Why do you seek for professional ticklers/ticklee?

[Jamesplaining]

I’m curious to know your motivation and experience. Why do you seek for professional ticklers/ticklee? Not a judgemental post.

 

[Jamesplaining]

Because for most people it's the only way to have a proper tickling session, like we see in videos. And, for some people, it may be the only way to tickle anyone and have any actual tickling as part of their lives. And even for those with people they can tickle; it's probably not a prolonged tickling like you get in a session with a professional mistress. For some people having sessions a "professional tickler/ticklee" as you call it, may be the only way to embrace their love and interest in tickling.

Are you talking about your experience?

 

[Soles_Scream]

It's efficient. If someone wants to be tickled and or tickle someone, the expectations are clear on all sides, and the icebreaker already exists. Furthermore, as bluey mentioned, they are usually more skilled on the ler side, and know what they can handle on the lee side.

 

[Bellylaughs]

If I would go find a pro ler I would pay for, it's probably because of where I live being so far from all y'all.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I’m curious to know your motivation and experience. Why do you seek for professional ticklers/ticklee? Not a judgemental post.

I’m really glad someone asked this without judgement, because I’ve always struggled to understand it too (at least before I got into the pro sphere myself).

Some of the reasons I’ve learned so far:
• It works out financially cheaper to just pay for one guaranteed session, compared to spending a lot more money for a gathering where there’s not even a guarantee of play. (Obviously this is a controversial one, but that doesn’t change the fact that people still desire play when they attend gatherings).
• It cuts out all the bullshit. Some of us are neurodivergent and can’t handle all the stupid game-playing that some people do on the scene. In pro settings, all parties involved get something they want, and the boundaries are much clearer as well.
• (Another controversial one here) Some men are just… really, really picky. They’ll watch tickling videos, then try to find an IRL play partner but find that no one matches their aesthetic preferences or whatever. It obviously sucks that some people are shallow, but paying a model serves as a valid solution to their problems.
• Similarly, there’s a huge supply-and-demand issue when it comes to female lers vs people wanting to be tickled by women. Straight male lees, lesbian lees, etc. plus there’s a lot of male switches who’ve found plenty of female lees but none of them were keen on switching.
• The last reason is simple curiosity. That’s perfectly valid too.

I might actually make this a post on fetlife, because the U.K. scene harbours a lotttttt of hate towards sex workers and buyers. Maybe posting an explanation will help them understand better.

 

[Jamesplaining]

I’m really glad someone asked this without judgement, because I’ve always struggled to understand it too (at least before I got into the pro sphere myself).

Some of the reasons I’ve learned so far:
• It works out financially cheaper to just pay for one guaranteed session, compared to spending a lot more money for a gathering where there’s not even a guarantee of play. (Obviously this is a controversial one, but that doesn’t change the fact that people still desire play when they attend gatherings).
• It cuts out all the bullshit. Some of us are neurodivergent and can’t handle all the stupid game-playing that some people do on the scene. In pro settings, all parties involved get something they want, and the boundaries are much clearer as well.
• (Another controversial one here) Some men are just… really, really picky. They’ll watch tickling videos, then try to find an IRL play partner but find that no one matches their aesthetic preferences or whatever. It obviously sucks that some people are shallow, but paying a model serves as a valid solution to their problems.
• Similarly, there’s a huge supply-and-demand issue when it comes to female lers vs people wanting to be tickled by women. Straight male lees, lesbian lees, etc. plus there’s a lot of male switches who’ve found plenty of female lees but none of them were keen on switching.
• The last reason is simple curiosity. That’s perfectly valid too.

I might actually make this a post on fetlife, because the U.K. scene harbours a lotttttt of hate towards sex workers and buyers. Maybe posting an explanation will help them understand better.

Thank you for the answer!

Could you please explain more the neurodivergent thing? What’s the game-playing you are talking about?

Also, if you don’t mind answering my curiosity, how a gathering would be better suitable for neurodivergent people? – full disclosure: I host gatherings and tickle parties and I care about neurodivergent people’s needs, so I’m interested in ways to improve the quality of what I do.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

Could you please explain more the neurodivergent thing? What’s the game-playing you are talking about?

Mind games. Emotional blackmail. Passive-aggressive behaviour. Manipulation. People lying about their true intentions. Tons of unspoken and unwritten rules that you have to follow or else people will call you “rude” and “selfish”. It all gets so exhausting. Even when there’s no money involved, sessions can still feel transactional if you have a shitty play partner. At least in pro settings, it’s a lot faster and clearer and both parties are satisfied in the end.

Also, if you don’t mind answering my curiosity, how a gathering would be better suitable for neurodivergent people? – full disclosure: I host gatherings and tickle parties and I care about neurodivergent people’s needs, so I’m interested in ways to improve the quality of what I do.

It’s a good question. This is a tricky one because different people have different needs. Personally, I appreciate a spacious venue (where people aren’t bumping or knocking into each other). Could also make sure the music isn’t too loud and the lights aren’t too bright or strobing. There have been times where I’ve been to general kink events with deafening music, where people literally have to shout into each other’s ears to hear each other. Every time I try to “suck it up and deal with it”, I just end up with a splitting migraine. Not ideal…

 

[hefophre]

The same question can be asked, why seek professional body massage? Why must tickling be different? Body massage provides physically pleasant sensation and experience. Tickling also provides this if you enjoy it, and energetic / stress relief, etc.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I love this thread so much! The fact of the matter is that this is the reality of many people into the kink, and there is really nothing wrong with it at all. Most of my reasons were covered thoroughly by Jezebel Lee (perfectly, thank you). 💕

I get that some people feel the dream scenario is to find that always and forever dream partner, but that just doesn't work for everyone. And if there are professionals out there who make access easier for you, go for it!

My difficulty in this is just a lack of opportunities for my specific needs at this time.

My biggest hurdles for Pro Tickle Play

• My Location
• Nearly non-existent market of male lees/ switches (Most female models book only with males,)
• Confusion- I get a lot of paid requests, but I am not a model. I'm a lifelong fetishist.
• Safety Challenges

And still, for what I am currently going through in my life, pay for play is still cheaper than going to a gathering or play party for me.

Getting paid to play is something I only fantasize about. 😂

 

[bluey1]

For me having sessions with a "professional tickler/ticklee", is pretty much the only way to have any actual tickling as part of life, like we see in videos. And even for those with people they can tickle; it's probably not a prolonged tickling like you get in a session with a professional mistress.

Discussions on the TMF and tickling videos are good. But sometimes, it's nice to do some actual tickling rather than just discuss and talk about it and watch videos.

I go to Fetish House in Oakleigh South here in Melbourne. Because they are trained, and you email them beforehand to introduce yourself and ask if they are willing to have a tickling session. And I suppose what you want from the session (for me that's easy, it just tickling them). But apparently, sometimes it can be more complicated than that. But it's good because the professional knows what I want out of the session, and I know they know what I want as well. And they are professionals so they know how to run everything. Obviously, some minor things can be confirmed in person before the session.