Very few female ticklees?

[Fordman]

Is it just me, or are there very few female ticklees that respond to ads about males looking for them. I browsed around in many of the earlier ads in the personals section, like from 2001 to present, and noticed that there are a ton of male ticklers, like myself, looking for female ticklees, and they got a lot of views on their ads, but there were zero responses. Another thing I noticed was that when a female ticklee does respond, or when she puts in a little ad of her own, the male ticklers literally pounce on her with their responses. I just don't really understand this. Are there any curious female ticklees out there? I don't mean to offend the ticklees that do respond or any fellow male ticklers, but this is just something that confuses me. Just wondering what everyone else thinks.

 

[Battousai]

Personally I think its just because the female members may be more wary about it. I mean, like you said, they basically get pounced on by tons of guys -- I'd be wary too if I were them >.>x

 

[Iggy pop]

The major problem is that there is majority male somewhere around 95-98%. Yes there are some females here, but even many of those are already in relationships, and even those that are not are not neccesarily looking to meet someone off the net. That's a risky proposition. I remember one guy asking if anyone had success in the personal section. There was not a single response. That tells me the personal section is total waste of time and is big joke.

Now here is the good news. There are women all around you. And many of them are single. You just have to meet them . Go to parties, the gym, take a yoga class. I think this forum is great for many things, but for meeting women it is not.

 

[Mimi]

I think this forum is great for many things, but for meeting women it is not.

Hmmmm. Might want to tell that to the several couples we have on the TMF that met THROUGH the TMF, or the tickling community in general. It DOES happen 🙂

For Fordman, I think the bigger problem is females tend to be wary of one on one meetings with someone they are unfamiliar with. Also location has a lot to do with it. We are all quite widespread throughout the world, and trying to find a play mate within a specific location can be tricky. I myself live in Wisconsin, and I know we are quite rare in this general area. Just hold your head up and be patient....it could happen 🙂

Mimi

P.S. Gatherings are another great option for meeting and playing with like minded folks in your region.

 

[Ticklemmmeeeeeee]

I think this is a really good post...I would personally like to see more male ticklers meet female ticklees for a real relationship...(then they would leave me alone!!!!...just kidding🙂....kinda...lol....Seriously, I know several very sweet, wonderful, intelligent, witty, funny and desirable male ticklers that would love a relationship with a female lee ...(sadly, I have not been lucky enough to meet women ticklees that I have been successful in establishing and maintaining friendships with 🙁.....but I know they are out there....if I exist (and I believe I do...lol)...there have to be 10,000 more like me....I feel so badly about the deprived lers, that I have toyed with the idea of starting a personals for ticklers/lees to meet...but I haven't the time🙁...I just think in a perfect world there would be a loving, devoted ticklish lee for every wonderful ler..I sense the frustration from lers at times.....I receive alot of emails and ims..(as I am sure every female lee does)....there is the occasional obnoxious or foul and offensive email that makes u want to stop talking to everyone...but for the most part every guy who contacts me is very respectful and considerate when I tell them I am not looking...It just makes me sad that some of them tell me of stories of flat out rejection by female lees...I get attacked by ims and emails too but I just don't feel there is a need to be rude or hurt someones feelings because they inquire about a relationship that u do not want...all u have to say is no...but, that said, a ler being persistent after I have explained myself is the time I either want to reach out and hit him in the head...or block everyone...but that is rare🙂 I was very lucky...my bf found me...just when I needed him most🙂....good luck in ur searches lers 🙂🙂....~ticklemmmeeeeeee 🙂🙂

 

[Iggy pop]

Mimi, Define Several for me? Are we talking one or two, a dozen, 100, a thousand?

 

[Mimi]

Around a dozen that I know of personally, Iggy. And I'm sure there are lots more I'm not aware of. Just gotta keep trying! It may happen eventually 🙂

Mimi

 

[Iggy pop]

Mimi, I was curious. I happend to find a beautiful girl from Argentina off the net. She is not into tickling(at least not yet), but I like her just the same. I just see so many good guys here who trying to find women here, and I've heard of very few success stories. I see no problem in trying, but do not think this is only outlet.

 

[Fordman]

Yeah, I guess that women being very wary to meet men on the net would be a big issue here. And as Mimi said, location is probably another. I too live in Wisconsin, and there seems to be few ticklees here. But thanks for the feedback so far everyone, and please, keep it coming.

 

[njjen3953]

I have talked to at least 6 people from Wisconsin that all say the same thing. There are no ticklphiles in Wisconsin. Why are you people not talking to eachother? Mimi hosts GLAT. Where were you all?

I think one of the biggest problem many people have is that they want a lee or ler to appear on their doorstep. Nice fantasy, but it doesn't work that way. You need to go out and seek eachother out.

I will say it again and again, if you want something, make it happen.

Ticklemmmeeeeeee said,

sadly, I have not been lucky enough to meet women ticklees that I have been successful in establishing and maintaining friendships with .....but I know they are out there

Yep. We are out there. Nothing stopping you from adding me to your buddy lists. njjen3953 on aim and njjen6365 on yahoo. For the aim, I need to add you in order for you to see me.

Jen

 

[MrPartickler]

njjen is a rare breed

having lurked for a long time here and been a part of different tk forums, etc. i have to say that if all women lees were more like njjen, there wouldn't be a problem...at least not nearly to the same degree.

i don't know her at all, but these are statements i can make just from observations i've made of her online interactions over time:
she loves being tickled and is not afraid to admit it; she will speak with anyone who approaches her with respect--and she's upfront and honest about what that respect entails; she responds to ticklers inquiries sincerely; she flirts openly with them, but doesn't lead them on (on the contrary, it seemes to be a genuine expression of interest.); i've never seen her shy away from meeting someone for nebulous (i.e., b.s.) reasons; she has screening process that works for her and, again, she's up front about what that process is; (i don't know what it is, but i'm certain the time frame is not measured in years. 🙄 lol); she's posted her <i>own</i> ads--plural--in several different forums/ways; i've never heard anyone complain that she wasn't responsive to them; i've even seen her vouch for kindly ticklers she's befriended who were seeking <i>other</i> local lees to meet with.

i've read plenty of her posts and we don't always have matching viewpoints, but as woman ticklees go she's truly one in a million. she should give lessons. seriously. i think many would agree that finding women lees online is not very difficult; there are plenty around. finding lees as exceptional, brave, and real as that <i>is</i>.

(all that being said, i hope this little rant doesn't get her bombarded with emails. 😛 😉 )

anyway, i would have to agree with iggy that this isn't the place to meet women for play or relationships or otherwise. sure it's happened. however (with all due respect to mimi), a few people win the lottery every day, but that wouldn't be a wise plan for any individual's financial future. alternatively, as a colleague of mine once said, "hope is not a strategy."

i say sure, play around here, and keep your eyes open, but just don't take it too seriously. this is the lottery ticket, not the salary. lol

 

[njjen3953]

MrPartickler

All I can say is WOW Thank you. It would be a pleasure to meet you some day and if I do get flooded with e-mail, I will know who to thank. 😉

Jen

 

[reflexology414]

my thoughts

I agree with a few of the comments in this thread.

The men have the women outnumbered quite badly. As such, it is much harder for guys to find a partner.

Also, I've found that many women are quite wary about actually
meeting anyone (I can understand why -- don't get me wrong). However, the end result is that guys really struggle to meet people.

 

[P50]

0.0008571

I would like to thank the group here for providing the needed data to make an informed decision.

According to the numbers reported here, approximately 6 out of 7000 men will find and form any sort of reasonable relationship with a real woman in real life.

i.e., a man does not have one chance in a thousand in this place.

I have received communications from a few women via TMF interaction who indicate that they will spend time to chat in person in order that we may get to know more about each other.

So far, things usually work like this: I respond to her E-mail; make repeated attempts (like five or ten) to accomodate her schedule, and we never even meet online for screen-and-keyboard chat (no voice; no webcam; got it ? Low threat; Low pressure).

Draw your own inference.

And then the women say things to the men like "Keep trying, it does happen, I know x-number of couples who met..."

What they don't mention is that X divided by Y equals 0.0008571

 

[P50]

Let the flood of acrimony against my observations begin. I will most probably return to read it one of these days.

 

[njjen3953]

Re: 0.0008571

i.e., a man does not have one chance in a thousand in this place.

I have received communications from a few women via TMF interaction who indicate that they will spend time to chat in person in order that we may get to know more about each other.

So far, things usually work like this: I respond to her E-mail; make repeated attempts (like five or ten) to accomodate her schedule, and we never even meet online for screen-and-keyboard chat (no voice; no webcam; got it ? Low threat; Low pressure).

Draw your own inference.

And then the women say things to the men like "Keep trying, it does happen, I know x-number of couples who met..."

What they don't mention is that X divided by Y equals 0.0008571

Not only did I voice chat with you, I even offered to talk on the phone. Not doing so was your decision, not mine.

 

[Wolf]

Sheesh, P50, thy cup of bitterness overflows a tad, don't you think?

(WARNING-Anyone who knows me knows about my lil' soapboax, and I'm fixin' to drag it out.....)

Seriously, fellas, part of the problem (in this furry little bastard's humble opinion)you could chalk up what you're focusing on. It's a lot easier to find a woman who's what I call "tickle-friendly" than it is to find one with a full-blown tickle fetish. Why? Because most women are (prepare for a shock) DIFFERENT than men, in the way they think, feel, and approach certain situations. Even a woman who's into tickling probably feels differently about it than a man with a similar background and experiences.

(The following is not intended to apply to our lovely female TMF members--) Many women who enjoy tickling don't really have a "fetish" because when they've wanted it, they could get it. It's not hard for a pretty girl to get tickled, now is it? They don't spend a lot of time thinking about it, because it's not unattainable. My lovely wife spent a lot of time getting tickled in her teen years; it's fun, flirtatious, and a common way for a lot of guys who aren't necessarily ticklers to cop a feel. She grew very fond of it, but, she could live without it if needs be. She has fantasies that involve tickling, and some that don't. Does that mean she has a tickle fetish, or not? Dunno. Don't care.

The way some people talk about "finding a woman with a tickle fetish" seems a little lazy, and even a little cowardly, to me, for a couple of reasons:

1 - Knowing, at the outset, that the other person shares your fetish means you don't have to face "coming out" and possibly getting rejected.

2 - It also means you never have to compromise on what you want, since the other person wants the same thing.

Look, long story slightly shorter; I have tickled a lot more women than a fella who looks like me would ever have a right to, so it would stand to reason that most women don't really have a problem with it. There are women, few and far between, who have a tickle fetish, and they are gems, bless them all....but, in your search for the perfect "woman with a tickle fetish", I think a lot of you fellas are missing out on some great opportunities. Broaden your search, and you may be pleasantly surprised.

Anyway, that's just my opinion, I could be ripping off Dennis Miller.

 

[Em Es]

When a woman wants to please you . . .

I guess there's nothing wrong with placing a personal ad. It may not be likely, but who knows, a female tickle enthusiast could reply. It's not impossible.

But my greatest tickles were at the expense of women who above all else wanted to please ME. None of them asked, "Please tickle me?" But they wanted to be with me, and when I tickled them, they grinned and beared it to make me happy.

Not that a couple of those girls didn't get mad or ask me not to do it anymore. But when I tickled them anyway, they stayed with me. When a woman wants you, her limits are not far from your dreams.

 

[BigJim]

Just out of interest, I've met three girls for tickling and all three were met through the TMF.