Will Tickling make her Beautiful?

[Slaver123]

There's a certain "ugly-duckling" woman at work; I really like her personality (I'm the only one there who seems to actually like her) but I do not find her attractive at all. She's not grossly dis-proportioned or anything but no matter how I think about it I just can't find her physically attractive at all... and that's a rarity for me.

So if one thing led to another and I had her writhing in laughter, would that make me attracted to her? Or vice-versa, if she tickled me? (cause I'm a lee too)

No matter how I word this question I sound like a cro-magnon brute; sorry...

 

[Journia]

propbably, intimacy brings out the beauty in lots of ugly ducklkings.

 

[Mash]

I say this with the utmost concern to your mental health;

Basing a relationship off of a fetish is very, very bad.

I would suggest that rather than have that be the cornerstone of your relationship with her, get to know her more intimately and try and find her attractive in that way. Using the fetish in question to kick-start the attraction is fine, but definitely do not date her JUST because you like tickling her.

 

[FeatherDaemon1]

There's a certain "ugly-duckling" woman at work; I really like her personality (I'm the only one there who seems to actually like her) but I do not find her attractive at all. She's not grossly dis-proportioned or anything but no matter how I think about it I just can't find her physically attractive at all... and that's a rarity for me.

So if one thing led to another and I had her writhing in laughter, would that make me attracted to her? Or vice-versa, if she tickled me? (cause I'm a lee too)

No matter how I word this question I sound like a cro-magnon brute; sorry...

Since you are asking the question before actually going through with this I don't see you as a cro-magnon. You are just asking an honest question. That is nothing of which to be ashamed.

I don't know the circumstances of your work, but since it is work she may not exactly be putting her A-game on appearance-wise. She could be a totally different person outside of work. I do agree with the statement that basing a relationship off a fetish may be a risky endeavor. It is something more of a nice plus.

Now for the sake of argument you two do hit it off. In the throws of passion can you see her in a totally different light? Sure, this is possible. You would be seeing a hidden side of her. Again though it is a risky proposition hoping to see this side of her.

In truth though, I don't think that this would be exactly fair to her. If she were to put herself in that position for you there is a good chance she may find you attractive somehow. If you don't see the side of her that you are hoping for then she could be hurt in your process of discovery.

I would like to offer the caveat that she could grow on you. If you like her personality enough to date her then you may grow to find her more attractive.

 

[juanmiller]

If you dated her and then broke up, would it make things awkward at work?

If not, I say go for it. I've definitely had the experience of giving someone a shot because I liked her as a person, even though I did not find her that good looking, and finding that I was more attracted to her as I got to know her. Opinions about what is attractive aren't hard wired, they're affected by your experiences.

 

[bumtickler2000]

Slaver123 I fully understand what you're going through, so please don't feel awful.

At the same time, I'm sorry but I'm not supporting the idea of a woman's ticklishness being a mature example of attractiveness.

Personally, I agree with FeatherDaemon. Yes, there is a slight chance that her ticklishness is the thing that pushes her over the top for you in the case of who she is, but there is much more to a person than that,

I don't want to make this about my opinions but you made this about personal opinion, and the woman I love HATES being tickled. She's okay with being tickled VERY sparingly by me, but for her it's about every other aspect of me as a person.

That's what I'd say about this. Tickle culture is what might finish off our perfect person, but you can't expect it to be the aspect that defines any one of us.

 

[Slaver123]

I like her personality (I'm one of only TWO people at work who like her personality) and yes, if I fantasize about tickling she starts to look better....

"Beer Goggles" are needed but I never drink alcohol, wonder if there's such a thing as "Tickle Goggles"?:lol

 

[Sunriseticklee]

LOL... This is really hilarious!

Anyway- I think laughter and a sense of humor make EVERYONE more attractive.

But if you just aren't physically attracted to her, you just aren't. You might "get off" on tickling someone.... but if the attraction is just to the tickling- you still are not attracted to the person.

I've met guys that I had soooo much fun tickling, and I'm sure some guys have had fun tickling me, but wouldn't wanna take me home with them. LOL

Sometimes tickling can JUST be fun. 🙂

HEY- but just like some guys (and girls... lol) have slept with someone they were unattracted to just to scratch an itch- I'm sure people play for that reason as well. No need to feel guilty about it.

:lol

 

[Morpheus72]

There's a certain "ugly-duckling" woman at work; I really like her personality (I'm the only one there who seems to actually like her) but I do not find her attractive at all. She's not grossly dis-proportioned or anything but no matter how I think about it I just can't find her physically attractive at all... and that's a rarity for me.

So if one thing led to another and I had her writhing in laughter, would that make me attracted to her? Or vice-versa, if she tickled me? (cause I'm a lee too)

No matter how I word this question I sound like a cro-magnon brute; sorry...

You know the answer to your question. You don't find her attractive. Granted, you may find her so for the periods of time when you are engaged in tickling, but then it will just go away.

So, no, she wouldn't become attractive to you, for any length of time, or in any meaningful way.

 

[Carnivore]

Depends what you're asking. If tickling ensues, and that's something that generally turns you on, will you be aroused by the situation? Maybe, you'd know that better than me. But that doesn't mean you should let anything happen because of it. You aren't attracted to her generally, and just because she's doing something arousing to you shouldn't change your relationship. You two are platonic. Might I be aroused if an obese female friend shoves my face in her breasts? Possibly, but that momentary instinct won't overcome the fact that we're not physically compatible. And your ugly duckling isn't getting any younger...

Look, romantic/sexual relationships are equal parts physical and emotional. And while the emotional part makes us feel like good people (I like her for her personality!), physical attraction is inherently shallow. That's just how it works. But its necessary. Both parties will be unhappy in a relationship lacking physical attraction. The physical needs don't make you a cro-magnon brute or a bad person. It makes you human. And the sooner you accept your own physical needs for attraction, the better off your relationships will be. I agree that an ugly, romance free friend is sad. But it is not your responsibility to fall on that sword, no matter how much you care for her well being.

 

[oldskool]

Well I don't know if I should give advice on this, but what the heck. You probably shouldn't start out by "trying" to find someone attractive. You either do, or you don't. It's possible over time you might find her attractive simply because you enjoy being around her, or find that you want her in your life. I wouldn't use something you find erotic, or intimate though. You also could hurt her by appearing interested, then not being interested. That's not really fair to her. At first you might be very attracted, because of the tickling. But you can't expect to always be attracted to her for years, and years this way. It just doesn't sound like you are putting her first, which is a horrible way to start things.

My suggestion "Either find someone you are very attracted to, and tickle them. Or wait until you really do have feelings for this woman."