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That was a beautiful and touching post, Gin.

You did the right thing in contacting them, hon. My advice to you: don't let them go again.

It's my fault that I broke contact.

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It's not your fault. You did what you had to do, removing yourself from an unhealthy and dangerous situation. All too often parents think their kids can do no harm, even when it's slapping them in the face. They should have never kept pushing you to have a relationship with your dad. That, made them lose a granddaughter for many years. That is their fault baby, not yours.

Good on you for giving them a call, and seeing them will do you wonders. At least you can get with pawpaw for lunch or coffee once a week. Take it one step at a time and focus on your relationship with them. You are an adult now and can stay away from discussions about your dad. If someone put you on a phone with him, just hang up. It's about you and your relationship with them and no one else. Call if you need anything.

First of all, it is absolutely not your fault that you broke contact. What choice did you have? As good as their intentions were, they weren't protecting you, so you had to protect yourself, and there's no shame in that.

Nothing hurts more than losing contact with people that you love, except maybe the moment that you do start talking again and you realize what you've been missing, but contacting them has made you happy. You absolutely did the right thing, and I'm proud of you for it.

Enjoy the time that you're able to spend with them now instead of focusing on the negative past. Have fun and cherish all the little things that you loved about them that will be coming back into your life.

I love you so much babygirl, and know you can always call me if you need anything at all

Thank you everyone for your supportive comments and love. It really means more to me than you know.

Jay, I'll probably give you a call today.

I love you all. *hugs*

Baby it's not your fault. You did something that you thought was best for you. And you know maybe it was best for you at the time. I've been trying to do it to my grandmother but I just can't seem to keep her out, she's gets in somehow. What you should remember are the memories that your going to create with them now. And sometimes you just have to throw out that bad, and bring on the new.

Love you baby, with all my heart.

Just saw this -- dang, I've gotta' start subscribing to things so I know what's up!

Jay and Lyz and Cassi are all right on the money. You have no fault in this. You did what you had to to protect yourself. Continue to do so. Take what time you can with your grandparents, but it's exactly as Jay said:

"You are an adult now and can stay away from discussions about your dad. If someone put you on a phone with him, just hang up. It's about you and your relationship with them and no one else."

Also exactly as Jay said: Call if you need anything.

I'm glad I finally saw this, Gin. *sigh*

I could not agree more with what Tortuga said, as well as your other dear friends.

You did the right thing and are again doing the right thing. We're all here for you, and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say, I wish you all that is good in this world, and a fruitful reunion with your family.

-Love wishes!