Tickling, sex and fantasy and its impact on an established couple

[Diego]

Tickling, sex and fantasy and its impact on an established couple

As we most of us agree, great sex involves a lot of fantasy, confidence and communication (at least in sex terms) between lovers. Sharing fantasies is a great way to have great sex

I love tickle torture, fortunately my wife learned about it, I tell her every fantasy I have. I enjoy tickling and sex involving women and also being tickle tortured by one or two women. My wife is kind of bi and enjoys having sex with another woman but she is not ticklish herself, in fact she is ticklish in her knees and she hates it so I respect that.

Sometimes but not frequently we have sex with a third person, a beautiful female. We perform our fantasies but we learned that reality is a long way from fantasy, when you are having sex with another person the relationship may suffer.
Previous to my marriage I had a couple of experiences in menage a trois and was great. but we were not established couples, just three persons who liked each other and enjoy sex and bondage.

In our experience we prefer to “act”, to perform roles rather than having sex with a third person.

I am sharing a true life experience at the Story section. Its called The Players.

I would like to know your opinion regarding a third person having sex and sharing fantasies with an established couple.

Diego

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

You know... in all honesty I don't think I could marry someone who is either not ticklish or that will not let me tickle her. I'd go nuts.

 

[Diego]

Non ticklish wife

You know... in all honesty I don't think I could marry someone who is either not ticklish or that will not let me tickle her. I'd go nuts.

Thats what I thought, but hshe tickle-torture me till I exlode....and when SHE TICKLES ANOTHER WOMAN.......WOW!!!

Diego

 

[dvnc]

The world's a varied place, even WITHIN the tickling interest. Some go one way, some go another.

I know so few that deal well with polyamory, and read about few that do well with it, too. Have you and she read about polyamorous relationships? There's ways to make your situation work better for you, without hurtin' one anothers feelings. If you're to practice polyamorous relations with a third party, you may wish to both read up on how to deal with that in ways that won't hurt one another.

For what it's worth, I know several, within our community, that are polyamorous, and successful with it. At least two are the "third" in a trio, with the other two being life-partners/married. It's possible, but it requires knowin' how to make it work, and from what I'd gathered through 'em, that wasn't an automatic process.

My $0.02,

dvnc

 

[Diego]

Thanks Dvnc

The world's a varied place, even WITHIN the tickling interest. Some go one way, some go another.

I know so few that deal well with polyamory, and read about few that do well with it, too. Have you and she read about polyamorous relationships? There's ways to make your situation work better for you, without hurtin' one anothers feelings. If you're to practice polyamorous relations with a third party, you may wish to both read up on how to deal with that in ways that won't hurt one another.

For what it's worth, I know several, within our community, that are polyamorous, and successful with it. At least two are the "third" in a trio, with the other two being life-partners/married. It's possible, but it requires knowin' how to make it work, and from what I'd gathered through 'em, that wasn't an automatic process.

My $0.02,

dvnc

Thank you dvnc.I apprecciate your comments
Where can we read about polyamory, is there any suggested article in the web?

Thanks again
Diego

 

[starfires]

www.polyamory.org is a good place to start if you want to research polyamory. There is also a newsgroup, alt.polyamory, with plenty of experienced poly folk, also people who have tried polyamory and found that it does not work for them. You could also try a general search for "polyamory" on the net.
However, what you are describing seems closer to swinging than polyamory. (the basic difference being, swinging is mostly about sex, whereas polyamory is mostly about relationships).
Good luck.

 

[dvnc]

Props to ya, Starfires, for gettin' the data there faster than I could possibly have done. I don't have such handy, as it ain't in my kink. It's one o' them "fine if it's there and fine if it ain't" sorta deals.

It *does* sound more like swingin', now that starfire and evilqueen point it out. There's resources for that, too, but I don't have 'em handy, either. Someone here likely does, though.

 

[QBWeaver]

I tried it. It definitely did not work for me. In my opinion, it failed more from the personalites involved. Other personalities, and a broader range of focus, would probably make it work however I'm not going to even try to find out.

I know several other folks who are engaged in that type of relationship and it is working well for them and I think that's really cool.

 

[Diego]

Thank you everyone

I want To thank your opinions. I was talking about the sexual thing, as Evilqueen describe it.Anyway, sometimes my wife may feel jealous? when we are having sex and tickling sessions with another woman, in special when its the other woman and me having sex.

I have no problem when I see my wife making love with this woman, anyway I am sure I could not resist watching her with another man.

We have learned that its usually better for us to share our fantasies and play rather than make them happen

Thanks again
Diego