Tickling fetish ever destroyed a new relationship?

[mcmunagle1]

I guess because I'm now "looking" again after 6 years which will be hard enough to get over, I'm curious if anyone has ever had a bad experience in a new relationship after admitting their like for tickling.

For me it always seems to make the sexual aspect of a relationship that much more awkward and difficult to start up since I enjoy things that most guys don't and so I see meeting a potential partner as somewhat hopeless.

I know I sound like a debbie downer right now but I don't care, it will take time to get over something I was in for so long.

 

[Senshi1]

I was never in a new relationship (where the woman didn't already know about my fetish) long enough to get to the stage where I'd tell of something like this. Having said that, I am curious to see what others have to say. How the vanillas view us is something that always interested me.

 

[Smoten]

I told my Ex about my tickle fetish. She was cool with it, but ultimately our sexual needs and desires didn't really fit together, though that's not the reason we broke up. We broke up because she's a cruel and horrible person.

 

[Smoten]

I don't want to seem to be or come off as being bitter or callous, so allow me to elaborate; I still love her as the good person she has the potential to be, but I've come to realize that she's not a good person and no amount of pretending or wishing otherwise would have helped any. I think the relationship lasted as long as it did because I was unwilling to let go. She was my first love and I didn't want things to go back to the way things were before; lonely.

Now that time has passed, I don't feel lonely at all. I feel much better off with out her, I have plenty of family and friends to keep me company and I feel I've learned so much more about myself to help me in future relationships. I figure it's only a matter of time before I find someone who wants to share their life with me and mine with theirs.

 

[tidoman61]

Plain and Simple

It would be better to ruin it from the start, then to commit to a life of secrets and emberassment

Fuck That...

I found my Tickle Goddess (not to brag) and you will too

 

[BlackDragonScar]

my girl has all the same fetishes as mine but even other relationships seemed to embrace that side of me a bit

 

[juanmiller]

Sorry to hear that. It's tough to start again after a long-term relationship ends.

I'm sure revealing a fetish has destroyed some relationships -- but it's a lot more likely if it's brought up too soon or in a clumsy way. Blurting it out on the first date probably isn't going to work. One thing I find is helpful is to ask a new partner what *she* likes first (when you're at the point where it's appropriate, of course). Then you're opening up the topic without making it all about yourself, and putting it in a context of acknowledging that everybody has different preferences when it comes to sex, even if it's not a specific fetish.

Don't give up. You'll find someone.

 

[mcmunagle1]

Thanks all for the encouragement. Its definitely hard to let go, she was my first love and now there is that fear of being lonely and the hurt of seeing her with someone else. In time I hope this will all pass.

 

[BrandiElizabeth]

When my husband and I started dating, I told him about it kind of early on, because the discussion of fetishes came up. He was very open-minded and has come to love it as much as I do. He has become a very skilled ler and is always eager to learn more about the tickling fetish.

Not everyone reacts the same way, but it majorly depends on when/how you bring it up. Hopefully you find someone sweet and open-minded who can learn to enjoy it with you!

 

[Beckers1]

My boyfriend not only opened up to me about it but also actually got me into the fetish. So depending on the person not only can it be a good thing, but allow you to both connect on levels not once thought possible

 

[mcmunagle1]

Thank you Beckers, you give me hope, ha, that sounds funny but its true. I have actually heard of people getting into the fetish the same way you did.

I guess I would have been lonelier without the internet, that makes it sound like I'm online all the time but I'm not. I just wouldn't have been able to hear your stories about the topic. But I do need to be more positive. I also need to stop purchasing so much online fetish "pornographgy" and start socializing with more women.

 

[Oblivion]

It would be unfair for me to say the fetish destroyed it entirely, but it was one of my first relationships when I was 15 or 16. Getting more into sex and exploring tickling. I brought it up and we tried various things. She didn't like bondage and eventually said 'You changed tickling for me,' and in a bad way. She saw it as an innocent thing. Bidoof. Queue up 7 years later and we're still best friends but nothing ever happens between us.

On the plus side, I've converted four women to loving tickling since then, so I think my going rate of tickling ruining a relationship has been pretty good. 😀

 

[Staccato]

Hello! I'm new here!

Quite on the contrary, one of my guy friends actually got -closer- to me because of this; he finds it intriguing.

One night (via instant messaging) I was trying to get him to guess what specific fetish I had, and he beat around the bush until I had to give in. The best part about it is he seemed like he knew what it was, but he was just guessing closer and closer and closer... :blush

It turned me on quite a bit--considering I couldn't get myself to fall asleep until five AM. I'm pretty sure he wants to take advantage of it while he can. blush

Otherwise, most of my relationships with other people have been me subtly trying to get them to tickle me, without any significant notion that I have a "thing" for tickling. :cool