Will there ever be justice for a tickler???

[mysterytic]

I was in evening college at the time and was dating Diane. She mentioned a few times how ticklish she was, even without any words or actions, on my part. I took this as an invitation. I was scheduled to bring her to a fraternity party when I thought of the "plan". A few nights before the party we were in my car after school when I popped the question. How much do you like me? Her reply was something like, very much I think of you constantly. I told her I had a test in mind to prove how much she liked me. I put her left foot in my lap, removed her shoe, and gently stroked the bottom of her warm moist foot. She was wearing white panty hose and I remember the involuntary jerking of her foot as soon as I touched it. I spoke a very soft voice "See anybody can say they like me, but somebody who really does will endure discomfort to prove it. If you pull away, I know your are not willing to endure the discomfort, then I will have doubts about you" She giggled and protested for about 30 seconds and then had enough. She pulled her foot away, screamed at me, called me a pervert, and stormed out of my car to hers. She drove away and we never spoke again. As it turned out I asked another Diane to go to the fraternity, she liked me a lot, but was not at all ticklish. Will there ever be justice for a tickler????

 

[Blackstar216]

Sounds like a case of the "too soons". Or rather, "no man's land". You either tell her about it from the get go, or you wait until the relationship is 100% solid.
I it was more than a few sexy strokes on the foot, than I can imagine just about any non-ticklephile girl would take off running too.

 

[mysterytic]

Looking Back Blackstar 216

Yes your assessment is correct. We live and learn, sometimes too late. I was disappointed because I had recently had a successful tickle experience with my "plan". I tested a girl named Lynn, she was a trooper, giggled thru the entire experience. She kept grabbing air with her hands and kept putting her hands across her face, asking me to stop. But she never pulled away, just kept applying downward pressure with her heel. It was magnificent. Lynn and I dated later on but only had occassional tickles to enjoy as we realized neither one of us was really in love.

 

[QBWeaver]

Maybe she was just too ticklish NOT to pull away. Some people are too ticklish. You told her that basically if she pulled away she couldn't like you all that much. Then when she had to pull away she may have felt that there was no way you would truly like her since she did. Big pressure on that lady. Sounds more like you had a geniunely ticklish lady there who couldn't help but pull away.

 

[mysterytic]

My goodness, thank you QB

You just opened my eyes to something I never even thought of. That is why women are so precious. They have the angles all figured, something to learn. BTW,I heard your giggles all the way here in Pennsylvania, there must be something strange about these electronic wires. 🙂 Thanks

 

[QBWeaver]

Thanks Mystery for the nice words. By the Way... You weren't SUPPOSED to hear that stuff all the way from here to there! I guess he's just going to have to use a gag with me next time! heheheheh

I hope you are able to find another lady just as ticklish as Diane to have fun with. It's really a shame that she left.

20/20 Hindsight!

 

[drew70]

We can all learn a valuable lesson from this mistake. Never drop an ultimatum to a potential partner in life, or even worse, give them a test of their loyalty and affection. They just might call your bluff. In another forum, one guy was going to sell all 102 of his tickling videos because his newlywed spouse said "either they go or I go." Several of us tried to convince him not to cave in to such an unreasonable demand, but he's not reposted since. Hopefully, that means he stood up for himself, but who knows.

 

[ktickler]

I gotta say that I do not agree with the "test" you performed on the lady. It is way too much pressure on her to just stay with you. Would you you pull her tonails off just to see if she really likes you? It is kind of an extreme example, but it is relevant anyway.

If she was too ticklish, she knew she would not be able to endure the "test". Since, you made it an ultimatum, she felt between the sword and the wall. What if she thought "So, if I do not wistand his stupid test, then he does not like me? I would rather be alone".

Sorry if I sound too harsh, but as drew70 said, you do not drop an ultimatum to a potential partner in life. Tickling has to be fun to be enjoyed by people who do not know or care about this fetish. They have to be easily introduced to it and they have to enjoy the tickling experience, at least a little.

People react different ways to different stimuli, having an ultimatum like that does not give them much of an option. I think the idea is great if it is presented as a payful scenario rather than yes/no situation. Would you really dump her if she pulled away? Or, were you just taking advantage of the situation to get in some free tickles?

Not to get to the "women as objects" thread, but if your intentions were just to have some tickling fun with her, the ultimatum proposal does not sound very appealing.

Take care,

Knight Tickler

 

[blankpage]

I have to concede with everyone else here. It was a VERY messed-up thing to do to give the impression that "you only really like me if you're willing to endure this". I doubt she would have called you a pervert if you had not placed this restriction. Hopefully you'll learn from this mistake...

 

[TickledToDeath]

Good move, nice try but you used the wrong words with her bro!
Sometimes ultimatums are not taken all that well and she probably took it as such.

Oh well. Live and learn.

TTD

 

[J-dark]

*waves HI to blankpage*

Well, I agree that this test wasn't exactly the
BEST way to open the subject of tickling to a
prospective girlfriend... but the basic idea was a
sound one. She brought up the sunject of tickling
one day, but you didn't pursue it till later, in
this way. Mayhaps next time you might try it a
different way. In a lot of the posts in this
discussion group, I've seen several ways that
people introduce the subject of tickling to their
prospective partners. If all else fails, there is
the honest and direct approach.

My GF (now fiancé) is extremely ticklish, and at
the time we started to date HATED to be tickled
with a passion. She hated everything about it, but
mostly the loss of control it invokes. Turns out,
she had control issues from a prior relationship
that ended badly. If I had given her an ultimatum
in the tickling thing, she would not be my fiancé
today. I told her flat out how I felt about the
tickling thing, and that I understood her feelings
and why, I was sensitive to her fears and her
needs, but I told her also that this was a desire
and need of my own, and that if she was willing
to make an effort, I could show her how to enjoy
it. Needless to say, through trial and error,
and an open mind on her part, she eventually
learned to put up with it... then to kinda like
it... and much later to love it as much as I do!

I dunno about your friend Dianne, and how things
are between you, whether you could ever patch
thing up, or if you've moved on to other prospects
but just keep in mind that this is a rather...
unique fetish, not shared by all. Introducing it
to others is like tickling itself: some cases
call for a softer, gentler approach, and some
call for more agressive action. And sometimes,
like tickling someone who's not quite responsive,
it takes a patient and relentless approach.

J-dark

P.S. hey blankster, done anymore writing on the
Ancients series lately? haven't heard from you in
ages!!

 

[Blackstar216]

Don't blow this out of proportion people. Sounds like mysterytic wasn't REQUIRING a girl to take some sort of test. It sounds like a playful little game is all. And no, the girl was not too ticklish or disappointed in not lasting or anything like that. She was pissed. She called him a pervert! That's not shame! That's MAD!
At any rate, when getting involved with someone, either tell them tickling is your thing upfront or just wait a while until either the subject is brought up, or the relationship is solid enough to withstand the shock of a fetish being mentioned, period.

Repeat, this does not sound like the girl had to last 5 minutes or he'd dump her out the car. Okay people? If I'm wrong, then let it be known mysterytic.

 

[blankpage]

Re: *waves HI to blankpage*

P.S. hey blankster, done anymore writing on the
Ancients series lately? haven't heard from you in
ages!!

I'm taking hiatus from serial stories for now. The next few stories I write will probably be short stories. I WILL continue the Aphrodite/Kendra series; probably after I get medical treatment. Thanks 🙂

 

[mysterytic]

To all who answered, thank you

Actually I rationalize it today (yeah I give myself an excuse) by realizing I was quite young and very inexperienced with tickling. To look back, it was poor communications on my part. To me, it was a carefree game that resulted in the chance to tickle. Figuring her motivation was there, I could not lose. If I had only "planned other not tickling, non threatening games, not in the form of a test" I could have GRADUATED TO A TICKLE TEST/GAME. Well I see the results now thru different eyes thanks to all who answered. The old cliche applies here about the woods and the trees. Thank you all.

With maturity comes a change of priorities and more regards for other's feelings. With experience comes not making the same mistake twice. Happy tickles.

 

[Ticklish9's]

I must concur...

Sometimes, when people are tickled, we are just TOO ticklish to pull away (or kick mightily, as the case may be). My ex girlfriend once sat on my legs to hold them down (she weighed a bit more than me, even) and I still managed to kick her off about 10 seconds after she started really tickling. Granted, I've got the muscular runner legs, but even so...just to let you know that we super-ticklish folk are out there and really can't help but pull away.