After my long round trip car trip, and extremely nerveracking day yesterday, I had the pleasure of having to e-mail my favorite person in the world today, my father... to begin the monthly battle over my mom's alimony. I thought that maybe I should do it.. as if it came from my mom, a sharp reply might upset her. It turns out, it didnt matter.
I politely asked him to please send the alimony. His reply was absolutely crazed. He gave me the whole "I'm 71 years old, physically and emotionally exhausted, and tired of being badgered by both Sheila and you". Complete and utter BS, as he doesnt even talk to me. He and his wench have had very quiet lives, for fourteen years, after causing his ex wife and son, serious harm. I exploded at him. I told him that he was cruel to play his games with the alimony at this time, and how disgraceful he was to "Drop out on me at such a time". When I was 12, after my grandfather passed away of cancer.. my father's mother sent me a letter accusing me of "inflicting a suffering man harm on the way to his grave". My father understood his mother attacking a 12 year old, because SHE was upset, but I have no right to be upset about my mom.
What makes the whole situation worse is my mom. My father inflicted serious harm on her.. but.. her biggest anger. is what he did to me.. Do people now understand why I love this woman so much, and want her to be healthy, and with me for a long time? SHE has cancer, and yet is worried about ME. My father, the fucking scumbag.. is only worried about himself. I keep telling her that she just needs to focus on taking treatment, and getting well. In 2009 I fell into the trap of seeing him. I KNOW I will not do that now.. because.., heaven help me, as God is my witness.. if I go down to meet him, and he threatens my mom's alimony again, as he has so many times in the past.. I'm seriously afraid I wont be able to contain myself, for all this threats, and harm., to my mom and me.
My father's biggest problem is this: Last year, when my mom was first diagnosed, I think he was counting on her taking the inadequate treatment offered in Lancaster, and their diagnosis of "Metastatic Lung Cancer", and was planning for God Forbid, her quick demise. Since my mom has been taking treatment in NJ, and, knock on wood, the treatment seems to be working, and, God Willing, her life is not in danger.. he had to drop me like a hot potato, and is angry, because his alimony payments continue. Fuck the SOB.
I dont know what is going to happen next. I'm trying to avoid all communication with him. I have a strong feeling that my mom is going to send him a letter, blasting him about his incivility to both her, and me. Even though my mom's prognosis is positive, I'm extremely glad not to have to talk to that Son of a Bitch once or twice a week on the phone, or to have to go to see him.
Hopefully, all will be quiet now until next Friday, so I can chill and focus on my life and mom's. I felt sick to my stomach today, probably a combination of too much chinese food at the buffet, the stress of yesterday, and having to email "Dad" today. I address him as nothing in my emails to him. He signs his emails.. "Alan".
Anyhow, so thats the vent. Hopefully, my mom can just rest between now and next Friday, before we see what happens next with her treatment.
Mitch
I politely asked him to please send the alimony. His reply was absolutely crazed. He gave me the whole "I'm 71 years old, physically and emotionally exhausted, and tired of being badgered by both Sheila and you". Complete and utter BS, as he doesnt even talk to me. He and his wench have had very quiet lives, for fourteen years, after causing his ex wife and son, serious harm. I exploded at him. I told him that he was cruel to play his games with the alimony at this time, and how disgraceful he was to "Drop out on me at such a time". When I was 12, after my grandfather passed away of cancer.. my father's mother sent me a letter accusing me of "inflicting a suffering man harm on the way to his grave". My father understood his mother attacking a 12 year old, because SHE was upset, but I have no right to be upset about my mom.
What makes the whole situation worse is my mom. My father inflicted serious harm on her.. but.. her biggest anger. is what he did to me.. Do people now understand why I love this woman so much, and want her to be healthy, and with me for a long time? SHE has cancer, and yet is worried about ME. My father, the fucking scumbag.. is only worried about himself. I keep telling her that she just needs to focus on taking treatment, and getting well. In 2009 I fell into the trap of seeing him. I KNOW I will not do that now.. because.., heaven help me, as God is my witness.. if I go down to meet him, and he threatens my mom's alimony again, as he has so many times in the past.. I'm seriously afraid I wont be able to contain myself, for all this threats, and harm., to my mom and me.
My father's biggest problem is this: Last year, when my mom was first diagnosed, I think he was counting on her taking the inadequate treatment offered in Lancaster, and their diagnosis of "Metastatic Lung Cancer", and was planning for God Forbid, her quick demise. Since my mom has been taking treatment in NJ, and, knock on wood, the treatment seems to be working, and, God Willing, her life is not in danger.. he had to drop me like a hot potato, and is angry, because his alimony payments continue. Fuck the SOB.
I dont know what is going to happen next. I'm trying to avoid all communication with him. I have a strong feeling that my mom is going to send him a letter, blasting him about his incivility to both her, and me. Even though my mom's prognosis is positive, I'm extremely glad not to have to talk to that Son of a Bitch once or twice a week on the phone, or to have to go to see him.
Hopefully, all will be quiet now until next Friday, so I can chill and focus on my life and mom's. I felt sick to my stomach today, probably a combination of too much chinese food at the buffet, the stress of yesterday, and having to email "Dad" today. I address him as nothing in my emails to him. He signs his emails.. "Alan".
Anyhow, so thats the vent. Hopefully, my mom can just rest between now and next Friday, before we see what happens next with her treatment.
Mitch
