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I like those stages. I think most of them
are pretty true.
I sent that list to Clare haha ...
She's totally going through stage 1 right now!
But ... I'm going to write
my own stages ... because those don't exactly
fit with my "broken heart". Lord knows he isn't my ex-boyfriend ...!
I will say this though:
Lately I've been feeling rejuvenated!
[well not about that whole job interview fail ...
"Oh, well we don't have any opening positions
until Fall or maybe the end of the year" ... FML]
But anyways ...
Stage ONE
"Blank" - I call this stage "blank" because this is the first point when you have all your feelings come flying towards you, which then makes you utterly emotionless because you aren't sure what you are supposed to be feeling. Sad? Angry? Happy? Insane? You really don't know. It's just kind of like you are in white room, alone, with no exit door.
Stage TWO
"BAM!" - This stage is called "BAM" because finally all those emotions hit you. This could come at anytime. Probably when you are least expecting it. And it's not just one emotion ... it's ALL of them, one right after the other. Your heart feels like it's barely beating. The good memories take over your mind and heart and it's like you are trapped in your own head. This is nottttt a fun stage!
Stage THREE
"Depression" - It may not be depression at it's highest, but you are definitely feeling all kinds of sadness right now. You're giving up on just about everything, not caring about anything, and just crying day after day. It seems endless. You are constantly questioning what went wrong, where is he now, is he going to call?, is he thinking about you?, has he been on the TMF at all?
Stage FOUR
"Music" - Basically, you are just listening to song after song that reminds you of him. Looking at pictures you took with him, while the music is playing. Lots of crying. No fun.
Stage FIVE
"RAWR" - About now you are wanting to KILL him. Literally take a knife and jam it into his heart about a million times so maybe he can feel an OUNCE of what you've been feeling for weeks. You actually look up how much it would cost to go where he is. Also, at this point you will probably start doing some things just out of anger. Ex: Writing a bitchy e-mail and sending it to him telling him how much you hate him. Or, you might just be constantly ranting to whoever will listen about how much you hate him, his soul, his name, his ears, the way he blinks ... the list goes on. And don't forget: throwing stuff. Lots of that. Just pushing things off desks, slamming doors, blasting music, and beating pillows.
Stage SIX
"Denial" - "What was I thinking? Of COURSE he still likes me. He is just not sure what he wants right now. I know, I know he hurt me, but that's okay! It doesn't matter. He'll come back." Here is where you just start pretending that this never happened. For me, this stage didn't last very long. But pretty much you just keep telling yourself this is all silliness and you believe he didn't hurt you. It's really hard to talk to people during this time, because they will be telling you the truth but you are so blind to it that you get mad at them for not seeing what you see.
Stage SEVEN
"Denial Part 2" - "IF he can be happy without me ... so can I! I'm happy too! I will totally just flirt with any guy and get any bit of attention because I don't need him!" This kind of sounds like an epiphany ... but it's not. Truth is, you just aren't over him yet and putting on this fake smile is only making you feel worse. You don't want another guy ... you want him. But you tell everyone you're over him completely and that you're fine. It's probably as far from the truth as you can go.
Stage EIGHT
"Death" - Not literally, but you sure as hell feel like it. This is NOT like depression stage. It's different. You're active, going out and what not, but a part of your liveliness, a part of YOU, just isn't present anymore. You start spacing off more, you don't put on any make up, you really just don't give a fuck. You're done and you have just given up. Basically, at this stage, if you died in 2 seconds you'd be perfectly fine with it. This, in my opinion, is the worst stage.
Stage NINE
"Epiphany" - This stage should totally rock. You finally have that self - realization that you are better off without him. It still stings when you think of the good times, it always will, but now you are ready to push through it. Finally, what people have been telling you day after day makes sense. You can do this. You are strong. There is someone better out there for you. You feel like everything will be okay. It's really an overall happy and warm feeling. You can finally smile again!
Stage TEN
"Pretty" - Now it's time to change your appearance because you feel you can finally move on with your life and you want to mark this stage by doing something dramatic. Want a new hairstyle? Go get it! Shopping spree? You deserve it. It's time to make your outside be as pretty and happy as you feel inside.