I always get a kick out of people who post on the forum that say they can't make any friends. Usually, the people who say that have been members for awhile and have anywhere between 2 and 200 posts, many of which tend to be complaints and criticisms. I mean honestly, if you come off like a jackass how do you think people are going to envision you? Also, if you hide in the shadows, how will people ever get to know you at all?
I present to you a case of a past lurker and what's become of him. I'm speaking, of course, of myself. I joined this incarnation of the forum in April of 2001, the first month it was live. I came here looking at pics, artwork and vids like many who come here do. I also spent time in the chat room, talking mainly in the main room. There were people there that I bantered with and such, but on the forum itself, I was pretty scarce. And while I was ok with feeling like an outsider, I often found myself a bit envious of those who seemed to have formed lasting friendships and such.
Then one day, I decide to start posting more. My posts were most times reflections of my sense of humor with the occasional bit of personal insight. Thru that, I started to get to know a few more people. My activity waxed and waned over the years, but I was still somewhat known. Then this past year, my posting has more than doubled what it had been in the previous eight. I was making friends left and right and suddenly, that feeling of being an outsider was gone.
How did that happen? I always sucked at making friends. But there I was, surrounded by extended family all over the forum. The best time of my adult life was finally getting to meet some of them as well as meeting others. And it's all going to happen again in less than a month. It actually gives me a feeling of personal accomplishment.
Yeah I know, there's those of you out there who don't want to make friends. All you want is a place to voice your opinions and spank it to tickle material. Honestly, I pity you because you will never know how truly awesome it is to have people like these as actual friends. And those of you who say no one will talk to you and no one wants to be your friend, I call bullshit on you. If you're not making any friends then you aren't trying. Registering on the forum does not entitle you to have your ass kissed by everyone on the board.
What it DOES entitle you to is to mingle with the crowd and get yourself known. No, you don't need to have thousands of posts to do that. You just need to interact with others. Spot a post that someone made that is something that you agree with or something you're into besides tickling and start a conversation with them thru VMs or PMs. And believe me, no one will think you're gay if you PM someone of the same sex to chat. 🙄
Another thing to remember is you don't always have to chat about tickling. Sure, it's our common bond, but we're ALL regular people. We all have triumphs and tragedies, hopes and dreams, good times and bad times. And we all have other interests as well. Use that to build a friendship. Seriously people, if I can make friends, anyone can. Just don't act like a fucktard when you try to do it. So if you feel you're not making friends or no one wants to be your friend, chances are it's your own fault and you're doing it wrong.
I present to you a case of a past lurker and what's become of him. I'm speaking, of course, of myself. I joined this incarnation of the forum in April of 2001, the first month it was live. I came here looking at pics, artwork and vids like many who come here do. I also spent time in the chat room, talking mainly in the main room. There were people there that I bantered with and such, but on the forum itself, I was pretty scarce. And while I was ok with feeling like an outsider, I often found myself a bit envious of those who seemed to have formed lasting friendships and such.
Then one day, I decide to start posting more. My posts were most times reflections of my sense of humor with the occasional bit of personal insight. Thru that, I started to get to know a few more people. My activity waxed and waned over the years, but I was still somewhat known. Then this past year, my posting has more than doubled what it had been in the previous eight. I was making friends left and right and suddenly, that feeling of being an outsider was gone.
How did that happen? I always sucked at making friends. But there I was, surrounded by extended family all over the forum. The best time of my adult life was finally getting to meet some of them as well as meeting others. And it's all going to happen again in less than a month. It actually gives me a feeling of personal accomplishment.
Yeah I know, there's those of you out there who don't want to make friends. All you want is a place to voice your opinions and spank it to tickle material. Honestly, I pity you because you will never know how truly awesome it is to have people like these as actual friends. And those of you who say no one will talk to you and no one wants to be your friend, I call bullshit on you. If you're not making any friends then you aren't trying. Registering on the forum does not entitle you to have your ass kissed by everyone on the board.
What it DOES entitle you to is to mingle with the crowd and get yourself known. No, you don't need to have thousands of posts to do that. You just need to interact with others. Spot a post that someone made that is something that you agree with or something you're into besides tickling and start a conversation with them thru VMs or PMs. And believe me, no one will think you're gay if you PM someone of the same sex to chat. 🙄
Another thing to remember is you don't always have to chat about tickling. Sure, it's our common bond, but we're ALL regular people. We all have triumphs and tragedies, hopes and dreams, good times and bad times. And we all have other interests as well. Use that to build a friendship. Seriously people, if I can make friends, anyone can. Just don't act like a fucktard when you try to do it. So if you feel you're not making friends or no one wants to be your friend, chances are it's your own fault and you're doing it wrong.
