I've just deposited a check of a hefty amount to go towards something I've never had; my own car insurance.
I know this probably sounds like a 'meh' thing to a lot of you, but this is huge for me. I've put myself under figurative lock and key for almost 5 years with my soon to be ex husband. He's had everything in his name and was very open on threatening to take things from me whenever he didn't like something I did/said.
He was the bread-winner for a long time and made sure that I was fully aware of it. Even going so far as stating that I won't be anything without him once we've divorced and I'll be back for him and it'll be too late.
It's been 6 weeks now and no child support. That's just under 600 dollars he owes me now.
I'll get it in time; I've become a 'bill collector' to him and he doesn't pay his bills. But, yet, I'm the one who 'needs him'.
He's filing Chapter 13 because he rutted himself so deep with his bills. He's got a hold on one of his bank cards because he took out a $10,000 loan on his nice, new truck that he was always dumping money into to 'fix'. He also bought himself a brand new 4wheeler, despite my protests that we couldn't afford it.
My contribution to his Chapter 13 he said was because I 'spent too much money on groceries and left all the lights and TVs on' when we were together.
I'm not a genius at math, but even I'm pretty sure that's bullshit.
Anytime he spends around me that's longer then a half an hour turns into him dumping every issue he has on me and claiming it's my fault. That I should just "shut up and get back with him and start contributing".
So, yeah. Car Insurance of my own might not seem like a huge thing, but it feels like it for me because it's making me realize that every day I'm one step away from being held under.
I know this probably sounds like a 'meh' thing to a lot of you, but this is huge for me. I've put myself under figurative lock and key for almost 5 years with my soon to be ex husband. He's had everything in his name and was very open on threatening to take things from me whenever he didn't like something I did/said.
He was the bread-winner for a long time and made sure that I was fully aware of it. Even going so far as stating that I won't be anything without him once we've divorced and I'll be back for him and it'll be too late.
It's been 6 weeks now and no child support. That's just under 600 dollars he owes me now.
I'll get it in time; I've become a 'bill collector' to him and he doesn't pay his bills. But, yet, I'm the one who 'needs him'.
He's filing Chapter 13 because he rutted himself so deep with his bills. He's got a hold on one of his bank cards because he took out a $10,000 loan on his nice, new truck that he was always dumping money into to 'fix'. He also bought himself a brand new 4wheeler, despite my protests that we couldn't afford it.
My contribution to his Chapter 13 he said was because I 'spent too much money on groceries and left all the lights and TVs on' when we were together.
I'm not a genius at math, but even I'm pretty sure that's bullshit.
Anytime he spends around me that's longer then a half an hour turns into him dumping every issue he has on me and claiming it's my fault. That I should just "shut up and get back with him and start contributing".
So, yeah. Car Insurance of my own might not seem like a huge thing, but it feels like it for me because it's making me realize that every day I'm one step away from being held under.
