Tickling woes

[j-e-l-l-o]

It seems like most members on this website get to tickle Girls more often then none. But as for me i never really quite get to tickle Girls my own age(im 19) as much as i would like. I still go to high school and thiers tons of cute and very hot Girl in my classes and school that i would love to get my hands on and explore thier ticklish body. But major reason i dont is because im really shy yeah ive talked to Girls before but only a few secs. I have a hard time holding a good conversion with most of them i get tounged tied and im nervous. This my be found as sad a 19 year old male that has trouble talking with Girls? but its true i would love get over my shyness and start being able to be more upbeat and then that would lead to tickling. 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁

Well anyways i'll stop being sad and let you Guys be

talk to everyone later

 

[qjakal]

Lifestyle changes...

http://members.aol.com/cybernettr/shyness.html

Perhaps a few ideas here will lead you on a path to metamorphisis, or enable you to accept your shyness as an integral part of your inner self, and allow you to work within your limits. I don't know you well enough to offer specific advice, but many times martial arts or meditation offer an alternative path to opening up other aspects of ones physche. Mind and body...one will, one way...many paths.

Best of luck to you should you decide to take action.... Q

 

[Phineas]

it's not true that all of us are getting more "action" than you. don't let the fact that a few very vocal people talk about their exploits constantly mislead you into thinking we're all 24-hour tickling fools.

I know my own experiences match your own, when I was your age. At 19 I couldn't even get many dates, let alone much tickling, due to the fact that all girls at 19 have boyfriends. even the ones that don't, often tell you they do.

anyway. I found my avenues opened up a lot more once I got married. for whatever reason, women don't find you as "threatening" if they know you're not after them. as a result, they're more open to things if they don't have to worry about it leading to something else.

I would not, however, recommend this method to everyone, as it takes you off the market. 😀

 

[BigJim]

Re: Why I'm Posting This

I haven't posted on the tickling discussion board before today in a long time, because I've had almost no tickling or romance in my life since '94. I've had nothing to say on the subject, and I don't believe in talking when you have nothing to say.

Look at how many members the TMF has, and compare it to how many post on the tickling discussion board. If the many other people who are members not posting on this board are not doing so because they also have nothing to say, then maybe those of us w/no one special in their lives are not as alone as they think.

You're assuming that the people who post on this board speak for the whole TMF. Not so.

I could'nt agree more.

Speaking personally, I've met three ladies from the Forum and get in as many vanilla tickles as I can, without being arrested. (Usually out of making a play fight with some girl, provoking a sassy response from her and then extracting a fitting revenge.)

The best way to kill shyness (apart from the tips link Q posted above) is practice, practice, practice! A bloody good place to start is the TMF chat room. It's a good place to learn about r/l boundaries and people's sensibilities.

Another thing to remember is patience. I was a community member for over two years before I actually met someone in real life from the TMF. It took that long to develop things to that point. (And 2 of the 3 girls I've met I had known online for nearly a year before we arranged anything in r/l.)

 

[The Pianist]

Like I said in the other thread... you're ahead of me so far that you've actually had a girlfriend. I'm still not sure if any of my tips are worth while, but I still find myself not at my most charming when I'm talking to a girl I'm really interested. Either I get a little tounge tied or any attempt at something humourus dies in the ass.

I'd just once again suggest taking all the pressure away from yourself. Just learn to make friends with girls, doesn't matter if you don't tickle them... probably would be almost better if you didn't intend to at all, cause then you'd be able to concentrate on talking to them rather than thinking about what you'd do if they wore a sleeveless top and no shoes.

... and then yeah, after you start loosing your shyness around girls everything will start being a little easier.



Buuuut, I'm younger than you and still without a girlfriend... so I could be wrong still 🙂

 

[hiram]

Tickling Woes

This subject has been discussed on several tickling fora for the several years that I have lurked among the tickle people. The subject has always left me a tiny bit uncomfortable. Before getting married, I dated a number women...some more seriously than others. Some I liked a great deal, and some thought I was the rube of all time, and dropped me in mid-date. I don't think I ever went anyplace with a woman thinking this is the time to tickle before it actually was the time.

Perhaps that is a basic mistake we tickle people make. I have always thought we should want to do things with our partners because we like them. We should plan to go to ball games or bowling or to movies or to dinner. We should take walks in the park and drives by the lake and picnics and dancing lessons and on and on.

We should move heaven and earth to make sure our partner for life or for just the evening thinks she(he) is the most important person ever born, without the slightest regard for tickling. If sparks fly, then we will get to spend more time with one of the true pleasures in life...getting to know, really know, another person. Along the way (and this gets my personal money back guarantee)there will be times and places for the most delightful tickling anyone ever saw.

The shy part is a bit more of a dilemna. That may be the true tragedy. See, while there seem to be a few more libertines these days than there were in my youth, I think there are still lots of both sexes that are more reserved, and instinctively would like to meet potential partners with whom they can relate. It always seemed to me such a simple way to solve two problems at the same time to get two shy people into the same room to let things unfold.

I also think the vast majority of people aren't as smooth as some think they are, although smoothness comes with practice...and your occasional failure. People have to make themselves available. They also should be willing to be "blind dates" yet still follow the rule laid out above. By the time I was nineteen I was over my shyness, although I marvel at lost opportunities from when I was 16 or 17 or 18. I also had a natural advantage in that I think 99.99% of the women in the world are knockouts.

If you start with dinner and a movie, you can be quite non-threatening. I've watched my kids struggle with these issues, and can promise if you both take the risk and make yourself available, the shyness will disappear, and along the way you will get the tickles.

Hiram

Here is the dream and the reality put forth by Henry Mancini, for with faith, it will happen:

They say there's a tree in the forest,
A tree that will give you a sign,
Come along with with me, to the sweetheart tree,
And I'll carve your name next to mine.

They say if you kiss the right sweetheart,
The one you've been waiting for,
Big blossoms of white, will burst into sight,
And your love will be true evermore.

 

[Em Es]

Jello, you said, "It seems like most members on this website get to tickle Girls more often then none." I'm not sure what you mean, but I can tell you this: very few male ticklers get to tickle women as often as they would like!

I guess you are graduating high school soon. But I liked what "manofmystery" about tickling as many girls as possible while being just a kid allows you to get away with it. But if you're going to college, that theory may still apply. I tickled SOME girls in high school but a lot MORE in college!

As I said in my response in the other thread you started: the girls who like YOU will be a lot more fun than the girls you like. I've dated more than one woman just for tickling fun. They wanted me and put up with the tickling to prove it.

For advice on dealing with women, see the web site www.askmen.com and look up all article by DOC LOVE. He publishes new articles every Thursday. You will learn how to weed out the time wasters and find the girls who are dying to please you. And you know what you can do with those girls!

Feel free to e-mail me at [email protected] if you want to bounce ideas off me or just talk tickle.