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I was just sitting and thinking about how my situation with my father really is..,. Bottom line.. the relationship is run by him, where only his feelings count.. 100% of the time.
I've posted about how evil his brother and his cousins have been to me. All I've gotten from him is a "They're wrong, and you're an adult, and dont have to see them if you dont want to". "Wrong" is his favorite word to use about his and his family's evil treatment of me. It doesnt faze him emotionally or make him angry. However, he expresses rage on a regular basis about my mom.
As I've also posted, he spends little or no time with me. I've seen him a total of about four hours since Thanksgiving. In the meantime, forgetting about his day to day life with Cheryl, hes spent almost two weeks with the cousins he holds near and dear.
Finally, to my knowledge, I'm the only adult child who doesnt know how much money their senior citizen parent makes, or what they have.. in case of illness.. death., etc. My ex best friend, whose parents were far from open and kind people, knew his father's and mother's salary, and basically what money they had. In fact, he quoted to me that his father was very fair with his mother in the divroce, giving her 60% of their assets, unlike my mom who got an alimony check set 21 years ago, got no property settlement whatsoever, and never got a raise, as my father went on with his life without me. If my father could use as an excuse that he didnt want to tell me his situation, because he didnt want my mom to take him back to court for more alimony, that rationale ended a year ago when my mom went into the nursing home, as her alimony stopped then. I think by all rights a conversation should be had of "Mitch, I make this, and I have this, and if something happened to me, Cheryl would get this, and you would get this". Even if it was 95%,-5% in favor of Cheryl.
unclebill, who I like, respect, consider a friend, has said that my father doesnt want to help me with a business because he feels I'm not emotionally ready. Let me ask, would YOU want to be this guy's son? Verbal abuse, everyone else can abuse, and everyone else matters more, not to mention the past hurt.
I have no choice but to see what happens. I would love to get a good business started, and have less to do with him.
I was just sitting and thinking about how my situation with my father really is..,. Bottom line.. the relationship is run by him, where only his feelings count.. 100% of the time.
I've posted about how evil his brother and his cousins have been to me. All I've gotten from him is a "They're wrong, and you're an adult, and dont have to see them if you dont want to". "Wrong" is his favorite word to use about his and his family's evil treatment of me. It doesnt faze him emotionally or make him angry. However, he expresses rage on a regular basis about my mom.
As I've also posted, he spends little or no time with me. I've seen him a total of about four hours since Thanksgiving. In the meantime, forgetting about his day to day life with Cheryl, hes spent almost two weeks with the cousins he holds near and dear.
Finally, to my knowledge, I'm the only adult child who doesnt know how much money their senior citizen parent makes, or what they have.. in case of illness.. death., etc. My ex best friend, whose parents were far from open and kind people, knew his father's and mother's salary, and basically what money they had. In fact, he quoted to me that his father was very fair with his mother in the divroce, giving her 60% of their assets, unlike my mom who got an alimony check set 21 years ago, got no property settlement whatsoever, and never got a raise, as my father went on with his life without me. If my father could use as an excuse that he didnt want to tell me his situation, because he didnt want my mom to take him back to court for more alimony, that rationale ended a year ago when my mom went into the nursing home, as her alimony stopped then. I think by all rights a conversation should be had of "Mitch, I make this, and I have this, and if something happened to me, Cheryl would get this, and you would get this". Even if it was 95%,-5% in favor of Cheryl.
unclebill, who I like, respect, consider a friend, has said that my father doesnt want to help me with a business because he feels I'm not emotionally ready. Let me ask, would YOU want to be this guy's son? Verbal abuse, everyone else can abuse, and everyone else matters more, not to mention the past hurt.
I have no choice but to see what happens. I would love to get a good business started, and have less to do with him.
