TMF People vs NEW People 2003 UK

[del]

Well, I'm having fun building a new tickle community here in the UK. It's all off to a slow but steady start. I am new myself to all this community stuff with no history. I'm used to lots of one-to-one, So I am going full speed ahead like a train. Let's see if I hit a brick wall 🙂

So far I have 2 groups the TMF lot and the complete Newbies.

TMF PEOPLE
TMF people so far have been very shy people hiding in corners but full of desire. I only found out tonight what a "NEST" was. I just read the section for the first time on TMF after she told me about it. A woman who lives near me and flys all the way to the USA to join a NEST but won't even meet up for a drink! I think she is waiting for the UK community to get as big as the US before she will make an appearance.
I was very impressed with the NEST organisation. I've never experienced a NEST. It looks heavy. 😀


THE NEWBIES
The Newbies have never heard of TMF and don't even know a tickling community exists! These people have shown an interest in the my new Alternative Therapy - "Tickle Therapy"
Basically, these ladies meet for a chat and sensitivity test.
After that if they are up for it they get an invite to my house to sample my selection of feathers for various conditions. 🙂
I have grouped different types of feathers and strokes to different effects.
I will have a great library of feathers by summer.
I have a feeling that the number of people that get into tickling through "Tickle Therapy" will be at least 3 times that from TMF.
To jump from nothing to a NEST looks too intense at the moment.


A DIFFERENT PLANET
I assumed that anybody who had been to a NEST would be liberated and confident. To my surprise also over on the Yahoo groups people are now talking about their disturbed childhood! 🙁
I think I will have to grow the "Tickle Therapy" group separately. I have to try and maintain the safe and fun angle.
I think I'm on a different planet. 🙄
If anybody out there is on my planet let me know. 🙂

 

[dvnc]

Wow, excellent. I know the woman that lives near you. Small freakin' world.

NESTs are cool. They're the biggest gatherings known in our community to date.

What you're doing, organizing ways to meet safely and play safely, are why gatherings were started out here. It's why I organized mine, and a large part of why many others organized theirs. For others, meeting partners was a goal. I had a partner. I wanted to know more of us.

Quite frankly, getting to where you have munches (social meets in public, in a pub or restaurant), that's a big step for many. I had a gathering out there, that was teeny, and took a great deal of effort and convincing to get folks to attend. It's worth it if you keep at it, and make regular events. Monthly munches and quarterly gatherings/parties would bring your scene out, slowly but surely, and you'd have a lot of new friends involved in this interest.

Keep in mind that gatherings started BEFORE the TMF ever was created. Likely before it was conceived. The "right stuff" to get 'em going varies, and the size of the events vary, but let's face it - if you get an event going in the UK that allows folks to meet others into this, and have resources to let pen pals connect here, and with one another, you'll be doing our scene, there, a great service.

When you're serious about getting this off the ground, do let me know. I've a few friends there that'd be good for you to meet. She's one of them, and a mutual friend, met through her, is another, and both are stellar friends in this scene. I hope you all get connected soon. It'd warm my heart to come out there one day wit' my wife and meet a group of you, already organized, hosting a gathering. That'd be mighty fine indeed.

Hope you and the rest of the visible UK denizens MEET soon, get talking, and start this ball rolling.

Congrats, Del!

 

[del]

Well, you guys are way way way ahead.
Some the moderators here are brand names I recognised way back when I first discovered what a search engine was and nervously typed "tickle" for the first time. I was in awe to what you lot were getting up to all those years ago. So I can't imagine what you all do now 😀

I'm only getting into this community building stuff now because of my few years of success since you guys inspired me.


TICKLE THERAPY FIRST
I'm going to focus on the "Tickle Therapy" for now and get lots of fresh people interested. Tickle Therapy actually works, one woman I have been tickling for a while lost 2 stone. Obviously, it was more than just the tickling, she felt really good about herself and her confidence and discipline grew. I like to be positive and make people feel positive about themselves too.
The established tickle community people move too slow. All the men are to nervous and all the women seem to be commercial or more into chat than actual tickles.


NEST
Describe what it is like to go to a NEST in the USA for the first time. Walk me through. What is the place like? What is the first thing I would see? What is all this stuff about collars? What is the energy and atmosphere like? What is sad about it? What is happy about it?

 

[dvnc]

Kind of ya t'say, Del, but we're only "ahead" 'cause of a few brave souls like you, here, that figured it was worth the risk to open this sort of thing up to all comers. What you're doing is exactly that sort of activity.

The therapy you describe is a positive result to a positive effort, and thus, in my eyes, laudible.

NEST is the largest tickle gathering. It's not the first, either in inception or in the use of bondage clubs for a locale, but it IS the greatest number of ticklephiles ever assembled, to my knowledge. West Coast Gatherings were the first formal "gathering", but even then, TickleChgo had less formal tickling events in Chicago many years prior, offline. What Max did, that no other host has EVER topped, was to get somewhere near 75 people into one place, all into this.

I'll give you my interpretation of NEST, but at that size, it's much like a blind man describing an elephant. I'll say it's like a snake (from the front of the beast), and another will say it's like a leather wall. Some whiner will say it's soft and mushy. Ignore whiners, says I.

NEST, at it's size, was a stunning experience. Max is nearly shy in a large group, but as a performer, is able to capture the attention of a large room easily. It's easy for the other hosts around the country, and his close personal friends, to help him host. There's never less than a half dozen folks looking out for the group at large.

Play (tickle play) is only consentual, by permission, and anyone breaking that rule is risking harm to themselves. That was decided upon when some folks got physically intrusive in earlier events. Won't happen again. Play is done "publically", and there were some folks casually tickling new friends.

The events in his home were warm and house-party comfortable. Though more "nervous" than other, smaller events, Max's NEST gatherings are exciting, and meeting new friends is inevitable. Meeting net personalitis is inevitable (I met Drew70 last time, which delighted me, havin' read his posts so often). For me, there was a number of playful and friendly folks.

The event itself is the main course, but the appetizers, intro courses and dessert are in the hotel visits and play, the touring of Philedelphia, and the new friends. I'm STILL proud to call friends of them. Broadened my scope of the community to attend.

The hotel scene, alone, was a 4 day gathering, the first time I went. I played from the first day to the last. Delightful and warm.

I heard many describe that gathering as I've heard folks describe all gatherings - as a comfort ("there's really folks like me out there") and a delight ("dude, she let me tickle her"), a surprise ("did you see how long she lasted bein' tickled?"), and sometimes, a meeting of lovers. Some of those lovers are still tight. Some are friends. It's a fine thing to behold.

NEST is a grand example of what's fine about gatherings, and about vacations. Few events last as long, and few places I've visited were as interesting or as friendly. I'll always consider Max a friend, and Mike, Pete, Lee, John, and the dozens of other folks I met. I'll always delight in seein' old friends there, now. Some folks I already knew were there, so I had an old school there on arrivin'. Wasn't necessary, though. We brought on as many as were interested in hangin' wit' us. I'm certain there were more hotel scenes than just ours, from conversations later held.

I could go on and on. From your side of the US, across the pond, NEST is an essential visit, in my eyes. I'd go see it like I'd recommend Manhattan before anything else in the US to visit. It's something to behold.

One day, as a fellow host mentioned some years ago, there'll be a convention of us somewhere, like Atlantic City or Las Vegas, where folks aren't easily shocked, and it'll be the first and only thing to exceed what NEST has become.

I hosted the West Coast Gatherings from inception through their first 5 years or more, and I never accomplished so grand a scheme. NEST is unique, delightful, fascinating, and essential.

How's that?

 

[del]

I can see how hard it is to describe. It sounds really great but I still can't visualise the people.
What is the percentage of men to women?
Were most people couples?
I've never been to a fetish club so I'm way behind here 🙄
Anyway I'm going to beat the record of 75 in one place 🙂

 

[dvnc]

Ah... Hadn't thought to give visuals of the folks. You get the spectrum. Young and old, pretty and scruffy, rich and poor, most all shades of skin and colors of hair, most religions represented.

There were male and female 'lees. Ages ranged from mid 20s to late 40s. Play ranged from one-on-one to 6-on-1. Lasted from 10 minutes to over an hour.

When you get 50 people or more (last two NESTs), you get a large spectrum.

Fetish clubs, when taken over and populated by only ticklephiles, are just convenient private spaces with bondage equipment provided. Heck, even if NEST ever *IS* held in an open fetish club, there's over 70 from the last one. We outnumber most other kinks showin' to a Sunday event, and pull respectable numbers even on a Friday night.

Percentages? Never seen it worse than playing averages for m/f play. It's easy to play 5 on 1 in most scenes. Average for West Coast Gatherings is 4/1, worst I've ever seen was 10/1, and even then, the event jumped. Some folks were just too nervous to tickle anyone.

Oh, and of women at the last one, my wife and I both figure about half weren't coupled there. Of those that were, some played openly (let other men tickle 'em) with the condition that it wasn't beyond specific boundaries. Mind you, I wouldn't recommend lookin' for a marital partner right off the top if it's your first events. Too, I just assume that anyone married would have the taste to say so, so the grounds for play were known. Single folks who've not played before don't tend to squick on such things.

Hope this is helpin'. NEST is a fine thing, and well worth visitin'.

Happy New Year!

dvnc

 

[justmyfeet]

Hmmm...little bit of info here...tickle party at my house early Feb...we've had to restrict our numbers as my house is small...but we have equal balances of male/female and ler/lee...sure we'll all be here to let you know how it goes!! It may be small, but it's well planned and it's a start 😀

 

[a_crimson_halo]

to justmyfeet

elaine, sorry... * CONTENT OF PERSONAL DETAIL REMOVED. PLEASE TAKE SUCH TO EMAIL, OR SOMEWHERE NOT IN THE TMF.* ...goodbye.

 

[SmashTV]

Why Mercy....

I didn't know you were that sort of girl....oh, who am I kidding?!!

SmashTV

 

[Boba1]

I'm going to keep checking back here for news, now it seems that the ball is rolling 🙂 thank you everyone!

 

[SmashTV]

Mercy.....

The sort of girl with a dark side..(*GRIN*!)

Surely a name like Mercy describes sweetness and innocence, right?

SmashTV

 

[Boba1]

*Prepares a Mr Pancake Flip-Eze for Smash TV* There you go, all yours! Give Mercy a flip and see what side she lands on! 😛

 

[SmashTV]

Flipping Hell!!

(Smash takes a big run up, jumps into the aire, does a twist a somersault, a double pike, lands on his hands, launches into a cartwheel, does one more flip, a couple more somersaults, and then lands perfectly on his feet, arms outstretched, accepting the applause of his colleagues)

Ta Dah!!!

Mercy? I suggest we freeze her in carbonite, chuck her inside the cargo hold of Slave - 1, and then see what Jabba wants doing with her...or am I thinking of something else?

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[BigJim]

UKTF

There's a new kid on the block...........

A new gang in the neighbourhood............

A new place for the bro's and sis's to hang out...........


The United Kingdom Tickling Forum is now in existence. I will be tweaking the forum options for a day or two, but after that...........


Wagons roll!!!!

It will replace my old Yahoo Group which will be deleted after a while, and will provide a whole lot more stuff to do and a new place to organise meetings for the ticklephiles on the right hand side of the Atlantic.

 

[Boba1]

Cheers BigJim, sounds good.

 

[BigJim]

Glad you think so, but it'll need a lot of member participation to get it going full time.