ticklish reflexes....

[Eternal Tomboy]

Here is a problem that I have been running into lately during "play time" - my reflexes seem to be getting in the way of completely letting go and enjoying the full experience of being a 'lee. My husband wanted to kiss my neck the other night (major tickle spot), and I literally couldn't bring myself to uncurl my shoulders long enough to actually let him in there! It's not that I didn't want him to, but my body was saying "What are you nuts?! Don't you KNOW how much that's going to tickle??" The mind is willing, but the flesh is weak.
The same thing happens whenever we try to play without bondage. If I have my arms above my head (in a test of willpower...which never lasts too long..lol), and he comes close enough to tickle me, I wind up caving in before things get going. I like bondage on occasion, but in general would rather do without it.
My question is, how can I either screw up enough courage to bypass my reflexes, or how can my 'ler pin me effectively enough to tickle me regardless of how much I struggle?


Maggie

 

[ticklish Brad]

Hello!!

im exactly like you in my neck.. i laugh and curl my shoulders before my GF kiss me! so ticklish it is!!

And the feet, its the same thing! Just trying to relaxe and let someone touche my feet for a massage for exemple and i take off my feet from them! Must be tied or tickling me its impossible! And dont forget that i am a male, 6'1" and 200 pounds!! So when i giggle and squirm, take care loll

Brad

 

[rajee]

😀 Try deep breathing and concentrate hard. 😀

 

[Limeoutsider]

Try (I feel like Dear Abby) lying (spread out) on a comfortable surface blindfolded abnd letting him tickle you

 

[Deleted member 2452]

this works for all sorts of things

but try hypnosis. it worked on my wife.

steve

 

[Knox The Hatter]

No bout adoubt it...you're going to need outside assistance, because your brain is more powerful than you are... 😎

 

[milagros317]

The most obvious solution to controlling your reflexes is bondage. To use it, you have to have absolute trust in your partner. 🙂

 

[heavenkitty]

Yes!! I'm the same way!!! In my case, I can't overcome my 'instinct' to fight but I love it anyway, so I need to be tied 😉

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

Thanks for the suggestions guys...

I do use bondage on occasion, but don't have the time and/or the energy to do it on a regular basis.

So, I guess what I was really asking was what the 'ler pros did to keep their 'lees pinned down while they tickled them (when tickle opportunities come up and you don't have any rope handy...lol). What is your most effective pinning position that can render your 'lee totally defenseless?


Maggie

 

[4Pawz]

Heh, I have the same issues. I am actually quite well known for it lol. The one reflex I cannot conquer. I have in a way though, lol, I just use bondage. It cuts most of my problems away, though it doesn't really solve the neck and ears issues. I do it not so much for my own desires, but the ler's safety. When I react people tend to go flying *giggles* and last thing I want to do it hurt the ler. You can try the suggestions given. One ler and I tried one idea, it didn't work for me, but it may work for you. Make it so you have to sit still and take it, or the consequence is something even more hard to endure. Good luck! lol

Pawz

 

[dvnc]

Where bondage is one solution, one with complications, a simple leash line on which to hold, when "playing" will allow you a focus point on which to pull without injurin' your lover.

Some folks, though, really do REQUIRE bondage. Ask QBWeaver. Seen her take out guys twice her size, effortlessly, and the lady is otherwise SO nice!

Simple bondage works wonders. Refocusing on a leash line (even grabbing part of the headboard like you'll drown without it) can do wonders for some. Does make a body jealous o' them 'lees that can lay still, though...

 

[Brad_is_tklsh]

I consider myself to be an extremely ticklish person, but neck is not a spot for me. It's a complete turn on to see the reaction of the female ticklee though as I go to tickle/nibble on her neck. During tickle wrestling, once I get her arms pinned above her head, i'll lean down to tickle/nibble her neck. If she curls, i'll use my free hand to tickle elsewhere, an opportunity to tickle/nibble the neck becomes available eventually.

 

[SimplyRio]

Does make a body jealous o' them 'lees that can lay still, though...

For this insanelyticklish Ticklee (who can completely comprehend the ticklish neck weakness), when enjoying this one particular scenario it's a matter of "gifting" my ticklish spot to my partner... and admittedly some serious subliminal mind control (at least initially) LOL

Are there many things more ticklish than tickle nibbles delivered to my usually fiercely-protected neck and collarbone? Not too many, and we both know it. Does he also know he sends ticklish shockwaves wracking throughout my entire body with every little nip of his teeth or flick of his tongue? You better believe it, and I am vividly aware that he is intimately knowledgeable of that, too LOL.

To give up those cherished sweet spots and relinquish ticklish control is one of the most loving gestures you, as a Ticklee, can offer your Tickler. And when you lay there and just TAKE IT... when laughter is your only defense... for me, anyway, it seemingly increases my ticklishness exponentially. And here's a little secret that is learned only after you've "crossed over" - once you are in this ticklish little predicament, you really have no choice in the matter and any *mind control* you thought you may have used is inconsequential. The ticklish sensations overwhelm you beyond all comprehension and to the point of no return, and (for me) that includes any thoughts of self-preservation LOL

Some may argue that this is Topping from the Bottom... but when you so deeply crave the ticklish sensations and it *rewards* your equally insatiable Tickler so richly, who am I to argue?

 

[tickleshotel]

I am the same way too !😀 My favorite way to be held down and tickled is when the tickler straddles me to where I am underneath the tickler and all I can do is wiggle,squirm underneath..What my husband sometimes does is he straddles me pinning my legs,feet which are twisted inside his legs..That;s the weakness of being really petite,his legs are longer and he laughs if I try to bring myself to a sitting position,and he lightly tosses me back down to the floor LOL ..