Warning to match.com subscribers

[cletus-factor]

While this may be common sense I think it's still worth mentioning. If any of you use match.com be weary! I'm writing here because I don't want anyone losing money to that site. Match.com itself is 99/100 times worthless, and some of those 99 times it's scam artists. Okay what I'm trying to say is that first of all match.com is pretty much worthless unless you're a hottie/stud naturally. The website has netted me I'll say 12 interactions in 3 months out of 200 interactions that I started and 1 that was initiated by someone else. The one that was aimed at me was probably cool but it never went anywhere. At least 6 occasions now I've gotten the I'm sorry I'm not interested email. On 3 occasions I've received some sob story always revolving around needing some money because of something involving Nigeria. And I may have gotten 1 or 2 replies back that went more than 1 email that were legite.

Just a summary of what has happened to me on match.com and a warning to any of you who use match.com about those scam artists claiming to be girls from Nigeria.

 

[c_tickler]

I think all dating sites are useless............. Been on about 4 last year and i got...................... maybe 4 dates.......... all the rest come to nothing so i'm thinkin maybe dating sites are not for me

 

[MistressValerie1]

I don't know anyone who has had a favourable experience with dating sites.

 

[cletus-factor]

There are a few with success stories otherwise why would they still be in business.

 

[leenotler]

A friend of mine married a wonderful woman he met on match.com, but he may be the rare exception. I guess lotteries stay in business too, despite almost all people losing. An independent study of all the dating sites, like some kind of Consumer Reports, would be nice.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

My opinion is (until such a report is conducted) that dating sites remain in business because people are so desperate that they'll try anything, regardless of the potential for success, or the unlikelyhood, thereof.

People want to believe in love so much that they believe it can be found anywhere and with anyone. I'd classify online dating/flirting and finding love online as two different things. The latter would mean that you actually meet the person you're "dating" and do or do not get into a physical, real-life relationship with them, as a result. Because the objective of dating sites like match.com is IS to pair up people in real-life, I think the percentages of people meeting and not clicking are higher than people who click and connect (and not for a limited time).

In the end, I believe in fate. While we can play some part in our own fate and alter it at some junctures, I believe that dating services are ultimately futile and don't figure into the larger aspect of it. If they work for some people, its because you were meant to use the service and find your love that way (likewise, if it doesn't work out for you, its because it wasn't meant to that way). And, thats fine really. Some people find love randomly, some people find love unintentionally, and then there are those who are intentionally looking for it. Alternatively, some people are only meant to be with certain people for limited ammounts of time where they then move on to someone else. In which case, the persons provided eachother a valuable experience on their way to finding the right person.

While match.com and places like it may increase your catches, chances and opportunities, its only in theory that they'd work out. It either will or it will not, and it has nothing to do with the means by which you sought the love.

 

[MistressValerie1]

From USA Today:

Online daters sue Match.com, Yahoo for fraud
NEW YORK (Reuters) — It's not easy finding love in cyberspace, and now some frustrated online daters say they were victims of fraud by two top Internet matchmaking services and have taken their complaints to court.

Full story here.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Thats disgusting, Valerie. Thanks for the link.

 

[VeganTickle1]

I had a relationship with somebody I met on a dating site

It was (only) a year and something long relationship, and ended more than five years ago - but here is one story that shows - it may work.

an article I once encountered read something like this "a dating site can help you find somebody compatible, but compatibility and love are often not the same".

I, on my end, thought that a dating site may be a good way for people who are memers of minority groups (and the tickling preference makes us a minority, in a way) find each other. it is a game of numbers, so, if you are exposed to a lot of people - you have better chances in fidning compatibilities.

however, with the total distrust people have towards dating sites; given that people do not come forward with their true selfves on there - still wearing masks - even on the internet... I am not sure of that anymore. and it is a funny thing to say, given the amount of work I invested with that free dating site I launched just two months ago...

It seems there have been an evolution - and not of the goot sort: A long time ago - when it all just started, dating sites seemed to have been used simply by the very really shy people. (I know - 'cause as a semi-geek I too was on there! 🙂). Then, it became more widely accepted. but people were not yet so cynical about it. Nowadays, so it seems, it simply manages to get the worst out of people!

 

[scorpionldr]

yea well, it just proves there's a market for peoples always looking for love and someone cashed in on it, regardless of the success those people have

 

[He-Man22]

I don't know anyone who has had a favourable experience with dating sites.

Well, I've had somewhat favorable experiences on some sites....at least as far as getting replies. Seems like people write back more on free dating sites like plentyoffish. or matchdoctor.com than on the pay sites.

And unlike alt.com, I've actually had people respond to my replies on collarme.com

 

[Cbarton]

A friend of mine met someone through eharmony and they are head over heels for each other. Then another friend did one of those sites and had no matches! So, it's hard to say what can happen when you sign up. The guy behind eharmony has been a writer about marriages and relationships in the Christian press for quite a while, so I would trust what he does over some of the other sites. He actually has a positive reputation preceeding him.

My friend who is doing well from eharmony told me she thinks her success was partially based on the fact that she lives in a rather populateds area, thus a larger local pool to choose from.

 

[wendith]

I don't think meeting someone online or through a dating site is any better or worse than, say, meeting someone in a bar, when yer drunk and horny, or at church (when yer drunk and horny..)and, if you asked me a year ago, I would have said online dating was amazing, and I had truly met the love of my life, blah blah blah...hooked up with the very first guy I responded to...we met, liked each other - he wasn't a serial killer....and then it all crashed a few months ago - okay, but it wasn't the fault of the website, and all in all, I must say I am happy to have had the experience, now that it's not so painful emotionally.