do manage to do a decent job. Have you checked out books like "The Highly Sensitive Person", or "Hello Cruel World"? Just a shot in the dark.

In any case, I wish you the best. I definitely know from shyness.

 

[GroovyBaby]

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Well I dont' know exactly your problem, but I will guess from the topic subject.

If you have a problem getting together with women.

1. Don't use lines, just start conversation. "Hey, how you doing today?".
2. Don't make rules on where you will meet women. She's working at the checkout stand at a store? GReat! very easy to start a conversation with her.
3. Don't be afraid of being turned down, it's not a big deal!
4. Don't try to boost confidence by hitting on "less" attractive women. It will blow up in your face, and is jerkish to begin with.

On sex:

1. Don't be a *****, try to make sure it's with someone you really care about.
2. Enjoy yourself. Don't worry about lasting, or being fancy... Just have fun.
3. Talk to her! Ask her what she likes and doesn't like. Tell her you really want to make her happy.
4. Be honest! Tell her you don't have a lot of experience and need time to learn. Most women love the idea of molding a man. She will see this as an oppertunity to mold you into the lover she likes.

On tickling your woman:

1. Tickle her
2. Tell her you are turned on by her laugh, and by tickling.

 

[Slaver123]

You can also practice the sex part, too, unless you want to save it for your eventual beloved. Some girls appreciate a virgin. Good luck, and don't kill yourself.

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They do? I was under the impression this younger generation had sex on the first date, mandatory. I'm serious.

 

[chicag0]

You can also practice the sex part, too, unless you want to save it for your eventual beloved. Some girls appreciate a virgin. Good luck, and don't kill yourself.

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They do? I was under the impression this younger generation had sex on the first date, mandatory. I'm serious.

WTF? Maybe in the 70's that shit went down, but not with me or people that I know.

 

[kopfhorer1]

3. Don't be afraid of being turned down, it's not a big deal!

Amen to that, bro (I keep telling myself)! The ones who aren't compatible with you, well, you don't want to invest time on them, not when sooner or later there'll be people you get along almost effortlessly with (hint: if it feels effortless, that's a very good sign).

On tickling your woman:

1. Tickle her
2. Tell her you are turned on by her laugh, and by tickling.

Amen once again!

 

[NWIBOY]

What's wrong with sex on the first date?

 

[Journia]

WTF? Maybe in the 70's that shit went down, but not with me or people that I know.

Then you've never met Journia Cassanova. I've got to have like 115 kids by now.... Yup, that's right...I joked again....

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother knows some college and high school age people and it do seem that sex is a mandatory thing. they do not even date and court each other. usually the ticklish female will send a text to gentleman caller and then that guy has a short window of time to respond or else the demand of sex from the female goes to another male or female. It seems that dating and trying to get tickles is a thing of the past for many young folk. The hollywood brother remembers the three date rule that a lot of women used to enforce but it seems as if with the twitter and text message and cell hpones that old fashion love is long gone and that it is more of a thing where one person demands sex and whoever answers first get the opportunity to make the person demanding the sex have multiple hollywood brother like orgasms.

now with this being the case it seems that it is not bad to have sex on first date if you want but the hollywood brother thinks there should be some heart and emotion to it and not just a quick few orgasms for the people involved and then they go back like nothing ever happened

 

[mikepd]

Been there, almost done that. I was horribly, painfully shy. This is the solution I hit on. Try dating (renting) professional escorts, if you can afford it (google escorts in your city). While most are prostitutes who will have sex with you if you want it, you can just go on a date with them and talk and practice being with a woman. Explain your problem to them and most of them will try to help. They'll take you to places where you can go and meet people later on your own, and it doesn't hurt to be seen with a hot chick. You can also practice the sex part, too, unless you want to save it for your eventual beloved. Some girls appreciate a virgin. Good luck, and don't kill yourself.

P.S. If you can't afford to date escorts, then you can't afford a girl friend. The costs can be about the same.

P.P.S. DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH THE ESCORT! That is nothing but heartache and trouble.

Sooooo your advice to this man is to find...... a prostitute?

 

[mikepd]

LOL HOLLYWOODBROTHER like orgasms! HAHA When ever I read your posts BROTHER I imagine The ROCK saying it.Mainly cuz he spoke in 3rd person aswell

 

[chicag0]

I always imagine Hulk Hogan.

At any rate, I have not heard of this texting shit. As hard as it may be to believe, there are still some responsible, non-douchebag-like young'uns out there.

 

[melanie2]

What was the original gist of this thread? He deleted it...was it about being a virgin?

 

[mikepd]

I always imagine Hulk Hogan.

At any rate, I have not heard of this texting shit. As hard as it may be to believe, there are still some responsible, non-douchebag-like young'uns out there.

I can see the "Hulk Hogan" thing cuz he said shit like " The Hulksters gonna kick your butt dude!" Anyhoo we should start a thread about what you Imagine the poster sounding like or looking like. Cuz atleast for me when I read posts I always come up with a vision of how they would be in real life.

 

[kopfhorer1]

...The hollywood brother remembers the three date rule that a lot of women used to enforce but it seems as if with the twitter and text message and cell hpones that old fashion love is long gone and that it is more of a thing where one person demands sex and whoever answers first get the opportunity to make the person demanding the sex have multiple hollywood brother like orgasms.

now with this being the case it seems that it is not bad to have sex on first date if you want but the hollywood brother thinks there should be some heart and emotion to it and not just a quick few orgasms for the people involved and then they go back like nothing ever happened

Hollywood Brother-like orgasms? Sounds interesting! Would you care to instruct us in how best to achieve them? 🙂

I'm not sure that courtship is dead. Things have simply changed. In the 1950's, it was all about not being last in the race to the altar. In the 60's and 70's it was all about this year's girlfriend or boyfriend. Now supposedly we have "hook-up culture" (when the media invents a new buzz phrase, I become skeptical - can you say "sexting"?). In an online article I read that a lot of young men and women like to be able to have fun and be satisfied without a lot of unnecessary game-playing and without being forced to enter into relationships which they aren't ready for. And how many happy relationships or marriages started out as hook-ups? Having said that, there are people for whom, for whatever reason, casual hookups are not a good fit.

 

[CellarDweller]

Oh boy.

I can see that Robo deleted his post, but we're continuing to talk, perhaps in the hopes that he's reading this.

I'm really going to put myself out there and risk some stupid comments, but I'll say it anyway.


Robo, when I was in high school, I was very shy, and my classmates had picked up on my sexuality, even though I never admited it. Any shots I had to meet a girl (even though I would've wanted a guy) were zero.

Some of those classmates ended up getting hired where I got hired, and any chance of meeting a coworker for a relationship was shot down. Because of all this, I retreated into a thick shell, so I got through college with no dates as well.

This lead to (my opinion) depression (I was never clinically diagnosed) which I got through with overeating and overspending, so I ended up obese and in debt.

I finally woke up, and realized I was playing the blame game, and took charge of my life....meaning I came out of the closet, went on a diet and exercise routine, and worked my ass off and got out of debt.

Of course, with all that going on, I wasn't actively dating. So I later found myself a virgin in my mid 30s. For a while I was joking that I could star in a sequal to the 40 Year Old Virgin.

On top of being gun shy about meeting guys, I knew that everyone my age would have tons of experience, and I would have no idea what to do.

It all fell into place when I met my first boyfriend. After that, I made up for lost time.

:lol

Don't build it up into some crazy situation. You are not the only virgin in the world, and you are not the only person who is feeling this way.

There is a quote I want to bring forward......

1. Don't be a *****, try to make sure it's with someone you really care about.

4. Be honest! Tell her you don't have a lot of experience and need time to learn. Most women love the idea of molding a man. She will see this as an oppertunity to mold you into the lover she likes.

ArFArF is right on both points. When I met my first boyfriend, when we were getting serious, I was honest about my situation. He was a little surprised, but he understood where I was coming from, and didn't rush me into anything.

A lot of people regret their "first time" because it was with someone they now dislike, or they don't like what happened, or something else.

My BF was gentle, kind, sweet, and loved me.....he was everything a first time should be. I have no regrets about my time with him, and he and I are still friends, we actually spoke on the phone for about an hour last night, just to catch up. I wouldn't have had that experience if I had "*****d around" or wasn't honest with him about it.

hope you have an even better memory of your first time.

 

[kopfhorer1]

For "Don't be a *****", I myself would substitute one of Cellardweller's very salient points - your first time (or any time thereafter) should be with someone who respects you and your feelings. Even though my first time was, well, largely uneventful, my partner was kind, gentle and understanding. (CD, sorry you had to endure years of frustration and crapola).

And I agree, honesty about one's sexual status and needs is definitely the best policy. Put another way, why do you think "abstinence education" relies on lies?

 

[robotickler3000]

cellardweller, thanks for that great post.

 

[GroovyBaby]

Oh boy.

I can see that Robo deleted his post, but we're continuing to talk, perhaps in the hopes that he's reading this.

I'm really going to put myself out there and risk some stupid comments, but I'll say it anyway.


Robo, when I was in high school, I was very shy, and my classmates had picked up on my sexuality, even though I never admited it. Any shots I had to meet a girl (even though I would've wanted a guy) were zero.

Some of those classmates ended up getting hired where I got hired, and any chance of meeting a coworker for a relationship was shot down. Because of all this, I retreated into a thick shell, so I got through college with no dates as well.

This lead to (my opinion) depression (I was never clinically diagnosed) which I got through with overeating and overspending, so I ended up obese and in debt.

I finally woke up, and realized I was playing the blame game, and took charge of my life....meaning I came out of the closet, went on a diet and exercise routine, and worked my ass off and got out of debt.

Of course, with all that going on, I wasn't actively dating. So I later found myself a virgin in my mid 30s. For a while I was joking that I could star in a sequal to the 40 Year Old Virgin.

On top of being gun shy about meeting guys, I knew that everyone my age would have tons of experience, and I would have no idea what to do.

It all fell into place when I met my first boyfriend. After that, I made up for lost time.

:lol

Don't build it up into some crazy situation. You are not the only virgin in the world, and you are not the only person who is feeling this way.

There is a quote I want to bring forward......





ArFArF is right on both points. When I met my first boyfriend, when we were getting serious, I was honest about my situation. He was a little surprised, but he understood where I was coming from, and didn't rush me into anything.

A lot of people regret their "first time" because it was with someone they now dislike, or they don't like what happened, or something else.

My BF was gentle, kind, sweet, and loved me.....he was everything a first time should be. I have no regrets about my time with him, and he and I are still friends, we actually spoke on the phone for about an hour last night, just to catch up. I wouldn't have had that experience if I had "*****d around" or wasn't honest with him about it.

hope you have an even better memory of your first time.

Very honest, and good response. I think a lot of people, gay or straight, who had a tough time in school can relate to this.

 

[CellarDweller]

Hiya Robo and ArFArF. Glad you liked the post.

I was very apprehensive about putting it up, about how it would look.

Then I realized I had no one to impress, and I was just being honest.

 

[Tickleslave83]

In a relationship how many dates is the average before having sex? I'm curious as I'm a total virgin.

 

[PlutoBum]

P.S. If you can't afford to date escorts, then you can't afford a girl friend. The costs can be about the same.

i resent that...not all girls are expensive

 

[PlutoBum]

What's wrong with sex on the first date?

it shows that all you care about is the sex and not the person you're with. if you're ready to move that quickly, then fine, but if you really care about someone, you wait.