Youthful apprehension

[Sunday_10pm]

Some tickling related thoughts just came to my head, and since I can’t talk to my friends about it, I thought I’d write it out and let you all see what you think. I’m 18 years old and I’m dwelling on thoughts like these because I don’t currently have a girlfriend to love. I would describe my fetish for tickling as fairly strong, but not entirely overriding, so being the hormonal stoat that I am at this age, I’ve got no problem finding myself stimulated simply by the “vanilla” female form, and therefore have no problem with normal sex. However, I don’t know what is going to happen when I get older, and it’s a little more of a job to stimulate me. Fair enough, It's easy to engage in sex following some frolicsome play involving tickling, but what if I fall for someone who isn’t ticklish? Or am I just being hopelessly naive? Help.

 

[TickleMantis]

I know I joined this forum last year when I was eighteen, and 19 now, and I didn't really have anyone to talk to about it either. Luckily for us we as ticklers have such a great and friendly community that people are willing to talk about and you don't have to be on your own.

As for partners, none of my girlfriends have neseccerally been 'into' tickling but I never go out with someone on whether they are a tickling person or not, theres just so much more to a relationship.

I don't know if that helped or if I'm just rambling but thats my 2 cents.🙂

 

[amk714]

Like the people who previously posted, I wouldn't exclude anyone simply because he or she is not ticklish or does not enjoy tickling. However, if many people who enjoy it are nice, fun, happy, and so forth, I wouldn't be surprised if we ticklers and ticklees end up with "our kind" when it comes to serious relationships and even marriage! You're 18, Sunday_10pm, not 80, so take it easy and have fun! 😀

 

[starfires]

I once heard something on the radio that might be of help. Radio talk show hosts are always trustworthy of course (yeah right) but this made some sense so I'll toss it out there: Something is classified as a fetish if it enhanses the sexual experience. If it is necessary for sexual experience, it's an obsession. It's possible for one to turn into the other, but not too common. So I wouldn't be that concerned about losing all sex drive when there is no tickling involved.

Finding a long term partner that is into tickling presents a problem, if you are monogamous. Looking for someone who is into tickling AND that you can fall in love with AND that you can live with drops your chances by a lot. But as others have said, you are 18, you have time. Just be thankful you didn't discover this interest 10 years into a marriage with a militant straight-laced possessive wife and plenty of kids.

 

[Sunday_10pm]

Thanks for your replies, it's nice to be able to get the opinions of both older, wiser people, and people in my position. I usually come here when I have to get tickling related worries off my chest, and I always get comforting answers 🙂

(Lying back on the leather couch), Just to confirm; I would never shun someone because they weren’t ticklish – it’s hardly their fault. What I can’t seem to tell, is whether or not I am able to feel the same way about a person (sexually) as I would if I had no fetish.

Something is classified as a fetish if it enhanses the sexual experience. If it is necessary for sexual experience, it's an obsession. It's possible for one to turn into the other, but not too common. So I wouldn't be that concerned about losing all sex drive when there is no tickling involved.

Well, I wouldn’t call myself obsessed by tickling, and at the moment at least, I don’t find it necessary, but starfires hit the nail on the head pretty well there.

So people with fetishes feel carnal desires beyond those of people not blessed in such a way? Or does it overrule normal feelings? Am I just as aroused by my lovers themselves as is normal, but feel further desires for tickling which seem to diminish my other sexual feelings? - Or does my desire to tickle actually diminish them? In which case, maybe it would be best for me to forget about my passion for tickling unless I am in a position to experience it. The notion that tickling is partially overriding my normal sex-drive is just a little worrying