To the ladies of TMF

[Kittycupcake]

I've noticed this seems to be a very male dominated forum, which is all fine and dandy by me. However there seems to be lots of discussion about men pretending to be ladies, and a disproportionate amount of doubt has been cast on the identity of some members, especially those who state that they are female and at the younger end of the membership...
Do any of you feel like you have to work harder to prove you're a real lady? Is it just me that feels a little self conscious about people doubting my age and gender?!

 

[BlackestLily]

I used to feel this way a little bit because I found it annoying to try to have to 'prove who I am'. I started going to gatherings though and that verified my gender and appearance. Now I'm set in that and if someone ever told me I needed to prove it, I don't even bother with them. It's not worth my time to prove something to someone I know nothing of nor care anything about. If they go to a gathering or meet me, then they'll know! Otherwise, why should they care anyway?

(And generally speaking almost anyone who has asked me to prove who I am has ulterior motives. If we were just having a nice conversation then my gender shouldn't matter. If they want to talk fetish or set up play immediately and just want to make sure...they may as well find someone else. So on some level it might even serve me the hassle if someone thought I was a big ol' dude.)

 

[xX Yuna Xx]

I only prove I'm female to the people that deserve it. Being accused of being a male is probbaly just another pathetic way to get pictures of girls or something.. But I keep myself private due to the big interest in females in the Internet world..

 

[BellybTickler]

I wouldn't worry about it my dear, you'd be trying to prove yourself for the wrong reasons. Besides, it is a waste of time and effort to please people on an internet forum. Just keep being you, that's all that anyone should ever ask of.

 

[Bohemianne]

Some of them are too polite, they call Sir. I feel null. 😀 😱

 

[milagros317]

This is the internet where the men are men, the women are men, and the children are undercover FBI agents pretending to sell kiddie porn.

 

[Kittycupcake]

I don't feel so much that I've been pressured or whatever, just wondering if others did. I have a fetlife account and I'm actually in a relationship with a mod on here so I have nothing to hide, I've just seen a lot of arguing and doubting and it's not very nice. But I guess it's what happens on the internets, where people can pretend to be anyone they want and it makes everyone suspicious!

 

[Bothersome]

It wouldn't actually matter to me unless I was going to be serious with the girl in question, and I wouldn't start getting serious with them unless I had met them in person and could visit in person so...

Moot point; for me, anyways.
I can understand why some people would be extra concerned about it, but I don't share the feeling. I'm here to talk, and I don't really care who I talk to. But, again, that's just me.

I wouldn't feel too pressured to justify who you are. On the internet, it doesn't really matter.

 

[Gothika]

rock on 🙂

 

[socktickler86]

I've noticed this seems to be a very male dominated forum, which is all fine and dandy by me. However there seems to be lots of discussion about men pretending to be ladies, and a disproportionate amount of doubt has been cast on the identity of some members, especially those who state that they are female and at the younger end of the membership...
Do any of you feel like you have to work harder to prove you're a real lady? Is it just me that feels a little self conscious about people doubting my age and gender?!

That's what happens when a large majority of the girls on a site like this ARE guys in reality.

This is one of those sad realities of the internet and I think most of the righteous types on this forum don't understand the situation guys deal with. There are decent guys on this forum that really are just trying to find nice enough people to possible share experiences with. The fact of the matter is a vast majority of people are not in a position to go to a gathering, a majority don't even like the idea of going to a gathering period, and many that I know who have gone to one have gone to only one and never looked back. Hell, I know someone who use to go to gatherings where some rather prominent members of this board, who shall remain nameless, make the idea seem like an utter creepfest.

Like blacklistily implies, if you don't plan on meeting anyone and they demand pics, don't bother, but make it clear to people. If you do want to meet people, then be prepared to have to deal with consequences of entering the interwebs. If you think it's unfair, don't worry, guys have a hell of a lot more to worry about considering most people just assume you're a creepy rapist from the get-go when you start talking to them.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

I don't really trip over people who doubt if I'm a girl or not. I don't have a problem confirming who I am if I've been talking to someone for a while, but not right away.

But I haven't really had too many issues from people actually. So that's nice 🙂

 

[JaneyD]

Love me or hate me its still an obsession HAHAHA! Only think that could come up to my mind as a reply in this thread.

 

[joeschmoo13]

The sad reality here is that a lot of guys do pretend to be girls. It's pretty easy to tell though. If someone has 0 posts and says stuff like "who wants to tickle me crazy!" all the time in the chat room, it's a safe bet they are a troll haha.

 

[GBond008]

Ouch, i think i'm glad i actually joined this forum as part of a partnership, but you guys on here have made me and Goldenkgem as welcome as possible, so thanks xx

 

[LD_Tickler]

I mean that attitude definitely exists. It happens every now and then that so much doubt and accusation either chases new women away, or they rush to vet themselves. Yes there are 10 faker weirdos for every actual female member, but getting pushy isn't fair to legitimate newcomers.

I say shrug it off, and don't worry about who people actually are unless you actually plan on meeting them or establishing some kind of relationship.

Suspect all, accuse none. 😎

 

[rhiannon]

I just don't care if people believe I'm a woman or not. Since I don't crave any cybertickling or stuff like that, I really couldn't care less if people think I'm a guy or not. Therefore, I have no intention to prove my identity to anybody. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

I'm pretty sure all the ladies who have posted are ladies...

Usually, the guy pretending to be a girl, likes to act like a 'nymphomaniac'... For instance, a cyber tickling session before a civil conversation.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Oh, the internet.


The end.

 

[PurpleStyle]

I wish I had a penis, because there are some ladies here I'd fuck in a heartbeat.

Serious answer: pretty obvious, given by the way I talk to people, that I don't care what anybody thinks of me. Try thinking of it from that perspective, and I guarantee you will have a lot more fun. 😉

 

[Inverse]

I've honestly noticed a higher 'need to know' with gender when it comes to tickling communities. I don't see that kind of thing almost anywhere else. People don't care who a person's gender is on a gaming site, or a news site, etc. Half the people here won't even meet each other, and yet for a lot of people (men especially) it's like the world to them to have to know. They have to know, because it dictates whether they're going to bother wasting time being 'nice' to them, in the extremely limited prospect they would develop interest in each other for whatever reason.

People should just be themselves, and treat each other fairly, regardless of who is who. It frustrates me, since I've always been bisexual that I see this disparity with gender. Especially when it comes to this particular fetish. (Then again, who knows~ I don't really go to other fetish boards, so maybe it's a sexual community thing as a whole, in general~) I don't ask people's genders, or care. I'd rather people just got to know each other, I don't know, like human beings first. Then reveal it if you want. There's nothing to prove.

 

[kopfhorer]

...[G]uys have a hell of a lot more to worry about considering most people just assume you're a creepy rapist from the get-go when you start talking to them.

How true and how sad that is. 🙁 It sucks, and complicates things for us single males. Unfortunately those stereotypes didn't develop out of thin air.

I can usually spot trolls by their writing style (they sound a lot like spammers, don't they?). I just ignore them.

And FWIW, in my attempts at dating I myself have found there's can be a lot of difference between the person you see in the online profile and the person you finally meet at the coffee shop.

 

[Tygris]

I stopped caring a long time ago. I don't post much, nor do I go anywhere but the chat every so often. So, anyone who has had problems with me being a girl, has generally wanted me to prove it by sending nudes, (because, sending a real pic would be that much less believable??..) or was actually a guy in disguise, and was trying to push the angry mob off to me, which in turn I replied by admitting I'm abalding iraqian gentlemen named Muhammad the Fourth, who enjoys sounding and child porn... Usually people leave me alone by then <3

 

[ticklemepls]

the people I actually WANT to associate with, have seen me both on yahoo chat and skype - so I know they know... thats all that matters... people can doubt and talk crap about whatever they want- more power to them (and the Red Sox... but thats another subject)

 

[Some1Getme]

Sometimes I wish I was a girl. Since this site is male dominated, a male lee like myself doesnt get much of an opportunity to get tickled by a girl.

But seriously, its just pathetic that a guy would stoop so low just to talk to someone. I say be a man and just take whatever comes your way on TMF