It would be nice if they let you know, sure. But again, see my above post. When a woman posts here or even enters the chatroom, guys jump all over them. Turns into a sausage fest very quickly, so why should they post? Any prospective lee of mine has either PMed me here at the forum if they are a member, or created a fake email account and e-mailed me directly at my Hotmail or yahoo accounts. Our profiles are available to the public without being a member and that has helped me attract lees. Remember, this is a crapshoot. Out of every one hundred views, I usually only end up with a handful of contacts if I am lucky. Out of that handful one meet. Also understand meets can be disappointing as well as fulfilling. Some people just do not click, some are not that ticklish. Other meets are a blast! Keep expectations low and be patient. If you really need a tickle fix, be willing to pay for it. Even then one still needs to take time and get to know a prospective lee or ler. Good Luck.