What if you had the opportunity to going back & have "do over" in your life?

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

What if you had the opportunity to going back & have "do over" in your life?

I have been thinking about this lately about if I could choose a time to go back in my life (like in time machine) and change something. Like if I had been diagnosed being on the Autism spectrum much earlier in life, I would have done things a lot differently. I am sure I would've had more confidence in myself. At least I would've known why I only had a few friends and was teased very often therefore having social issues.


Just curious if anyone else has had these thoughts. Look forward to your responses.

 

[GQguy]

Man....I am so happy with my life right now. I wouldn't change a thing. Changing anything would change who I am because I am the sum of my experiences and choice...and quite frankly I like who I am. I focus more on what I'd do next. Who I want to be in the future. What my future looks like.

 

[Myriads]

Regrets, I've had a few. And having the chance to change a few things would indeed be tempting. Being able to tell my younger self what would be the best job path, that he'd enjoy certainly would be a plus. But who knows what other badness he'd find on that new path?

Things are good enough here and now. Changing things might make it better, but I feel it could just as easily make it worse. I'll play the cards I have.

Myriads

 

[C.A.B.]

hmmm... Being that we are the collective product of the sum of our experiences, it might be a little unfair to ourselves to critique decisions made in the past with the information(wisdom) we enjoy now in the present. So I don't often beat up on my former self for wrong turns or missed opportunity.

That said, in a fantasy world, knowing what I know now, applied to my young self; to be sure, I'd be a lot richer, a lot more organized, and had been much bolder in regards to pursuing my fetishes. Indeed, it would be an interesting sci-fi experiment to see if, truly, with all the magical fore-knowledge, would life actually turn out better or worse, knowing then what you know now.

One thing can be said in regards to an innocent first time around: "Ignorance is Bliss"

 

[chicago]

I'd probably be a shittier person if I went back and tried to fix mistakes I made rather than fuck up and try to learn from it.

 

[Gothika]

I would do it the same it made me a better person i learned from my million mistakes

 

[Bohemianne]

I'll make sure to be a Himalayan (or whatever) monk and live in total solitude. 😀

But the problem is... I'm not male.

 

[milagros317]

Given my current knowledge, I would have invested in a little new company called "Microsoft'" in 1978 and held it until 1999. 😛

Also, I would have stayed a million miles away from a particular woman named Susan.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

hmmm... Being that we are the collective product of the sum of our experiences, it might be a little unfair to ourselves to critique decisions made in the past with the information(wisdom) we enjoy now in the present. So I don't often beat up on my former self for wrong turns or missed opportunity.

That said, in a fantasy world, knowing what I know now, applied to my young self; to be sure, I'd be a lot richer, a lot more organized, and had been much bolder in regards to pursuing my fetishes. Indeed, it would be an interesting sci-fi experiment to see if, truly, with all the magical fore-knowledge, would life actually turn out better or worse, knowing then what you know now.

One thing can be said in regards to an innocent first time around: "Ignorance is Bliss"

I think that's a very deep and interesting thought you have there. I agree that "Ignorance is Bliss" depending on what you're talking about.

 

[Bothersome]

Sure.

I mean, if we were to hypothetically go back to a certain point in our lives, it goes unsaid that we would retain the knowledge of how our lives progress up to the present time. The lessons of any mistakes I'd made will have stuck with me. (If we didn't retain that information, then we'd simply live the life we'd already lived over again, since no new variable would have been introduced to alter our decision making.)

That being said, there would be zero purpose to making those mistakes again. It'd be a chance to try new things and make new mistakes.

 

[Antarion]

If I had the ability to turn back time, I'd turn into the real representation of Mr. Freeze. I'd stay in perpetual freeze until I could find the cure to Cor Pulmonale or Pulminary Fibrosis. I'd let my dad know my mom was misdiagnosed while it wasn't too late to be treated, I'd tell my dad that he'd be accused of robbery from his pharmacy so that we'd still have financial stability, I'd tell my parents what would happen if they didn't stay on their taxes, I'd tell my aunt not to let my cousin's friend mess around with guns, (Which resulted in my cousin being shot.) and I'd tell my dad that my granpap would be coming down with alzheimers, so he should get close to him.

Or I'd stock up on ecto-coolers while they were still a thing. 😀

 

[stroker]

1) Eaten better ( I practically starved myself as a kid ) Exercised more and read less books. IE be more physical and less cerebral .
2) understood the nature of scapegoating and thus reject my dysfunctional families blame for all their issues .
3) concentrate more on singing and songwriting and less on being a technician guitarist .
4) Understood that fear is normal , its how you deal with it that determines the outcome .
5) Having made every mistake possible with the woman I love , learn from those mistakes and relate to her knowing exactly what Not to do.

 

[crap_game]

Hmmmmmmm, I gave this fantasy some thought in the past. I have come to the conclusion that I am who I am, fairly unimportant, invisible to most people here on earth, just your average Joe. I concluded that I don't take stock in myself, the value of my life is my loved ones. My Wife, my two great children and my few close friends. If changing ANYTHING would jeopardized their presence in my life than there isn't a single thing I would change! I wouldn't spare myself the painful injuries or emotional hurts that most of us endure. I measure my life in the LOVE of those around me. I KNOW, I KNOW, MUSHY! LOL. I now take what I have learned from my mistakes and help my children to avoid them to the best of my ability, so it's kinda like fixing the past here in the present.

 

[Brock Samson]

Nope. As bad as things have been in my past, I doubt that changing things that were within my control would help in any way. I'm a mean, apathetic bastard with some anger issues, a lone-wolf mentality, and a rather skewed, sociopath-like outlook on life. I shudder to think what kind of person I might be were it not for the entire series of events, both good and bad, that made me what I am now, occurring exactly as they have.

 

[Cerebral Cortez]

I invite you to watch the movie, "The Butterfly Effect" and get back to us with your thoughts.

 

[Amnesiac]

Assuming I would retain my memories of the life I led before, and could use them to change things: I would go back to January 1st, 1990 and then I WOULD CHANGE EVERYTHING.

I would make sure that my life went in the same DIRECTION, of course--meaning I would still go to the same schools, go to the same college, go to CA in 2001, move to MT in 2002, join the TMF at the same time, etc.--but I would change teh circumstances of virtually every other facet in my life.

For starters, I would NOT want to re-live the 80s again (once was fucking ENOUGH in my opinion). Second, I would do everything in my power to take charge of my own life which is the exact OPPOSITE thing I did the first time around. I would stop drinking diet soda, cut back on salt much earlier, re-forge my relationship with my mother, try to make a rapprochement with my father, and I would WORK THE SHIT ON MY OWN EDUCATION. I would NOT rely on school to teach me what I needed to know, I would NOT watch as much TV as I did (I'd use my VHS programming powers from the future to do that), and I would develop any and all talents I had to the best of my ability with the open scheduling that I no longer have.

I would also get my sleep study done 15 years earlier and get whatever equipment I needed that was available at the time, and OH DEAR GOD, THE FUCKING MONEY...Oh, the money I would NOT spend if I had the chance to do over again. Christ, I threw away so much. And come the emergence of Google, I'd buy the FUCK out of the stock at IPO; I'd also get my parents to buy me Netflix for me in '97.

By this time the second time around, I'd be a millionaire and I could have whatever career I wanted, and have learned all the skills I'd have wanted to. I'd still live in MT and still have the jobs that I had/have, and I'd make damn sure nobody knew how much I was worth, but I could have the luxury of enjoying the simple life instead of struggling with it.

 

[helplessandhappy]

Assuming I would retain my memories of the life I led before...

Well jeez, if that's part of the game, I'd change a lot! 🙂

 

[Dussicar]

I'd be way better at catching on fire for no reason whatsoever.