What has happend: Psycho and the future

[Myriads]

On Tuesday June 5th, Psycho (Scott) posted a message to Alt.multimedia.tk in which he spoke of his decision to leave the tickling community and this forum he founded. His reasons were spiritual, and based around a reevaluation of how he saw his relationship to God, and how he needed to live his life in light of those ideas.

Needless to say, this message came as a great surprise to us, the group of people whom he had gathered to build, and aid him in keeping the forum running smoothly.
Many people, here and on AMT have wondered if this was a joke by Scott, or a malicious fraud by someone else. Others have expressed concern and support for Scott. No one has been sure what the entire, real story is.
This post is here to help clear up all the questions.

Myriads spoke with Scott on the night of the 5th. He wanted to find out exactly what was going on. Scott was able to clear things up quite quickly. The post was neither a joke or a fraud. Scott's decision to leave the TMF, and the larger tickling community, was one made after a lot of thought, and not a small amount of soul searching. As he explained to Myriads, leaving was a choice that he had to make, if he was going to be true to that which he believed, and stay upon the path he feels he needs to be on.

He seems happy and content with his decision, and wanted every one to know that he was sorry for any problems that his sudden departure caused. He also wished to thank people for all their concern, and appreciates the support that we told him was expressed for him on AMT and in the TMF's chat room.

We who worked with Scott here on the forum, wish him well, and hope that he finds the answers which he seeks. We will miss the energy that he brought to our community, and the true generosity he offered while building this and his earlier tickling sites.

Thank you for everything Scott.


What does Scott's departure mean for the TMF?

The forum will not be going away.

Financially, technically, and personnel wise we have all things covered. We plan to stay here, and continue to grow and improve it as a place where you, members of the tickling community, can find the most up to date news, chat, exchange ideas, images, and art. An most importantly just have fun.

The forum will remain an independent community resource, open to all, so long as they respect it's rules. We continue to count on all of you, our members, to make this a place worth visiting. After all, it's your participation that provides all the content that makes this such a wonderful place.

There will be a few new names on the list of moderators, and Morandilas And I will become Administrators, all to aid Jeff in the huge task of running this community. All of us will continue to work as hard as ever to provide you with a flame free forum to enjoy. As always, we will not tolerate name calling and personal attacks and other such idiocy which has ruined the newsgroups. The concept of a positive place to share ideas and meet, continues to be the core values of the TMF.

Scott might be gone, but the Tickling Media Forum is here to stay.

 

[Lynchy]

All hail Psycho!

Well, I for one wish him the best of luck in the future, and wish to express gratitude for the job he has done. He's brought the community together, and given us younger people a place to enjoy our fetish and not feel worried about it or ashamed of it. This place has halped me out no end, and for that, I wish to say THREE CHEERS FOR PSYCHO!

 

[LadyElizabeth]

My experiences on the boards with Psycho were always positive ones. He was always there ready to help solve what ever problem I was experiencing at the time. Each one of us must follow our own spiritual path. I wish Psycho a safe and enlightened journey on his path. May he find everything he is looking for and more.

 

[Ultratickler]

Everyone needs to take a break from this place once in a while. Unfortunately, Psycho went out in a blaze of spiritual glory that won't allow him to come back without appearing to be hypocritical from the statement he made. I find him to be a very friendly and reasonable person, and he made some good points in his statement. I think he was probably too deeply rooted in this particular "fetish", spending too much time and effort on this board and other aspects of tickling. Personally, I've come to realize that all this shouldn't be taken too seriously, and hopefully others can come away with positive feelings and/or changes from the departure of Captain P.

"Be true to thyself."

 

[Whacky Macky]

As much as I can understand your argument, Ultratickler, I have to disagree with your view that Scott was taking the issue of his-our-tickling fetish. After I realised I did, in fact have a fetish, and nothing could change that, my greatest fear was not that I would be branded a 'freak', or rejected by loved ones who I could otherwise have led a happy life with. It was that I was alone, that I-and I only-had this...burden, shortcoming, whatever you want to call it. Scott, and people like Scott, changed all that by creating sites like these and showing the world that we're not alone.

I personally wish Scott the best of luck, and happiness in life and love. Whatever problems I'll face in the future about this fetish, no matter how bad, I'll console myself with the knowledge that all of the people here will go through what I endure (if I do endure anything at all, maybe I'll be lucky enough to find someone understanding or who shares the fetish) also.

 

[glentickle]

So very well put

Whacky Macky, you just said everything I was thinking and feeling. Sorry to let you do all the work, while I just walk in and say "yeah, me too!" But still, I just wanted to say, my sentiments exactly.

glen

 

[Whacky Macky]

Your agreement is appreciated, glentickle. I'm sure many others would see it our way too.

 

[Ultratickler]

Hey Whacky,

Well, the last thing I really want to do is debate about someone's personal choice. I hope I'm not out of line for commenting (which I probably am), but the one thing that bothered me about your post was that you called your fetish a "burden", "shortcoming", and something that could case you to be "rejected by loved ones who I could have otherwise have led a happy life with." Personally, I think it's terrible to have such negative feelings about something that you consider a part of you. It would probably be better to change (i.e. Psycho) or accept who you are (if you haven't done so already) than to acknowledge that there are others here that are sharing in your burden (what I took your last paragraph to say).

It's good to know that there are people here who enjoy this same thing, but you've got to be comfortable with yourself first. I doubt any of this makes sense, but I'm not apt to write very lengthy posts.

Peace

 

[TickleTheater]

Whoa...

Well, leave it to me to miss this post up until now. =\

Anyways, I also respect Scott's descision to leave the tickling community. He was a great guy, and we had great talks and debates on AIM. I truly wish him the best of luck, and hope he finds what he is looking for. =)

-TT

 

[obticklr]

thank you to scott

without sounding redundant,i'd just like to thank Scott for all his hard work and more. I've had this tickle fetish for as long as I can remember. I ALWAYS felt like I was a freak and quite different from everyone else. When I came across the TMF for the first time, it BLEW MY MIND!!! instantly I realized that there are multitudes of really great folks in this world that SHARE this interest. Nice, regular, NORMAL people. It literaly changed my life! I wish nothing but the best for Scott,wherever life takes him. Also, mucho kudos ALL the other great people that work hard to make this forum for all the brothers and sisters of the wonderful world of tickling!!!

 

[grippedchimp]

My 2 cents

I wish all the best for Psycho, or Scott, in the future. He's been supportive to all of us and was keen for us to enjoy tickling. Coming across the TMF the first time, I visited on a regular basis as this was the launch pad of my tickling cartoons, as well as other budding artists like me. In fact, all the artists here support each other, which is marvellous. I myself was the only one into tickling, but I was not alone! Whacky Macky said it best.

While Scott has chosen his path with God, I guess we can consider Psycho4048 our tickle god! Max respect, Scott. You made it happen!

 

[dvnc]

personal choice

I'm personally sad that the man had to step away, regardless of the reasoning or justification. I hope he does well and is as forgiving of the thing that are unlike his path as his religion dictates in text. If so, one day we'll likely see him around, on some forum where sex isn't the discussion, and play is. I just know too many kinky Christians who still keep the faith and play monogamously in kink communities.

Where Ultratickler was respondin' t'Whacky Macky, I wanted t'add my $0.02 on the topic of this "interest" and the propensity for MANY to feel awkward about feeling such an interest that IS uncommond for the world. It is provably uncommon for anyone to feel a strong interest in tickling. Just poll those around you, and watch reactions to tickling. We are unusual and unique in our focus on it. This isn't a bad thing, but it *can* have some unpleasant reactions, and thus causes some personal feelings of discomfort for many. This is as it is. I didn't feel them as a youth, nor do I now, but I am well and truly familiar with MANY of us who DO or DID feel that way. That is just one of the many reasons that gatherings are so fine - folks get a forum wherein they can feel, in the room, completely normal. There, it ain't a kink, a deviancy, something different. If you're like me, it's VERY useful to learn that most of *us* ('lers and 'lees) experience feelings of awkward discomfort due to having this interest.

Simply put, Ultratickler - share the love with your brethren, friend. Sympathize for those of us that ain't where you're at, yet, and help 'em t'get there. Life's just better when y'do, y'know? Wacky ain't the only cat that feels like someone on the outside lookin' in. If you're like me, and feel no fear or discomfort from your kink, sympathize for those that do, and give them support enough to join us on this side of the kink, where it's comfortable and warm.

Okay, so it's likely more than $0.02. Keep the change. 😉 Maybe I oughta change my screenname to TicklePreacher, given the thoughts typed above. This is just somethin' I've had to see in the gatherings we host, and it bears mentioning here. We just "lost" one of us who couldn't deal with it, felt lost, and got "found" and went away. Perhaps, with a bit more understanding from our end, less would feel the need to repress such a sentiment as ours.

dvnc

p.s. in the interest of clarity, lemme point out, for those that may have missed it in all the verbage above, that I feel that both Ultratickler and Wacky Macky had understandable, acceptable, reasoned and reasonable views. I'm just addin', not fightin'. <bows>

 

[Powertickle]

I already replied in a long and a phylosopchical post in the temp. forum on psycho's ezBoards forum.... of course he came and deleted it all less than 24 hours later 😱, which is his full right though.

Basically, tickling isnt' evil while it's not preformed by force, as rape.

I intend to stay here, and learn webmastering more, until I can learn enough to be accepted in the TMF administration staff. Then I can finally fulfill my promises about making a great site. TMF is great, and whatever I'll be able to do to support it will be great.

 

[Ultratickler]

Hey DVNC,

There is no doubt that just about everyone feels awkward having such an interest at first. Even when you come to understand the situation, and learn that there are others like you, those awkward feelings may never completely go away because it is "unusual" (to use your word).

My original point was that a person who *desires to feel unburdened* ought to do one of two things (as others probably have): accept this part of yourself (I would estimate that this is an "innocent fetish" for 90+ %, so this option is usually a good one), or if you do have awkward feelings, don't let this aspect of your life become a major part of who you are (thus eliminating any "personal feelings of discomfort"). It just seems logical that if you do feel awkward about tickling, then the more it becomes a part of your life, the more awkward you will feel as a result. However, I don't think it is necessary to eliminate such desires if it doesn't truly interfere in your well-being.

I don't want to tell anyone how to live their life, but I mention *my opinion* in this thread because it seems that Psycho never completely unburdened himself, or he simply forgot to consult his faith and accepted this aspect into his life prematurely. I truly believe that you should live life without any regrets or unnecessary feelings of burden/guilt. I think the departure of Psycho, our former leader, can be beneficial if it results in those of us, who have some inner turmoil, to take an introspective look into our lives and resolve any problems associated with having this fetish.

I refuse to think I'm better than anyone here, DVNC, so I'm not encouraging anyone to follow me on my path. But I think it's obvious that everyone should go along happy on their own paths, and we should certainly encourage that fact within our swell community here.

>> We just "lost" one of us who couldn't deal with it, felt lost, and got "found" and went away. Perhaps, with a bit more understanding from our end, less would feel the need to repress such a sentiment as ours.

Well-said, and that's almost exactly how I feel, but I think that "our understanding" can only go so far. It's up to individuals themselves to find the happiness within, or so it seems to me.

That's all I want to say in reply, and I hope to never write another post like this again because I'm not very good at it.

Peace out.

 

[dvnc]

<lookin' silly>

Oh!

<g>

Thanks for the eloquent reply, Ultratickler. I always dig this place for just that reason. It's just cool to see a man have separate views and share them so well!

In my opinion, given your followup, I'm inclined to think that both ways work, ultimately.

And you're right about Psycho's failin' to find acceptance for all things, this included.

I do find, largely from the gatherings I host, that there's a great deal more of the folks with sexual associations in this community. I also find, though, that the majority have the same control for such base urges in tickling as they would when dancing. The coorelations are easily drawn, especially for all who remember high school dances and that certain person that lit ya up like a firework, just by leanin' in, cheek t'cheek. I wonder, now, if it's not that this aspect of our kink is the aspect of folks that would tend to show. As folks are so behaved at my events, it's hard to tell, unless you're me, and read mail from them.

Personally, Ultratickler, I figure I'm gonna value your opinions here, 'cause y'state 'em so clearly and well. Thanks for showin' me another side of this. I respect that!

dvnc

 

[Ultratickler]

Thank you, DVNC