tickling a part of happiness in life

[tickleshotel]

Just wanted to write this to the TMF members to ask a question
about how important tickling is a part to your happiness in your
life.I can only speak from my perspective as I try to look
into my life as if I am a casual observer looking in rather
than being personally involved but what I see is this :

I am in Northern California about a good 8 hours from Sacramento and
I could make it to a gathering if given advance notice but I seem to
always miss out on the tickling fun 🙁.Then all of you others in
other states are even further away 🙁.
May just be me feeling lonesome tonight but I wish I could get to
know all of you better ,tickle you all if you would be
willing and I love to be tickled too 😀 .Tickling is a
Passion of mine and Sometimes I really don't feel like
I am a welcome member of the group here at TMF considering how many ticklers,ticklees are here and the few that I do know and so many of you I may see you post in the forums but we don't really know each other,then there are those of you that I'm sure I haven;t even met yet or seen post,at times I think I am being tolerated ,rather than being well liked and I sometimes think others don;t really want,desire ,
or wish to tickle me .There are those of you that I DO know you would like to tickle me if given the chance(you know who you are,and I love it when you remind me 🙂. I hope I am wrong in sometimes feeling this negative way because I could be alot happier knowing that I am thought of,cared about ,missed if I am gone and have endless people I can consider friends that also love tickling 😉 If tickling wasn;t so important to me as it is ,then I could Maybe leave TMF but tickling to me is just as important
for my survival,happiness as my heartbeat.

 

[amk714]

I love tickling, but I don't need it to be happy, though it certainly doesn't hurt. 😀 Don't despair, tickleshotel! I'm sure you'll meet others who are into tickling also. 🙂

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

tickleshotel....

Sorry that you are in a bit of a slump right now. I hope that things will turn around for you 🙂 I know what it means to feel lonely (I think we all do), and to have the compound feelings that no one around you cares about you or that you wouldn't be missed if you just disappeared makes thing infinitely worse, I'm sure.
Here is the only 'words of wisdom' that I can pass along to you (to be taken with a grain of salt of course)....
I don't think that you should look to the people of the TMF for the level of intimacy that you seek. These are not people you ever see (since you don't attend the gatherings), and probably never speak to. If you did form a more intimate level of friendship with those that do attend the gatherings, then I could see where you would expect your presence to be sorely missed. We are a HUGE group almost 8,000 strong (which totally blows my mind!!) and it is VERY easy to get lost in the sauce (so to speak) around here. If you have formed one or two casual friendships via your posts or the chatroom then I think you should consider yourself lucky. In the very anonymous medium of the internet, things are not really set up for meaningful relationships (unless you are also interacting with the people you meet online, in "real life" as well.)
I think if you did decide to attend the gatherings, the people that you would meet there would most likely welcome you with open arms (and tickling fingers as well) 🙂 From what I have gathered, those meetings are always very friendly and warm. And it might provide you with the level of intimacy that you are looking for. I would attend them myself if I wasn't already married.
But, on the other hand, the TMF does provide the comfort of knowing that you are not alone in your love for tickling, and it also provides an awesome sounding board for any questions or ideas that you may have (regarding tickling or otherwise.) The people here are warm and understanding, and I feel lucky to be a part of such a great group of people.
So, in short, (maybe it's too late to say that...lol), if you are looking for more out of the good people of the TMF, than it is up to you to go for it. If you expect the people here to go in search of you, then I think you will only find yourself disappointed and feeling alone. To coin a fairly over used phrase - CARPE DIEM!! Go out and make your own happiness tickleshotel...because no one else is going to do it for you.

Maggie

 

[qjakal]

Summary...

I think Ms Maggie summed it up nicely. It IS nice to be reminded that you're not quite so strange in your desires and fantasies as you thought when you first discovered that you weren't "like everyone else", but getting too dependent on an online relationship can be unhealthy if carried to an extreme. There was another thread running in General Discussion that talked about the TMF as a "club"....seems like an apt description. Q

 

[TickledToDeath]

Just wanted to write this to the TMF members to ask a question
about how important tickling is a part to your happiness in your
life.I can only speak from my perspective as I try to look
into my life as if I am a casual observer looking in rather
than being personally involved but what I see is this :

I am in Northern California about a good 8 hours from Sacramento and
I could make it to a gathering if given advance notice but I seem to
always miss out on the tickling fun 🙁.Then all of you others in
other states are even further away 🙁.
May just be me feeling lonesome tonight but I wish I could get to
know all of you better ,tickle you all if you would be
willing and I love to be tickled too 😀 .Tickling is a
Passion of mine and Sometimes I really don't feel like
I am a welcome member of the group here at TMF considering how many ticklers,ticklees are here and the few that I do know and so many of you I may see you post in the forums but we don't really know each other,then there are those of you that I'm sure I haven;t even met yet or seen post,at times I think I am being tolerated ,rather than being well liked and I sometimes think others don;t really want,desire ,
or wish to tickle me .There are those of you that I DO know you would like to tickle me if given the chance(you know who you are,and I love it when you remind me 🙂. I hope I am wrong in sometimes feeling this negative way because I could be alot happier knowing that I am thought of,cared about ,missed if I am gone and have endless people I can consider friends that also love tickling 😉 If tickling wasn;t so important to me as it is ,then I could Maybe leave TMF but tickling to me is just as important
for my survival,happiness as my heartbeat.

You need to keep your eye open more frequently to the posts here because usually, there is quite and advance notice of gatherings and they are fairly regular out there on the LEFT coast.



Distance is a whole other story, tickleshotel, the NEST gathering is held once a year out here on the RIGHT coast and it is around the same time, give or take a week or three, so folks local and afar have roughly a year advance notice! 😉


As for feeling lonesome,(go ahead, everybody sing Elvis, "...Are you loooonesome toooonight...") everyone had been there, some still are, some just visit the village of lonesome from time to time and the fortunate never goes or has escaped never to go there again. Some are trapped there and eventually find a way to break out even if only for a while. Like being given a furlough. 😉
Which catagory one wishes to be places it strictly up the the individual and the desire one has to achieve that which they strive.
Never feel as if you are UNwelcome here, if you WERE unwelcome, trust me you would know! The TMF is not only an open forum but an OPEN forum as well, if you get my drift. People have no problem expressing themselves and voicing their opinions about something and or someone!

Also you could tickle quite a few of us. Hands are raising all over the place as far as "willing" lees go 🙄 😀 .

I am equally sure that there would be twice as many of us who would be more than willing to tickle the living hell out of you!😉 😀



People will get to know you and you them here on line in the TMF, via posts, chatroom and or e-mail etc. You will be more aware of gatherings and eventually get to one be it near or FAR like , hmmmmmmmmm, New York ish? OR somewhere in between. Once you break the ice it will all fall into place and lonesome will be one less citizen.

Sooooooo, tickleshotel, you do have friends out here, of that I am fairly sure. You DO indeed have a definate friend in me and we have somewhat gotten to know each other on line and in email, and of that I am certain. You will have an additional friend, shygirl aka patti , my gf, when you meet her and or chat. So chill out tickleshotel. Be patient. Reeeeeeeeeelax(take your shoes off, heh heh heh) and make it happen!

We all have the same passion.


TTD

 

[tickleshotel]

thank you all for giving me some insight

HI and thank you to all who have responded to this
thread ,I really appreciate the insight,advice I was
given..
AMK: Your right,I can't really say that I am not happy
with my life but finding,meeting others on the TMF,and
meeting in person for real tickles would make me even
happier..I do have a nice family,my health,ect to be
thankful for so thank you for your input.
Daisycrazy: Your right also about not looking,depending
on others for my own happiness,and that it isn;t healthy
to base my own feelings on what others think about me.

TTD : Also thank you for bringing it to my attention that
if someone on TMF isn;t welcome or others have something
negative to say,that they can voice their opinion ,bring
it to others attention.I must be doing something right then,🙂
if I haven;t heard anything negative about me.
I also appreciate your nice words saying that I can consider
you as a friend though we haven;t spoken extensively.I look forward to chatting with shygirl sometime and getting to know her as well.
Well I have said this before ,I am going to have to attend a gathering
in the near future so I can meet some or as many of the TMF members as soon as I take care of some responsibilities that need to be taken care of first before I can plan to take a trip.
🙂 I would love every millisecond of being tickled by anyone male or female who is a TMF member that would enjoy tickling me,hearing my laugh,,LoL.
Ok well thanks again to all of you 🙂.I hope I didn;t miss anyone .