Were you a dateless loser?

[Timewarp]

I've been listening to Reel Big Fish's song Dateless loser and I was thinking, how many of you were dateless losers?

Honestly I couldn't even spell the word "Hello" in front of a girl and well time has not changed that.

So come on...be honest.

 

[JackVanderson]

*is socially awkward around women*

Twas a dateless loser...................
TWAS X3

 

[Violetta]

I didn't start dating until my senior year in high school. Kept things pretty steady until then.

 

[Bashiku]

I still haven't dated anyone... so yes I am a dateless loser and I am proud of it. I didn't want to rush into relationship that didn't fit me... and I detest one night relationship...

 

[TKLVR181]

I had one 'serious' relationship before my current (which, I must say, will be my last) one. Being a dateless loser turned out to be a good thing, I had so much to share with Senshi when I did find him!

~K

 

[J.Apolo6541]

(Had to use because I couldn't find crying)
Yep, lonely loser, whoa is me.

J.

Any sweet ballet slipper wearing female ticklee willing to help change that ?

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

Wha'chu talkin' about 'was'? I still am. :sad:

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

Early on in High School I was somewhat. I wasn't a dateless loser, but I was the typical idiot who couldn't string a coherent sentence together around a girl. For those of you who know Ranma 1/2 I was kind of a Ryouga type. In hindsight I do recognize the fact that there were girls dropping hints. I want to go back in time and smack myself. That changed once I hit my Junior year. Something just changed in my persona. I never really had a problem after that.

The trick is when you (as a guy) realize that girls / ladies are much more forgiving than guys. Many guys are too hung up on their physical appearance. We assume that women are interested in the same physical aspects that we are. Obviously, if you have it then its easier. On the other hand if you don't, it isn't the end of the world. Women respect the attitude more than looks. Concentrate more on how you act than obsessing on how you look. It worked for me.

Ladies, feel free to tell if I'm off the mark, but in my own experience it really isn't the case.

 

[BigNorm]

yeah, i was dateless, and pretty shy in high school. the goth group i hung out with was pretty cool, and made me feel a part of something, and we shared our views on society. and my best friend going through high school was beautiful. Short black hair, glasses and a beautiful name to boot, and she was also bi. too bad for me, during high school, she was hooked on girls at the time, but we were both cool, and we woulda went out if women weren't treating her so good.

btw, bi friends are awesome. nothing like having a friend you can check out chicks with. we had a blast together.

 

[Duke Diablo]

Well, I am a dateless looser because I want to be. I just don't want a date/girlfriend. I'm fine by myself. It's not because I can't approach a girl, since I know that the worst thing that can happen is for her to reject me. And well, if she rejects me, at least I'd know I tried. But if I didn't at least try my chances would equal zero.

As for you who got problems with approaching girls: try taking dance classes and asking the girls to dance. That is a great way of breaking that fear of approaching ladies. You who want relationships, just be confident in yourself. You got a lot to offer to the ladies, remember that.

 

[Senshi1]

I went to an all-boys school, so whilst I didn't get any dates, I also didn't get a chance to find out if I was useless at talking to girls or not. 😛

I've had girlfriends since then, but TKLVR's the only really serious long-term relationship I've been in. It's the only one that had that spark, and that gut feeling that this was "it".

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother will not admit to it but the hollywood brother alter ego and super secret identity is a loser when it comes to the ladies.

 

[scorpionldr]

i've been listening to reel big fish's song dateless loser and i was thinking, how many of you were dateless losers?

Honestly i couldn't even spell the word "hello" in front of a girl and well time has not changed that.

So come on...be honest.

whatever. I finally swallow my pride now, and every first date, give a good tickling to the one i'm taking out. The newest one has taken it greatly. She shall be mine.

 

[Lulu1]

*raises brow* I've never had a proper date, but I was NEVER a "loser" nor am I one now.

 

[Cbarton]

Let me put it to you this way. My theme song in high school was "Lonesome Loser" by the Little River Band...

Nowadays I would reccomend the book "How I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris

http://www.amazon. com/Kissed-Dating-Goodbye- Attitude-Relationships/dp/ 1576730360 (remove the inserted spaces)

 

[Sockstickler]

I'll be honest, I was, and to a degree I still am, the kind of guy who couldn't put together a coherent sentence around a beautiful girl. It definitely made trying to get a date to senior prom awkward. One time worked out like this:
Girl: Hi.
Me: (Thinking "Come on man, ask her! Ask her!) *Mouth doesn't work right and I go silent*
Girl: Well, I gotta go. Bye!
Me: (Sometime later) Dammit!
I don't know if I'm still that bad. I'm still as dateless😛

 

[sadi]

Pretty much, yeah, though if someone dares to call me a 'loser' I'll beat the crap out of them. Which, I usually do almost all of the time to friends who I think can handle it (aka. not a lot of girls).
There was one guy I hung out with when I was 10-11 but I was too young to be "dating" at that young age.
Nowadays, I tend to be the guys' bud, who I'll do shot-for-shot with every now and then. But man, guys hit hard!-obviously. It's usually just a few hits, then I kick out the back of their knee because I'm annoyed I never can win. :cross: :super_hap

 

[Duke Diablo]

Though one thing bugs me: why would someone want to date somebody else? Lone wolf speaking again, I guess.

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Wha'chu talkin' about 'was'? I still am. :sad:

Indeed, what's this past tense goin' on? HDS has been date-less and relationship-less forever. However, that's entirely by choice so it may not count. :ggrin:

 

[BigNorm]

I'll be honest, I was, and to a degree I still am, the kind of guy who couldn't put together a coherent sentence around a beautiful girl. It definitely made trying to get a date to senior prom awkward. One time worked out like this:
Girl: Hi.
Me: (Thinking "Come on man, ask her! Ask her!) *Mouth doesn't work right and I go silent*
Girl: Well, I gotta go. Bye!
Me: (Sometime later) Dammit!
I don't know if I'm still that bad. I'm still as dateless😛

we must both suffer from the same illness 😉

 

[Tiefling]

Yeah, to the point where someone eventually asked /me/ out. Which was surprising to say the least as I am generally considered pretty scary. Being a loser throughout middle school and then going to an all male high school does not build very good social skills, unfortunately.

 

[kopfhorer1]

Hoo boy! Someone would hafta start a thread like this one!

My high school days if they were a movie would rate a "two thumbs down". I was a geeky kid with Tourette Syndrome. Fast-forward to my 20's. Lucked into my first few relationships. Made some dumb mistakes. One very "qualified" success. Inexcusably huge gaps between relationships due to what could have been a lethal case of shyness. Currently dateless, but unlike before, I refuse to lose. Practicing relating to women, which sometimes is still more awkward than it needs to be (speaking generally and about myself). Tried online dating. No "wins" as yet. Still working on it. Wondering if and when I'll ever "connect" again!

FeatherDaemon, you speak the truth. Beyond certain fundamental rules regarding personal hygiene and behavior, how a person is definitely trumps how he or she looks.