In meeting with folks from this community over the past few years, I’ve noticed the overwhelming majority of us grew up thinking we were the only ones who felt the way we felt about tickling. Likewise, there’s also a tremendous sense of relief after realizing (usually due to internet searches), there are so many who feel the same way. My question is, what exactly made you feel so alone? A lack of giving or receiving it? Lack of seeing it? Lack of discussion about it?
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What Made You Feel Alone?
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wasn't so much the lack of visuals as it was that the response to my enthusiasm was not generally well met sometimes.
Some would be playful.
Some would get non-linear wit' a quickness.
I never felt fully alone, though. I always remembered friends in kindergarten who dug it, and by 12, had found a regular series of playmates.
Still, didn't know that there was an US until net access came about. I went from figurin' that some folks were acquiesent about this to noticin' hundreds of us. In a world of 4 billion +, this wasn't huge, but it existed, at least.
dvnc
Some would be playful.
Some would get non-linear wit' a quickness.
I never felt fully alone, though. I always remembered friends in kindergarten who dug it, and by 12, had found a regular series of playmates.
Still, didn't know that there was an US until net access came about. I went from figurin' that some folks were acquiesent about this to noticin' hundreds of us. In a world of 4 billion +, this wasn't huge, but it existed, at least.
dvnc
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good question
Well, having no one to discuss it with for starters. When I was younger that would have been a great help. Sometimes you have to act pretty strangely to actually tickle people; it's not the most accepted thing in the world and is pretty foreign to some. Actually, I never believed I was the only one who was into it. I knew a couple of girls who were 'suspect' (never tickled either one of them
) although I never received any confirmation one way or the other.
Well, having no one to discuss it with for starters. When I was younger that would have been a great help. Sometimes you have to act pretty strangely to actually tickle people; it's not the most accepted thing in the world and is pretty foreign to some. Actually, I never believed I was the only one who was into it. I knew a couple of girls who were 'suspect' (never tickled either one of them
) although I never received any confirmation one way or the other.Slappy McGee
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with me, I never thought I was "the only one", I just never knew anyone else who liked it, or talked about it...... it is kinda like if you are a big fan of the game Cricket, but you happen to live in Alabama.....you feel all alone, who are you going to enjoy it with?? it is that kind of "alone" feeling, in my opinion.
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Actually, I've never really felt alone at all. Not because there were a host of people around me who shared the kink, as that certainly wasn't the case, but more because, until recently, I never even viewed my love of tickling as a kink. I guess I just always figured it was something I dug, and that was pretty much that. Some folks like it, and some folks don't... much like some people like the color orange, and some prefer purple.
My theory is that the lonesomeness some folks feel is born of insecurity - of the people I've talked to about it, most of them knew they had the kink early on. Of the ones who knew it early, all of them felt intuitively that it was "wrong" somehow. Either I'm not that bright, or I was just an incredibly secure kid (and adult for that matter), 'cause I never thought it was wrong, or even weird - it was just somethin' that made me me.
Not sure whether that makes any sense at all, but you asked. 😉
... Anna
My theory is that the lonesomeness some folks feel is born of insecurity - of the people I've talked to about it, most of them knew they had the kink early on. Of the ones who knew it early, all of them felt intuitively that it was "wrong" somehow. Either I'm not that bright, or I was just an incredibly secure kid (and adult for that matter), 'cause I never thought it was wrong, or even weird - it was just somethin' that made me me.
Not sure whether that makes any sense at all, but you asked. 😉
... Anna
Well....
I think the "alone" part came during puberty(for me).
Ok, guys will be guys(and ladies too) and talk about sex(or what we think we know at that point) and pretty much it focuses on breasts and other intimate areas, maybe legs, but feet, armpits, bellybuttons no.
And as "most" teens want to fit in, you tend to get the feeling that anything but liking boobs is weird. Of course this may just be me...
But as I became more "experienced" I found that yeah boobs were great but oh to play with other areas was just fun, not even tickling.
Also I think TV plays a part in this as well. You watch TV, and no matter what the TV/Ad people say, you are flased images of what sexyness is and how to respond to it. Well tickling doesn't happen that often on TV and if it does appear it is either a negative reaction or very playful. So if I relate tickling someone as a turn-on and TV tells me that is well "weird", then you kind of feel different, maybe not alone.
But then you happen to search the INternet(1994) and look up tickling and suddenly there are a few sites related to just that fetish and you suddenly don't feel weird.
Ok all that was long winded, and maybe I am just a crowd following, TV influced person but,well then I guess I am. But I didn't feel OK about loving tickling until I found others that were into it...
Does any of what I said make sense...
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I think the "alone" part came during puberty(for me).
Ok, guys will be guys(and ladies too) and talk about sex(or what we think we know at that point) and pretty much it focuses on breasts and other intimate areas, maybe legs, but feet, armpits, bellybuttons no.
And as "most" teens want to fit in, you tend to get the feeling that anything but liking boobs is weird. Of course this may just be me...
But as I became more "experienced" I found that yeah boobs were great but oh to play with other areas was just fun, not even tickling.
Also I think TV plays a part in this as well. You watch TV, and no matter what the TV/Ad people say, you are flased images of what sexyness is and how to respond to it. Well tickling doesn't happen that often on TV and if it does appear it is either a negative reaction or very playful. So if I relate tickling someone as a turn-on and TV tells me that is well "weird", then you kind of feel different, maybe not alone.
But then you happen to search the INternet(1994) and look up tickling and suddenly there are a few sites related to just that fetish and you suddenly don't feel weird.
Ok all that was long winded, and maybe I am just a crowd following, TV influced person but,well then I guess I am. But I didn't feel OK about loving tickling until I found others that were into it...
Does any of what I said make sense...
😕
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I know for me, that it was my perception of normal sexuality that made me feel alone. (I consider it to be part of my sex life, albeit a very non-existent one). I had observed that nobody else were attracted to feet or tickling of any sort the way I was. My brother was always renting "mainstream" porn and was watching it all the time. Around puberty, I had noticed that although the female body was a beautiful thing, I seemed to be the only person interested more in their feet and tickling them than the rest of their body. The same was with my friends, who were all obsessed with breasts, I was more interested in tickling them and the nearby armpits. Nobody I knew was the slightest bit interested in tickling. Part of my problem was that the town I live in is not very accomodating to people who go against the grain. My high school was definitly not a place that I was willing to discuss this part of my sexuality.
Needless to say, I was more than thrilled when I came to college and got on the net for the first time. Words could not describe my joy of sites like tickle town and solefully yours. >sigh< memories. Now I cant wait for the day when I meet someone who shares our interest.
I hope this helped to shed a little light on the subject.
Needless to say, I was more than thrilled when I came to college and got on the net for the first time. Words could not describe my joy of sites like tickle town and solefully yours. >sigh< memories. Now I cant wait for the day when I meet someone who shares our interest.
I hope this helped to shed a little light on the subject.
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None of the other old guys have responded to this thread yet, so I'll add my $0.02.
Nearly 40 years ago, when I was a socially awkward adolescent geek, I had this fascination with tickling when all of the other guys drooled over big boobs. Typical peer responses to tickling were "Oh, grow up!" (bad enough), or "You got some kind of weird foot fetish?" (Oh, Ghod! YES! But if I admit it, they'll think I'm a pervert.)
There was plenty of porn out there, ranging from conventional to disturbing to disgusting, but no tickling - even the real perverts wouldn't associate with us. There was no internet, so no indication that anyone else might be into tickling, nor any way to get in contact with them if they were. I thought I was alone, tried to cover up my tickle kink, tried my best to kill it.
IMO the best thing about this site is COMMUNITY. I came here initially for the clips and pix, but fellowship is why I keep coming back. That, and the thought that I might be able to ease the path a little for some confused young guy (or gal, I guess).
Strelnikov
None of the other old guys have responded to this thread yet, so I'll add my $0.02.
Nearly 40 years ago, when I was a socially awkward adolescent geek, I had this fascination with tickling when all of the other guys drooled over big boobs. Typical peer responses to tickling were "Oh, grow up!" (bad enough), or "You got some kind of weird foot fetish?" (Oh, Ghod! YES! But if I admit it, they'll think I'm a pervert.)
There was plenty of porn out there, ranging from conventional to disturbing to disgusting, but no tickling - even the real perverts wouldn't associate with us. There was no internet, so no indication that anyone else might be into tickling, nor any way to get in contact with them if they were. I thought I was alone, tried to cover up my tickle kink, tried my best to kill it.
IMO the best thing about this site is COMMUNITY. I came here initially for the clips and pix, but fellowship is why I keep coming back. That, and the thought that I might be able to ease the path a little for some confused young guy (or gal, I guess).
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Losing that alone feeling, very slowly
It stemmed from many attitudes. In college tickles were often interpreted as unwanted sexual advances. Most guys were watching butts & boobs, while I was watching legs and feet. Too often the girls I liked were not ticklish, still, others that were ticklish hated it. I had one great tickle relationship in college but that experience was not as educational as this forum. This forum as shown that there are plenty of us, we are free to open up and discuss it, and I have gotten GREAT ideas for tickle situations. Members here can call on the collective experiences of the many who have been willing to share. I say, for me, the internet and this forum has slowly made me feel as lot less alone. Now the challenge for me is to transfer that feeling into everyday life, and not just in the cyber. A big challenge for some of us.
It stemmed from many attitudes. In college tickles were often interpreted as unwanted sexual advances. Most guys were watching butts & boobs, while I was watching legs and feet. Too often the girls I liked were not ticklish, still, others that were ticklish hated it. I had one great tickle relationship in college but that experience was not as educational as this forum. This forum as shown that there are plenty of us, we are free to open up and discuss it, and I have gotten GREAT ideas for tickle situations. Members here can call on the collective experiences of the many who have been willing to share. I say, for me, the internet and this forum has slowly made me feel as lot less alone. Now the challenge for me is to transfer that feeling into everyday life, and not just in the cyber. A big challenge for some of us.
i didt really feel "alone" because i kept it completely to myself,, i didnt know it was 'normal' to have a fetish like that.
you go on the net and see alot of BDSM stuff, and realize there are alot of those.. but i didnt even CONSIDER going looking for tickling media. so i guess i thought i was a freak or something!! 🙂
so when i found the forum (which wasnt untill after my haunts were - ufogirl and ufoguys camp tickling (or something - and toms adult tickling site. (they were cool) -- i then found the TMF... and thought "hang on..." - where did you all come from? what a great day!
you go on the net and see alot of BDSM stuff, and realize there are alot of those.. but i didnt even CONSIDER going looking for tickling media. so i guess i thought i was a freak or something!! 🙂
so when i found the forum (which wasnt untill after my haunts were - ufogirl and ufoguys camp tickling (or something - and toms adult tickling site. (they were cool) -- i then found the TMF... and thought "hang on..." - where did you all come from? what a great day!
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I never really felt "alone". There were plenty of folks around who liked to tickle. I think it was more a matter of figuring out that it was truly a fetish for me and then accepting that in myself before I could consider asking others to.
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the reaction. no one knows about it, im a closet fan...people have come close to finding out, but no one esle sees it the way i do, and i know that any reaction to it will be negative. i like being able to randomly tickle my friends and b/f, but if they knew it was turning me on, there'd be a slighty different, probably uneasy, feeling about the whole thing. the fact that i like to watch more than be part of the action is a big factor too, because anyone online that i talk to is usually only interested in somehow meeting up. but that's just me.
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Very interesting question
Well like most of the people here I guess the first thing would be the fact that I couldnt tell anyone about it, that I had to keep it inside me all these years and it didnt appear on TV the way I wanted it to, having to hide this from everyone at the risk of been judged and made fun of was very hard indeed.
The fact that my friends would make fun of these fetishes made me feel completly alone, one of my friends might be talking about how stupid or freaky it is to have a foot fetish then I would simply nodd my head pretending to agree when really it made me feel even more alone than before, as a matter of fact about 2 weeks ago, one of my friend recently was talking to me about the fact that she hated people with these kind of fetishes, of course this made me feel much worse.
I can honestly say that at the teen age, breast's, porn and other typical male fantasies didnt really appeal to me at all, while my friends sit and talk about how big someones breast's were on TV or in a mag, I had no interest it and was more interested in my tickle and foot fetishes and with no one what so ever to talk to, with no one at all who felt the same way was very difficult and to add to that with nothing like this on the TV there was nothing to make me feel that I wasnt going insane!
When I started my search on the net and found the TMF all different thoughts were running through my mind, thoughts of relief that I wasnt the only one and at the same time very shocked to find out that thousands maybe millions have gone through the excact same thing that I have been through, and even though I still havnt come across anyone here who has the same tickling fetish as me yet, I am forever greatful for the internet and the people of the TMF, thank you so much!
Well like most of the people here I guess the first thing would be the fact that I couldnt tell anyone about it, that I had to keep it inside me all these years and it didnt appear on TV the way I wanted it to, having to hide this from everyone at the risk of been judged and made fun of was very hard indeed.
The fact that my friends would make fun of these fetishes made me feel completly alone, one of my friends might be talking about how stupid or freaky it is to have a foot fetish then I would simply nodd my head pretending to agree when really it made me feel even more alone than before, as a matter of fact about 2 weeks ago, one of my friend recently was talking to me about the fact that she hated people with these kind of fetishes, of course this made me feel much worse.
I can honestly say that at the teen age, breast's, porn and other typical male fantasies didnt really appeal to me at all, while my friends sit and talk about how big someones breast's were on TV or in a mag, I had no interest it and was more interested in my tickle and foot fetishes and with no one what so ever to talk to, with no one at all who felt the same way was very difficult and to add to that with nothing like this on the TV there was nothing to make me feel that I wasnt going insane!
When I started my search on the net and found the TMF all different thoughts were running through my mind, thoughts of relief that I wasnt the only one and at the same time very shocked to find out that thousands maybe millions have gone through the excact same thing that I have been through, and even though I still havnt come across anyone here who has the same tickling fetish as me yet, I am forever greatful for the internet and the people of the TMF, thank you so much!
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Thanks Strel!!
I've often wondered what it was like for some of the older folks in the community, growing up without access to all the information and materials that have become available over the past 10-20yrs. I'm 29 and by the time I was in jr high, going to the library, you could type in a word on the computer index and not only would it sort results by subject, author or title, it’d tell you the libraries in the county that had the book and whether it was checked out or not. Of course, now is the golden age for any 14yr old with a modem… Hmmm.. I wonder how long it’ll be before someone posts a story about how they were caught doing a search on “tickling” on their 5th grade class computer! LOL
I've often wondered what it was like for some of the older folks in the community, growing up without access to all the information and materials that have become available over the past 10-20yrs. I'm 29 and by the time I was in jr high, going to the library, you could type in a word on the computer index and not only would it sort results by subject, author or title, it’d tell you the libraries in the county that had the book and whether it was checked out or not. Of course, now is the golden age for any 14yr old with a modem… Hmmm.. I wonder how long it’ll be before someone posts a story about how they were caught doing a search on “tickling” on their 5th grade class computer! LOL
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I'm one of those 'older' guys. At 36 I grew up with my fetish pre-web. I was lucky and thanks to parents who provided a sound sexual education I never felt alone. But I've met a lot of people with this fetish and other various likes who have described what many of the people above have said so well.
Seeing people talk about how this forum, and the web in general has helped them feel better about themselves is one of the favorite types of threads I get to see. Does my heart good.
Myriads
Seeing people talk about how this forum, and the web in general has helped them feel better about themselves is one of the favorite types of threads I get to see. Does my heart good.
Myriads
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I think that in general people like to know that their feelings are understood. We pick our friends so that we can share something with which they will understand, accept, and be joyful for. It is hard to talk to someone who is completely out of place with an issue. Like talking to a 10 year old about love... It is difficult to have a true and meaningful discussion about our feelings for tickling with someone who sees tickling as nothing more than a means to make someone laugh.
