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I hear you.

What makes you say gatherings aren't real life? I know they're for just a few days, but they're real people getting together for a common interest, you can't get much more real in my mind...

I've told you before that the guy you have seems to be a keeper. But I also still think you should introduce him to us so he can see that we're the good kind of freaks, not the scary after-school-special ones. He may not be up for a gathering right away, but maybe bringing him on a radio show once or twice or cruising the TMF with him so he gets to know us will put him at ease; I think he might be afraid of losing you to one of us and if he learns that he isn't, he might relax a bit.

After all, people have found relationship success with non-ticklephiles and eventually most of those SOs warm up to us and trust us, or at least the direct circle of immediate friends. There's the chance that with time, Vinnie might warm up to us and see us as friends; we're certainly willing to do that for him.

If his discomfort is based on lack of understanding, then any compromise he asks you to agree to is actually unfair...whereas if he's informed as to our character and makes the same decision anyway, you can at least be assured that he didn't do it hastily.

Hmm...I dunno. I'm from the school of Do what makes You happy so...as far as your original question goes, probably not. It would depend in the person though. I personally wouldn't mix this place with my relationship in the first place. I like this being mine.

Hi Anniehall,

I don't believe it's a matter of choosing love over tickling - it's whether you would choose love over being yourself. I could not do that in the end. Thankfully, I didn't have to make that choice as I am married to a TMFer, and I'm not all that active in the community anyway. All that aside, I do know that at some point, the person I was with would have to at least be comfortable with me being a part of this community, even if they didn't want to participate themselves.

I think it's a tough situation you are in - I hope it works out well for you...

ali32

Hi Annie,

I am fortunate in that I don't have to make that chose because I am marrying Sadira on this forum. But if I had to choose. I would definately leave the lifestyle. Because in the end, there is nothing better than being in love. And love and marriage is about comprimising. So absolutely and I would never second guess it.

TF4F

lol you're not blocked .. I just have it so only friends can comment. I'll add you.

Personally, I can't fall in love with anyone that doesn't at least make an attempt to meet me halfway. While this may sound selfish, a relationship without tickling or this community in general would make me feel like a big part of me was missing and I wouldn't want to stay with that person. But everyone is different. I wish you the best.

Aimee;bt1777 said:

lol you're not blocked .. I just have it so only friends can comment. I'll add you.

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Ha. My bad.

I just want to remind people that I said I don't think I could fall in love with someone that was totally against me being into tickling. I would just be too frustrated and unhappy.

However, I think I could leave the community. Knowing my participation was hurting someone I loved somehow, would end up hurting me too and I couldn't do that to them.

Leave this community? I've made a lot of friends here, but yeah, I think I could. After all, I'd still chat to my friends on AIM, so that's not an issue. And it's not like you guys are my only group of friends that I have common interests with.

But that being said, ideally, I don't think the person I wind up spending my life with would care if I posted on the forum or not. It seems to be too much of a trivial issue to get heated up about.
Not that I'd want the person I'm with to be completely apathetic, but there are so much more inportant things going on in the world than whether I post on an internet forum or not.