A vent best posted in the blog.
My father is truly unreal, and getting more putrid as time goes on.
As I think about him: He is completely abnormal for a parent, in that all of his best friends/closest family members are his son's worst enemies.
His most recent display of this. He is going to DC tomorrow to see his friend, and my uncle's friend, "Marvin".
"Marvin" is man who my parents knew for 20 years during their marriage. My father knows him over 40 years. They used to work together in the same CPA firm, many years ago.
During my estrangement from my father, in the mid 1990s, my mom called "Marvin", for the purpose of trying to talk him into perhaps talking to my father, or some of the mutual friends he and my father had, to try and percepitate a reconciliation.
Marvin's reply: "I don't care if you and Mitchell are sitting in the street", and hung up.
Truly insane, considering that my mom did NOT call to ask anything about money.
When my mom died, Marvin could have attempted to open a new door, by sending me a condolence message. He never did, and just ignored it. After Marvin's actions regarding my mom's death, my father mentioned how "Marvin would have liked to see me". No chance. First he tells my mom she can sit in the street, then ignores me when my mom died? My father must think I'm a fool, but I told him I don't want anything to do with Marvin, and that Marvin is uncivilized.
My father's best friends.
1. His brother: Who told me to be estranged from him, and who told him to throw my mom and me in the street, from the beginning.
2. His cousin Sandy, who did nothing to help with his and my estrangement, for over 20 years, and who, as I've posted, so insanely attacked my mom 24 hours after I laid my mom to rest. This, from a woman, who.. when her 23 year old daughter was killed in a car crash in 1988, cried on Sheila's and Mitch;'s shoulders, when we weren't even talking to my grandmother and uncle. We made the decision to attend the funeral, to support Sandy during her tradegy. When my tradegy with my father hit, and my mom died, she proceeded to first ignore me, and then attack me.
3. Marvin.. who said the things I posted earlier in this post.
My father, while attending events, and taking vacations, with Sandy, his brother, and Marvin, sees his son for one hour at a time, and acts, abusive to the core.
My aunt says I'm lucky that I don't have to see him much.
A "job" wont get me the money needed to pay for this apartment.
My prayer: That I can get my business started, pay my father back every penny he laid out for this place, and have little or nothing to do with him.
All I can do is to refuse to see or deal with these people. As for my father's behavior, it's not surprising.
My mom was never best friends with people who were my worst enemies.
While my aunts have their ways, they never caused trouble in my relationships with either of my parents.
The one time my maternal grandmother made a snide comment about my non existent relationship with my uncle, because of a fight I had with my aunt the astrologer, my mom aired my grandmother out, and only went to see her, when my aunt called us to tell us my grandmother was hospitalized in serious condition.
I'd love to meet, involve myself with, and marry, someone who hates my father's guts.
I know I cant control his behavior. His behavior and attitude is just sickening. He has no loyalty whatsoever. His favorite people are everyone who has behaved inhumanly to his son, both when I was a child, and now as an adult. That isn't normal for a parent to do.
Such shows my father's true disgusting ways. He rants on about my dead mother and grandmother, who cant hurt him anymore, but is best friends with everyone who always has, and currently, has/had acted, and continues to act, uncivilized to his son.
The man is truly abnormal.
My father is truly unreal, and getting more putrid as time goes on.
As I think about him: He is completely abnormal for a parent, in that all of his best friends/closest family members are his son's worst enemies.
His most recent display of this. He is going to DC tomorrow to see his friend, and my uncle's friend, "Marvin".
"Marvin" is man who my parents knew for 20 years during their marriage. My father knows him over 40 years. They used to work together in the same CPA firm, many years ago.
During my estrangement from my father, in the mid 1990s, my mom called "Marvin", for the purpose of trying to talk him into perhaps talking to my father, or some of the mutual friends he and my father had, to try and percepitate a reconciliation.
Marvin's reply: "I don't care if you and Mitchell are sitting in the street", and hung up.
Truly insane, considering that my mom did NOT call to ask anything about money.
When my mom died, Marvin could have attempted to open a new door, by sending me a condolence message. He never did, and just ignored it. After Marvin's actions regarding my mom's death, my father mentioned how "Marvin would have liked to see me". No chance. First he tells my mom she can sit in the street, then ignores me when my mom died? My father must think I'm a fool, but I told him I don't want anything to do with Marvin, and that Marvin is uncivilized.
My father's best friends.
1. His brother: Who told me to be estranged from him, and who told him to throw my mom and me in the street, from the beginning.
2. His cousin Sandy, who did nothing to help with his and my estrangement, for over 20 years, and who, as I've posted, so insanely attacked my mom 24 hours after I laid my mom to rest. This, from a woman, who.. when her 23 year old daughter was killed in a car crash in 1988, cried on Sheila's and Mitch;'s shoulders, when we weren't even talking to my grandmother and uncle. We made the decision to attend the funeral, to support Sandy during her tradegy. When my tradegy with my father hit, and my mom died, she proceeded to first ignore me, and then attack me.
3. Marvin.. who said the things I posted earlier in this post.
My father, while attending events, and taking vacations, with Sandy, his brother, and Marvin, sees his son for one hour at a time, and acts, abusive to the core.
My aunt says I'm lucky that I don't have to see him much.
A "job" wont get me the money needed to pay for this apartment.
My prayer: That I can get my business started, pay my father back every penny he laid out for this place, and have little or nothing to do with him.
All I can do is to refuse to see or deal with these people. As for my father's behavior, it's not surprising.
My mom was never best friends with people who were my worst enemies.
While my aunts have their ways, they never caused trouble in my relationships with either of my parents.
The one time my maternal grandmother made a snide comment about my non existent relationship with my uncle, because of a fight I had with my aunt the astrologer, my mom aired my grandmother out, and only went to see her, when my aunt called us to tell us my grandmother was hospitalized in serious condition.
I'd love to meet, involve myself with, and marry, someone who hates my father's guts.
I know I cant control his behavior. His behavior and attitude is just sickening. He has no loyalty whatsoever. His favorite people are everyone who has behaved inhumanly to his son, both when I was a child, and now as an adult. That isn't normal for a parent to do.
Such shows my father's true disgusting ways. He rants on about my dead mother and grandmother, who cant hurt him anymore, but is best friends with everyone who always has, and currently, has/had acted, and continues to act, uncivilized to his son.
The man is truly abnormal.
