You Always Hurt The Ones You Snub . . .

[Mischief]

(link courtesy of metafilter)

Researchers have discovered that being <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3178242.stm">snubbed socially causes</a> activity in the same part of the brain that becomes active when physical pain is involved.

Rather puts the lie to the "words cannot hurt you" credo, doesn't it?

I hope the next series of studies, if there is one, will focus on the brain activities of people who are engaged in snubbing others. I think it might explain a lot more about human nature.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Interesting study. It gives credence to the wholistic approach of doing things, where body mind and spirit are all taken into account no matter what the presenting problem is. They DO all interplay. The nice thing is that there are ways of training your system to deal with all kinds of discomfort to the point that all but the most severe pain doesn't have that much of an effect. It's even possible for some to handle more severe pain. But, I have yet to meet anyone who has that much control. Personally, I can often "tune out" fairly intense pain for short periods of time. It's the chronic pain that never seems to go away that gets me. (Guess I need to work on that.)

The trick when the pain is emotional is to not allow yourself to be convinced of the lies that are causing the pain. Often, those I've met who can't handle verbal insults, etc. are those who already believe what's being said about them...or something that makes it believable. In the end, we do it to ourselves. So, WE have the control to turn it around and convince ourselves of the truth rather than continuing to believe and then live the lies...."I'm no good." "Nobody likes me." "I can't do anything right.", etc. etc.

Ann

 

[milagros317]

Fascinating article, Mischief. Thanks for the link.

It is my experience that a physical injury may be forgotten, but a snub is remembered decades later.

 

[Limeoutsider]

After 6 years of hearing people talk about me, tell me they want to kill me with a badminton racquet, or that they wanted to beat me up just because, I cna honestly say I dont give a fuck about my peers

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Knoxxie has never forgotten a snub, or a slight. Forgiven? Sometimes. Never forgotten. And, when the opportunity has arisen, he's taken his revenge, too...
This is how I am, for good or ill 😉

 

[ticklebutton]

Great find, Mischief

Interesting study. It gives credence to the wholistic approach of doing things, where body mind and spirit are all taken into account no matter what the presenting problem is. They DO all interplay.

More kindness = healthier world.

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