why im absent lately.

[flightless_me]

I haven't been on much at all. I am currently dating a new boyfriend. I have been for ...geez..four months now. It was great at first because this is my best friend of 3 years. But it took a nasty turn for the worse the day he lost his car. All he does 24 hours a day is World of warcraft. It's gotten (thats not a word) so bad, that he gets to my house gets on leaves late at night sometimes we dont talk to each other. Now he lost his house cause his family is wang nuts that need to be shipped off to manila for all the hungry kids there that could eat them, And now he lives here. I have talked about his problem. We got closer after that issue ...sorta, was fixed. And i opened up about my tickling. I even went as far as to bring him into this world. TT. But the day i was open with him was the day i basically handed my freedom over. Every day he comes up with a new accusation. He accuses me of the wierdest shit. And even accused me of showing my breasts on here (which i havent and nope wont do) He even asked me to delete this account. Well i cant do that. I am questioning if i should stay with him. The worst part, i think im pregnant. Well...at least a week ago i WAS but i think i misscarried (agian) which sucks. Will find out in a week. So there thats why im not on much because im a normal teen with normal teen problems and this normally, sucks! oh well huh?

 

[-Kunoke-]

Wow...I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough time. :sad: I hope you can fix all the problems, and I SURE hope you don't leave the TT.

 

[nessonite1]

Give him up immediately. he sounds possesive and jealous and you dont want that. it'll onl;y get much worse.

 

[Goodieluver]

Ive lost many a friend to WoW

I to a degree feel your pain

My suggestion: do whatever feels happy\right to you. Do not worry bout him, yer family or anything else. Your decision must reflect yourself and what makes you the utmost happiness

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Give him up immediately. he sounds possesive and jealous and you dont want that. it'll onl;y get much worse.

That's all? 🙄

This kid is putting a damn video game before her! What does that tell you about him and his priorities?! And right in front of her, no less? He's sick and obsessed! From what she says he's nothing but a loafer whose situation is only getting worse!

@ flightless_me:

Sweetie, the last thing you want is to be supporting this good for nothing deadbeat who says he loves you and has changed, having a baby by him, and then being forced or morally obligated to stick with/around him because of the child/ren.

I may be in no position to say so (and please forgive my bluntness), but close your legs, kick him out, and focus on your life/job/career, not your carnal pleasures. You're too young for you to be caught up in this kind of dilema. He is not a priority and in his current state is just dead weight. Get rid of him. You don't need his excess baggage destroying your life and putting you in a situation so many single, unwedded mothers are in. And the last damn thing you should be brought to is an abortion! Stop forninicating with him before you do get pregnant.


It's not worth it at this stage and so much is on the line. You need to take this more seriously and with more responsibility. You need to focus and concentrate. You need to think ahead, much farther ahead than his presense and temptations are going to allow you to.

Get away from him, if only for a while, to prioritize your life before the inevitable chaos consumes it. His presense is going to cloud your sound judgement and his words are going to give you a false sense of security and well being. Don't be naive and don't be stupid.

You don't need this crap. He has no right to make his problems yours! Don't allow yourself to become a doormat and meal ticket in the name of "love" or anything else! You're so much more than that and deserve better. Get out of this situation now, while you still can on your own terms. You have to take charge, because no one else will.

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

Well, I would dump him A.S.A.P. If all he wants to do is play WoW, then he isn't a boyfriend. He's using you. Then you let him know about your interests, and he flips out? That's strike two. Then he accuses you of all sorts of things that you wouldn't do and is getting worse? That's strike three in my book.

 

[LonelyKimiko]

As a victim of the WoW addiction myself, I can see his problem. That of course doesnt excuse what he's doing to you though, and I think you should get rid of the guy. Finding a better guy with your looks and bubbly personality should be easy!
Or you could always find a gal 😉 .
*big hugs*

 

[coloman]

Get this guy out of your life ASAP. He is a loser who puts himself first and blames other people for HIS problems. Instead of staying at your house all day and most of the night playing a stupid game he should be out looking for a new job and a new place to live. I bet this bum eats three meals a day on your dime too. He uses your interests as a lever against you as well which is more proof that he is a real loser. Dump this guy NOW and find a man who you can share your life and interests with in an open and honest atmosphere.

 

[XaviarRkR]

Hmm. Sounds like the guy has a bit of a jeolessy (can't spell!) problem if he's coming out with odd accusations. It's easy for me to say "chuck him", but of course it's not always easy to do that. It sounds like you're under a lot of stress due to this and all I can say is that I wish you the very best and hope things improve for you soon.

 

[BigNorm]

me being a previous computer addict can help. world of warcraft, as i heard is highly addicting, which is why i don't play it.

here's your best option. when he's away, break or disable the computer. no WoW. but as it is, sounds like you need to dump him and move on. i'm not the best at relationships, either, so don't just listen to me. but if you don't wanna permanently break the computer, i can help with ways to temporarily disable to where he can't fix it. only you can.

he sounds like a great guy, just WoW messed up his life. eliminate that factor, and things should improve. if it then gets worse, and if it's his computer, unplug it and take a sludge hammer and destroy it. then walk away from the relationship.

 

[Goodieluver]

me being a previous computer addict can help. world of warcraft, as i heard is highly addicting, which is why i don't play it.

here's your best option. when he's away, break or disable the computer. no WoW. but as it is, sounds like you need to dump him and move on. i'm not the best at relationships, either, so don't just listen to me. but if you don't wanna permanently break the computer, i can help with ways to temporarily disable to where he can't fix it. only you can.

he sounds like a great guy, just WoW messed up his life. eliminate that factor, and things should improve. if it then gets worse, and if it's his computer, unplug it and take a sludge hammer and destroy it. then walk away from the relationship.

or she could always threaten to delete his lvl 60 mount...lol

 

[blackmagicjack1]

Hey Flightless,

Sounds like your having rough time of it right now, and you have my sympathy. Being at odds with, and confused by the behavior of, someone you care about can be very hard to deal with. Considering what is best for you and your life would be a start to dealing with this. Where do you want to be in three years and what kind of people do you want around you? Also this guy is in your house, and you are Queen there. He's only your b/f, you did not owe him a place to stay, you did it out of the kindness of your heart, and he has to respect the rules of living in your home. And one of those rules ought to be contributing to maintaining it. That means either giving you rent money or cooking, cleaning, taking out the trash....you get the picture.

Now for your guy, I know that losing a car and home is tough, but he showed you the side of him that comes out when things are rough. Did you like what you saw? More than likely that is the way he will react anytime things get really tough, until he learns otherwise (which usually takes a conscious desire). So in a way he did you a favor, and now you get to decide if you want to live with it.

I don't know you, only the things I've read from your posts, but you seem like a sweet girl who has had some very difficult times. I write this in the hopes that it might help you find better times. Work on yourself, they say charity starts at home.

 

[nessonite1]

Actually, Vlad, it wasn't the video game I was responding to. I know how addictive stuff like that can be so I wouldn't judge someone's sense of priorities based on whether or not they get sucked into WoW. it was this

I even went as far as to bring him into this world. TT. But the day i was open with him was the day i basically handed my freedom over. Every day he comes up with a new accusation. He accuses me of the wierdest shit. And even accused me of showing my breasts on here (which i havent and nope wont do) He even asked me to delete this account.

that bothered me. If something like this shows up only a few months into being together you can be certain that this is going to be a frequent problem and will only intensify later on.

 

[Betchass1]

I haven't been on much at all.

I mostly agree with everyone. I won't judge him, but it's definitely in your best interest to think of yourself.
http://www.gamerwidow.com/

Far worse if you were married to him. The only hope of changing someone in such a situation is if they are open to it and admit there is a problem. It doesn't sound like he fits that description. It's not selfish to end such a relationship. A relationship is supposed to make both people's lives better, and this one clearly isn't, if he is disapproving of your tickling interests. That will make you feel like shit, if it hasn't already.
Only you can make the decisions that will make you happy, and you can't make those decisions for anyone else... so if he isn't making the decision to improve his own life, you can't make him, you can only make the decision to improve yours.
Good luck with everything.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Actually, Vlad, it wasn't the video game I was responding to. I know how addictive stuff like that can be so I wouldn't judge someone's sense of priorities based on whether or not they get sucked into WoW. it was this


that bothered me. If something like this shows up only a few months into being together you can be certain that this is going to be a frequent problem and will only intensify later on.

I know you weren't refering to the video games, which is why I responded to you with "thats all?" and then added the sarcastic smiley. I was merely stating that, in addition to what you stated (which is obviously far worse than video game addiction) the video game addiction isn't making things any better and is contributing to the problem also.

I thought it was clear what I meant...

I, on the otherhand, would judge someone's priorities if they're investing a majority of their time into any video game, WoW is not some magical exception. It wouldn't even have to be a video game. She obviously mentioned it though because she has clearly noticed a remarkable change in her together time with him and this game isn't helping that or improving him. It's just creating a braindead vegitable who she doesn't know anymore. This game is just another one of his vices, and it encourages his idleness and procrastination.

I would certain say that based on what she's said so far, he's making a stupid game and passtime more important than her. Games aren't going to pay the bills or make him a responsible man.

Coupled with the jealousy and obsessiveness that she and you touched upon, this makes him an ugly, immature person to be around, much less live with.

Didn't you read my actual portion of the post to her? I never did make this about the video games. Video games are trivial in the greater sceme of things.

 

[Cbarton]

My 2 cents...I offer this as a husband of 17 years, father of 2, former porn addict, and former Men's Ministry leader...

Get rid of him quick. He is showing all the signs of full-blown addiction. If you stick with him as you are, you will create a co-dependent relationship, if it hasn't happened already. He has already shown the game is more important than anything else, including you. He is trying to make you change your lifestyle to suit his. He has made accusations of your behavior to cover his own. It's all there. Trust me, I tried them all. When my wife said the "D" word, I woke up and cleaned up.

One of your first priorities should be for him to get out and support himself, if he isn't already. Next is to get your health checked out to see if you did miscarry so you can get the emotional support you need. We lost our first child to a miscarriage, so I know how you will be feeling. If still pregnant, you need to plan for the child, under the idea that if he is all wrapped up in WoW now, a baby will not change that but make it worse.

Seek WISE adult counsel. Follow the advice above, esp. Nessie and Vlad's. If you were in my region, I'd send you to the fine staff of the maternity home our church set up and supports.

You're young, lovely, and have a situation much to heavy to carry on your own. You shouldn't have to carry it alone....

 

[Sockstickler]

I've got to go with everyone else here. The man's tipped his hand, and shown he isn't worthy of you. If he's that jealous and possessive, then you honestly need to jump ship and get out of there now. I've heard this story before, and it never ends with anyone happy, and especially not the woman.
You're young, beautiful, and an incredible woman, and you can do a lot better than him. You've definitely got my sympathy, and if I can be of any assistance at all, then I'm here.

 

[LonelyKimiko]

Hey Flightless, clear your inbox so I can send you my new IM address ^_^ .

 

[Big_Dogg85]

I also agree with everyone else but I must add my own two cents as well. Flightless, if you truly care for this guy and believe that he can change his ways then try to change him around, make him see that what he is or isn't doing is bothering you and is detrimental to your relationship. If he truly cares about you, then hopefully he will see the error of his ways and change. If you find that he is being too stubborn or unwilling to change then I also say that you should leave him soon after as (along with what Vlad said correct?) he will become a bigger burden that shouldn't have to deal with at all.

Ultimately flightless, you do what you think is right and whatever your decision, you know we're all here for ya! 🙂

That's all I have to say.

 

[batch1]

dump him and kick him out of your place.

and get on some goddamn birth control.

 

[flightless_me]

thanks for the support as blunt as some were thanks too.

I wont delete this account. Because this place and everyone in it has become a giant part of me. I never felt as good of myself till i got in here. And thats because of everyone. So thank you. Yes we are still together and the problem has subsided slightly. It better stay "getting better" cause im about to just get up and go without him. I cant carry myself if i have him dragging me down. As for the pregnancy, still not so sure yet. Will find out this weekend. I know if i am, It's not the end of my life. It means i need to work harder for what i want in life. I HATE it when someone says a teen who got pregnant ruined their life...NO! they need to work HARDER for what they want. It's never the end and besides, noone makes it out alive. So make what u got the best.

 

[ScouseJim]

Flightless having read some of the responses to your original statement there's some good advice there from some people, and a few making light of what is a serious thing. If you are pregnant you seem to be a girl with her head screwed on right, I'm sure you'll make a good mum an make the right decisions. It would be a shame to lose you from the board, even though we haven't even corresponded with each other, I always enjoy reading anything you have to say. A teen who gets pregnant's life is not at an end as you say. Hope everything works out for the best!

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

thanks for the support as blunt as some were thanks too.

I wont delete this account. Because this place and everyone in it has become a giant part of me. I never felt as good of myself till i got in here. And thats because of everyone. So thank you. Yes we are still together and the problem has subsided slightly. It better stay "getting better" cause im about to just get up and go without him. I cant carry myself if i have him dragging me down. As for the pregnancy, still not so sure yet. Will find out this weekend. I know if i am, It's not the end of my life. It means i need to work harder for what i want in life. I HATE it when someone says a teen who got pregnant ruined their life...NO! they need to work HARDER for what they want. It's never the end and besides, noone makes it out alive. So make what u got the best.

Geez, along with the invasion of privacy issue you had on the other thread, I have to wonder. Maybe he did the poking arround on your computer for some "blackmail" to get you off of his back. I dunno.

 

[BigNorm]

thanks for the support as blunt as some were thanks too.

I wont delete this account. Because this place and everyone in it has become a giant part of me. I never felt as good of myself till i got in here. And thats because of everyone. So thank you. Yes we are still together and the problem has subsided slightly. It better stay "getting better" cause im about to just get up and go without him. I cant carry myself if i have him dragging me down. As for the pregnancy, still not so sure yet. Will find out this weekend. I know if i am, It's not the end of my life. It means i need to work harder for what i want in life. I HATE it when someone says a teen who got pregnant ruined their life...NO! they need to work HARDER for what they want. It's never the end and besides, noone makes it out alive. So make what u got the best.

i'm glad we make you feel so good, it's what i strive to do, make others have a better day, and i certainly love it here aswell. and yeah, you can't RUIN your life, you can always make it better. but whatever the case, i hope that it'll turn out in your favor.

*hugz*

you'll get through this.

 

[LonelyKimiko]

*Cheers for flightless, her partner in crime*